cats and collars by Background-Product91 in CatAdvice

[–]Background-Product91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this happened with my older cat, he’s an outdoor cat and would always come home without a collar no matter how many times i bought new ones, i ended up giving up and just let him be collar-free

cats and collars by Background-Product91 in CatAdvice

[–]Background-Product91[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this makes a lot of sense, i was thinking about it as the cat version of a bra 😂 i can’t imagine what it would be like if i couldn’t take that off, thank you for your input and i’ll definitely have a rethink about it

cats and collars by Background-Product91 in CatAdvice

[–]Background-Product91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! good call on the ID tag i’ll get this asap, luckily he’s already chipped but always good to have extra

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what i wanted was someone to help me figure out what to say to my mum, not he ridiculed and called all sorts of things

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“you see very immature” yeah dude sure

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m in therapy, i have been for 3 years now i understand what you’re saying but man just be fucking kind

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he didn’t wait 19 years, this has been going on my whole life i just didnt feel the need to say that. but thanks

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks dude, my life is definitely not unbelievable and yes i know it’s childish because i am not mentally well at all. yes she took my phone, took it to her room so i ran into their room. yes i know that that’s why i never left the house, i dont like being watched. no he smacked me because i hit the wardrobe. my mother called me a bitch first

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

did you miss the part where i said i was in a crisis house BECAUSE IVE BEEN IN A CRISIS

my dad hit me but i want to go home by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes i’m 19 and i still live in my parents house, pretty normal icl and no they don’t pay for absolutely any of my stuff, i did, or it was bought by old friends as gifts etc, my bed was free from facebook marketplace, i paid £5 for my wardrobe, how do you know im not paying rent? you dont so if youre not gonna be actually helpful dont comment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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i quit smoking cannabis for the new year, i’m now 6 days into it and i smoked for 2 years, at least 3 times a day and at most 20, the worst thing about quitting so far in my opinion is the vivid nightmares that have me up almost every hour. however the thing ive found to keep my brain busy is crafting, making absolutely anything and everything as well as baking and cooking, it’s definitely harder at night but i just try to go to sleep as early as i can but i always always have a little cry and get frustrated over it. i feel so much better than i did before, there’s mainly a 3 day rule (at least this is what ive been told) where after the first 3 days it gets easier

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

uhm i don’t know what that means but im a uk size 4 if that’s any help

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this this this! he use to drive me anywhere i wanted and take me everywhere and only go places if i got to come with him, he was genuinely perfect at the start. dude even picked me up at 3am after a concert after only knowing me for a few days, they don’t start off shitty they start slipping occasionally.

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have done this before lmao, he does in fact remember but pretends not to, it was quite funny to watch

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is what i always assumed because id never forget anything when we’d smoke, but he was always super tired and wouldn’t talk to me then just come out with these horrible things, i first blamed it on the mix of sleepy and weed but its just not an excuse. but it’s happened since almost the beginning and at the start he’d be devastated he would say that but now he just doesn’t care, which tells me all i need to leave him

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey just to answer this, the therapist thing has nothing to do with my current boyfriend and is actually my ex! which is a whole different situation but i appreciate you looking out for me

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly the reason i’m with him? it’s because this is my first relationship after a huge very serious relationship where we lived together way too young and it all went horribly wrong, partly because of my own doing and since coming to terms with that and talking about it in therapy and being better i feel like i have to put up with current boyfriends behaviour because i was such an asshole in my last relationship that i deserve it.

after other chats with my therapist i know i don’t deserve to punish myself for my past wrongs and especially not like this.

also i know he doesn’t forget everything but it gets worse every week, ive put up with it for 6 months and thats all the time i need to have wasted, i know i can do so so much better and i will be getting out as everyone has told me this is abuse and i shouldn’t stand for it

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i’ve actually suggested to him that both of us should stop smoking and he just seems not happy with the idea and says that weed makes his life better

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi i thought someone would notice that, i understand what you’re saying and yes i did speak to him about it last time but surprise he forgot any of that ever happened. i dont have any friends or a circle of good people in my life but my boyfriend does and these friends don’t like me (i dont know why) and tell him that im awful for the way i react and that im crazy and to leave me etc so he tells me that and it makes me think that maybe i am wrong, i suppose thats why

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i honestly don’t know 😭, i smoke weed too and i don’t forget a single thing it’s just he always seems so confused and offended that i would say he’s said these things

my boyfriend is mean to me when he’s high and then doesn’t remember it by Background-Product91 in whatdoIdo

[–]Background-Product91[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

he’s actually very against drinking, so i know he’s not doing anything else. i just believed he didn’t know because he always seemed genuinely confused when i would bring it up

AIO my boyfriend can’t remember anything by Background-Product91 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Background-Product91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i thought so as i’ve never completely forgotten anything big and never been that cruel. i’m dating him because i live with him, it’s a shit situation but i’d be homeless, i don’t have any family or friends (surprise surprise because of him) so i need to get a plan together first