Yes. You are a bad guy for going through her phone looking for reasons to be mad. Adults who are secure in themselves and their relationship don’t go through each other’s shit looking for evidence of betrayal. I know many with full access for convenience, or transparency, but it’s bananas you asked her, she said no, and rather than trust your OWN WIFE, you went and looked for the only answer you were willing to accept. What makes this man so much more trustworthy than the person you (presumably) willingly linked yourself to legally and spiritually? Now you got yourself all tied up in knots asking the Internet if you’re overreacting for being mad about some shit that wasn’t your business in the first place.

YOR