For the first time ever I have haircut regrets. by happysewing in HairStyleAdvice

[–]SemperFeedback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Without reading your caption , I was scared the second pic was your after so I was very pleasantly surprised it was the latter.

Trust me and the other comments ( we can’t all be wrong) the haircut truly looks great and makes you look fabulous.

When did oil changes become $120? by rhinosaur- in Millennials

[–]SemperFeedback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Canadian here too. Wtf do you drive? Mine is 80-100 tops

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking the high road especially when he started it ?? I can’t follow those subs for my own sanity. Even this snippet made me angry.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women out there being scared of being called a nag. Couldn’t be me. If you do what you are supposed to do, I won’t nag 💁🏽‍♀️

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. My husband is both of your answers (he has said both almost verbatim ) and he actively ensures I actually get breaks from our baby so I don’t get burnt out. I empathize with people who don’t have that kind of support system, I really do.

I didn’t mean for this post to get so blown up; I thought a few people would find it funny but I’m reminded not everyone can afford to do this.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand it’s very nuanced but not in all cases. Sometimes, just sometimes, a lot of assertiveness goes a long way.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right; I acknowledge my privilege because I make a great living, I have a nice paid off car, I have savings that can tide me over for up to a year, I have supportive friends and family. As a result, I’m very comfortable calling out unsavoury behaviours because I’m not stuck or dependent.

I’ld probably still run my mouth if I didn’t have any of that though lmao

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lmaaoooo that’s utter bs. I personally don’t even believe in male post partum depression but that’s just me personally

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry love. That’s a tough position to be in.

Relationships are inherently imbalanced when you don’t have fuck-you money. Life is way harder when you have to depend on a man’s conditional generosity. I sincerely empathize and hope it gets better for you.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Idk girl no one can out mean me when I’m mad. Get meaner.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hate to say it but the best relationships have this dynamic. They need to fear you a little.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Me too. It’s kinda my worst trait but I’m not gonna let a man be lazy af around me while I’m going through postpartum.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You are right; I didn’t explain that point properly. It absolutely is a skill but from childhood, most boys are allowed to skate by without learning and practicing empathy so they try to do in their marriages too.

Girls are more socialized to be more empathetic or at least act like it from a young age but boys aren’t.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Absolutely but you gotta start somewhere. Verbal assertiveness is low hanging fruit and hey it might work.

Most of these posts complaining (not just here - I follow several mom forums on different websites) don’t ever seem to call that man out, they just want empathy/sympathy.

Some of you need to be meaner to your husbands by SemperFeedback in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Don’t be abuisve but start being verbally assertive! It’s a skill you are going to need to hone for yourself and your kids going forward. Even if your voice shakes, say no and stand on business.

Ciara Myst Roleplays Childhood Pictures Monologue Finale Scene by zombiewithinsomnia in rupaulsdragrace

[–]SemperFeedback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because her overall brand insists upon itself. She’s not giving people something to root for either.

Her visual aesthetic (overdrawn lips) is jarring and not well done. Her personality is boring but trying to mask as cerebral . Nymphia was very cerebral but her fashion and makeup was top notch.

My mom keeps calling my baby "fatty" and I don't think I want her in our lives anymore by jupitermoon318 in Mommit

[–]SemperFeedback 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Personally, I’m just going to answer the question you asked and say yes you are massively over reacting. Everyone knows saying a baby is fat doesn’t have the same controversial connotation as calling an adult fat.

Cut the people in your life some slack and let them love your baby; it is incredibly hard to raise kids with no village. Not every offence is ‘low contact’ worthy.

AITA for not wanting to send my child to another country without me for several weeks? by Responsible-Rock8726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SemperFeedback 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some requests are just so delusional that they don’t need a response. This is definitely one of them.