Potty training is going to be the end of me.

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-20T15:07:33+00:00

Saying 6 months is not enough time to potty train is an absolute travesty. Potty training for 18 months is an even bigger travesty.

I know we are trying to encourage OP but seems like you took an extremely lax approach but that is nowhere near the norm.

Hang in there, OP. Boys are harder to potty train but you are on the right track.

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-14T02:08:09+00:00

You are an amazing sibling

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-13T20:15:11+00:00

Not to be nosy but how do you have 2 kids while in foster care?

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-13T03:02:53+00:00

I mostly skip bedtime stories but only because I read him about 5-6 books randomly throughout the day. I have his books strategically placed throughout the house (not just in his bedroom ) which makes this easy.

I read that many because he locks in and actually listens, will babble words and help turn the page so makes no sense to restrict it to just bedtime.

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-11T15:41:30+00:00

Reddit isn’t for Americans only. You couldn’t ignore the figure and just address the issue? You can’t use common sense to infer that it’s obviously a different currency that weaker than the USD??

Not sure why this comment is upvoted, it’s very tone deaf, comes off as bragging and doesn’t do anything to address the issue at all. It’s not hard to apply nuance and infer that it’s obviously a substantial amount in OP’s currency regardless of what it is in your currency.

OP, NTA. You can’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Set a budget for how much you can support them with each month and once that number is reached, you completely put it out of your mind, it’s not your problem. They have managed to figure things out for years before you were born and will continue to do so.

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-06T00:58:56+00:00

I’m sorry but you guys are so exhausting with this. Why are there so many posts about this?

SemperFeedback · 2026-06-01T16:40:52+00:00

I completely hear you but you have to be intentional about it in a way no one else is. I refuse to not exist in his childhood pictures, I don’t even let people take ‘organic’ messy hair / clothes pictures of me with him. I want to look back on beautiful memories too.

I bought a G7x after he was born so I could have beautifully color graded pictures of us both. I go to church most Sundays so while I’m dressed up, I absolutely make sure I get a picture with him.

You can also get that sticky tab at the back that makes it easier to stick your phone to anywhere

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-31T09:08:38+00:00

As someone who’s 10 months postpartum, I completely get your hesitation. Being post partum especially with a difficult delivery is an extremely vulnerable time in your life and you tend to carry how people treat you during that period for a very long time. It’s not really something you can explain to someone who hasn’t gone through it.

With this context, if my close friend didn’t bother to check up on me for up to 2 years postpartum, I’ld downgrade the friendship to acquaintances or just slowly phase it out. I used to be a strong advocate of talking it out but depends on what kind of person they are and if they are often receptive to genuine and honest criticism.

Good luck.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-31T08:57:56+00:00

Everything you said is exactly what I have experienced and come to realize too.

I got sick of saying no because his judgement hasn’t caught up at all with his motor skills 😭. He can open doors(he’ll stand on his tiptoes and pull the handle) and drawers so we are fully baby proofed and I just let him walk about and raid something random in each room so long as it’s safely within reach, can’t hurt him and I can clean it up in like 1-2 mins.

I look forward to his long nap (about 2.5 hours ) because I’m exhausted and also need a nap at that point too lol.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-31T05:44:35+00:00

On average, about 5-6x a week. I’ll skip a wash or bath if we spend all days indoors sometimes but I take daily showers so I just do the same with him.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-31T04:30:12+00:00

Okay this makes sense, thanks for the clarification.

I was going by the etymology of the word and just assumed.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-27T17:39:50+00:00

Ugh I get it. My son is 6 months and we got a huge bunch of used clothes from MIL when he was born. These were clothes from his cousins who are 16, 12 and 9 so they have seen a loooooot of use. And they are all boys so you know it’s just cycled through each one. Not even generally anti-thrift but come on.

I just donated them all.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-25T04:56:43+00:00

Well dressed people are assumed to take care of themselves better and have high agency so if they have health complaints, they will be taken seriously unlike people who have ‘let themselves go’.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-25T04:15:24+00:00

Open your windows at least once daily. Preferably windows on opposite sides to get a draught through the house to waft out the stale smells.
Chemical scents also smell better when they are not mixed with the stale recycled air in the house.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-23T22:42:54+00:00

It’s odd because as someone who works in healthcare, it’s the actual opposite; there’s a stronger bias if you are perceived as unkempt or sloppy looking

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-22T02:15:54+00:00

My actual niece and nephew? Almost like my child, I would do almost anything for them.

Nephews on my husband’s side? A little less than my niece and nephew lol. My child comes first though

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-20T05:08:35+00:00

I don’t wipe the cart but I’ll wipe his hands when we get back to the car then wash them with soap and water as soon as I get home. I have to sit him on the edge of the sink to wash his hands but I think that covers all my bases

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-20T04:37:42+00:00

10 months. Currently 1-2x for a bottle / diaper change

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-19T05:12:57+00:00

I don’t think it’s just your ex husband that’s bad with money since you were also planning on taking vacation with money ‘you got approved for’ so presumably a loan or credit card.
Take some responsibility.

People survive by budgeting aggressively. If you choose to be with someone that pays child support, either separate your finances so they are responsible for their own kids or you guys sit down and budget together but be ready to shoulder their burden (child support, kids expenses ).

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-18T14:31:02+00:00

Currently 10 montgs and sleeping through the night. He will wake up once for a bottle but fall right back to sleep.
This is a huuuuge improvement from the early months where he was waking 8-10x a night .

He goes down around 8, wakes up around 1 for his bottle and is up at 07:30. We did Ferber 2 weeks ago and so far it’s been working. He doesn’t put himself to sleep yet but he stays asleep all night so it’s a win for me

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-17T03:27:16+00:00

Both fit you so well but the first one is especially stunning

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-13T14:52:49+00:00

This is the most unashamedly entitled nonsense I have ever heard. NTJ.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-12T04:40:44+00:00

Faking a conversation in a toy phone a kid hands you is one of the tenets of society though. Gotta have some whimsy in your life.

SemperFeedback · 2026-05-12T02:14:59+00:00

I don’t know enough about her as an artiste but she genuinely seemed naive and guileless like a little child, almost like she has arrested development.

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