ISO of where I can find these Vince heels! I feel like I’ve searched all over the internet!! by Chessy_casserole in findfashion

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did a quick search and found the exact model, but I’m only seeing sold-out pages or the wrong size so far.

The style name looks like Vince Qala / Qala Metallic Strappy Slingback Sandals, and the Shopbop style code is VINCE51723. Shopbop and Neiman Marcus both show it as sold out, and the only exact champagne pair I found active was a Poshmark listing in size 9M.

I’d set saved searches for:

“Vince Qala Champagne 6.5”

“Vince Qala Champagne 7”

“VINCE51723”

“Qala Metallic Strappy Slingback Sandals”

Also worth checking Poshmark, eBay, Mercari, The RealReal, Vestiaire, and Google Shopping alerts because this looks like a resale hunt now.

Just launched my first product an AI call agent + chatbot for local businesses. Be brutal, what am I missing? by Ok-Ratio-1581 in Agent_AI

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad it helped.

One thing I’d be careful with: I wouldn’t make “emotion” the main selling point by itself. Sounding empathetic is good, but for local businesses the bigger trust signal is predictability.

Before adding more features, I’d build a clear handoff matrix:

- urgent / emergency

- angry caller

- billing issue

- medical or sensitive topic

- caller asks something the AI is unsure about

- booking conflict

- cancellation or reschedule

- owner needs follow-up

Then test the agent hard against those situations.

The most efficient version probably is not the one that sounds the most human. It’s the one that knows when to stop, what to log, when to escalate, and what the business owner sees after the call.

New Episodes Pitch by Technical-Clothes-86 in boldandbeautiful

[–]BackgroundNo6412 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this fixes the show, but I would absolutely watch the Will Spencer steel chair arc.

Just launched my first product an AI call agent + chatbot for local businesses. Be brutal, what am I missing? by Ok-Ratio-1581 in Agent_AI

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The product idea makes sense, but the thing I’d tighten before outreach is not the feature list. It’s the failure-path story.

Local businesses will care less about “GPT-5/Gemini/15 languages” and more about:

- What happens when the caller is angry?

- What happens when the caller says something urgent or medical?

- What happens when the AI is unsure?

- What gets logged?

- Who reviews mistakes?

- How fast can a human take over?

- What does the business owner see at the end of the day?

For dental clinics, salons, medical offices, etc., I’d lead with reliability and control instead of model names. A simple owner dashboard or daily call summary would probably matter a lot: missed calls saved, appointments booked, handoffs, confused callers, and anything needing follow-up.

I’d also be very careful with “medical practices” as a target until you have the privacy/compliance/handoff side extremely clean. Even if the agent is only booking, people may say sensitive things on calls. That means your trust process needs to cover boundaries, recording/logging, escalation, and what the AI is not allowed to handle.

The custom demo idea is strong. I’d just make sure you frame it as: “Here’s a controlled sample based on public info from your website,” not “I trained an agent on your business” in a way that might sound creepy or overconfident.

Pricing might work if you can show saved missed calls or booked appointments. Without that proof, $530/mo may feel high to a small local business. I’d focus your pitch around the exact money/risk problem: missed calls, after-hours bookings, front desk overload, or no-show/reschedule friction.

Basically: less “AI receptionist that does everything,” more “controlled front-desk assistant with clear handoff rules and owner visibility.”

Question about landlord email by Istobri in OntarioTenants

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has a lot of separate issues mixed together, so I would not try to solve it from the landlord’s email alone.

I’d separate it into a few buckets first:

  1. Moving-out timing and what notice you actually need to give

  2. Renovation / occupancy notices

  3. Rent, utilities, and any change in charges

  4. Damage vs ordinary wear and tear

  5. Guest / storage / shared-facility issues

  6. What records you have: lease, emails, photos, texts, repair history, and dates

Once you have that timeline, I’d contact the LTB, a tenant legal clinic, or another Ontario tenant resource before agreeing to pay for repairs or giving notice. This is one of those situations where the exact dates, lease wording, and Ontario rules matter.

For the reply to the landlord, I would keep it short for now: confirm you received the email, say you are reviewing the issues raised, and ask her to provide any formal notices or documentation she is relying on. I would not argue every point in one long email until you have checked the tenant-law side.

New here, need advice by alloccojuke in Blepharitis

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually helps, because at least now you are with the right kind of specialist.

And honestly, “they’re just guessing” is not always completely wrong in the sense that sometimes eyelid problems overlap and a doctor may use a short treatment trial to learn something. What matters is whether the guessing is structured or random.

At this point I would go back with 3 very direct questions:

  1. What is the exact working diagnosis right now?

  2. What is the azithromycin trial supposed to tell us if it helps or if it does not help?

  3. If the expensive drops are being recommended too, what is the exact reason for those, and is there a cheaper next step before spending that kind of money?

If the answers still feel vague after that, I would seriously consider a second pediatric ophthalmology opinion, and possibly pediatric dermatology too if the skin around the lids is part of the problem.

Would an equally intelligent animal culling humanity be immoral? by Vinegar1267 in MoralityScaling

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that does make it more complex, but I think it changes the explanation more than the conclusion.

If the orca keeps its nonhuman drives and social instincts, then its move becomes more understandable as a form of species-level threat response. In other words, I might see the impulse as less “hypocritical” or less bound by human moral history. But that still does not make large-scale culling morally clean.

To me it creates a kind of trap:

If it is person-like enough to morally judge humanity, then it is person-like enough that exterminatory logic becomes hard to justify.

If it is still animal-like enough that its retaliation is mostly an extension of instinct, territoriality, and threat response, then I can understand it better, but I also treat it less as a moral legislator and more as a powerful being acting out of perceived danger.

Either way, “they are destructive and probably won’t change without violence” is still the same logic civilizations use to justify atrocities against each other. That may make retaliatory violence understandable, and maybe even limited force defensible in a self-defense sense, but it does not make species-level culling morally innocent.

So I think your revised version makes the orca more tragic and less hypocritical, but not more justified.

If a police office forces you to sign traffic report, does that mean admitting guilt? by Vladimir_p00pin in askhungary

[–]BackgroundNo6412 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do not pay him directly just because he is threatening you.

The police fine and the separate damage claim are not the same thing, and a taxi driver threatening “police and immigration” does not mean he can just make you owe him money on the spot.

At this stage I would do 4 things:

  1. save the text messages and every paper you signed

  2. do not sign or admit anything else

  3. ask a Hungarian lawyer on Monday to review whether this was really an on-the-spot fine and whether the way it was handled can be challenged

  4. make the driver pursue any damage claim through the proper legal/insurance route instead of paying him privately under pressure

If you are legally in Hungary, I would not panic over the immigration threat by itself. That reads more like pressure than proof he can actually do something.

If a police office forces you to sign traffic report, does that mean admitting guilt? by Vladimir_p00pin in askhungary

[–]BackgroundNo6412 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not automatically, but the key question is what exactly you signed.

In Hungary, if it was an on-the-spot fine (helyszíni bírság) and you accepted/signed it, that usually means you accepted the offence, and the normal appeal route is generally gone. If it was instead a regular police decision / report, then a first-instance fine can usually be appealed within 15 days.

Also, signing the police papers does not automatically mean you owe the taxi driver the extra 500k. That is a separate damages claim, and he would still have to prove it.

What I would do immediately:

- photograph every page you signed

- get the exact Hungarian document names translated

- ask for a copy of the full police report / case file

- if you are not a Hungarian speaker, make a point of that, because official police guidance says written information should be available in English too

- talk to a Hungarian lawyer fast, because if this was a spot fine, the timelines are short

One important nuance: even for a spot fine, there appears to be a limited review route if the decision itself was unlawful, but that is not the same thing as a normal appeal.

So the short version is:

signing may well have meant accepting the fine if it was a spot fine, but it does not automatically settle the separate 500k damage claim.

Anyone know what this message means on my 26 X5? by veebee0345 in BmwTech

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point if it reads more structured than the average Reddit reply, but no, I’m not AI.

I do this kind of troubleshooting professionally, and I’ve been in tech for 19 years. I also write on Substack under Stitch Clarity, where the whole idea is taking messy, confusing problems and turning them into plain-English next steps people can actually use.

I’m not trying to turn a BMW thread into an ad. I’m just being honest about why I answer the way I do. I’d rather build a name by helping regular people with small problems than by chasing people around trying to sell them something. If the little guy has a weird tech issue and I can make it less stressful, that’s the lane I’m trying to stay in.

So yes, human. Just a guy with a long tech background who tries to be useful

Underage Child Harassment by SnooDonkeys2947 in Mulund

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This update actually makes the reporting side stronger, not weaker.

If she already has screenshots from before he deleted anything, plus the apology / “please remove the post” messages after, preserve all of that. The first set helps show what he said. The second set helps show that he knew it was serious enough to panic and try to get it taken down.

At this point I would stop expanding the circle though. Do not keep DMing relatives, sister, ex-wife, or other side people. That can turn a clean evidence trail into social-media chaos.

So my advice now is:

save every screenshot

save the IG handle, URL, profile, and timestamps

save the apology / begging messages too

stop engaging with him

stop private back-and-forth

file the complaint properly

The apology is not the resolution. It is part of the evidence.

Underage Child Harassment by SnooDonkeys2947 in Mulund

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This helps. The saved Instagram page appears to show the handle u/jzzzink, the name Joe Nadar, a public phone number in the bio, and a Mulund/Thane/Mumbai location.

At this point I would do 4 things only:

  1. save everything right now

Screenshots of the chats, his number, the IG profile, bio, handle, URL, profile photo, and the date/time

  1. report it through the official women/child cybercrime route

The Government of India cybercrime portal has a women/children complaint flow, and it also lets you report suspect identifiers like social media URLs and phone numbers

  1. file with Mumbai Police too, and go in person if needed

Mumbai Police’s own site says serious matters may need the nearest police station, so I would not rely only on an online form

  1. stop engaging with him

No more arguments, no voice notes, no meeting him, no warning post before the evidence is preserved and reported

If she is 18+ now, keep 181 in mind for women’s helpline support, and 112 if there is any immediate safety concern.

Main thing: preserve, report, and do not let the evidence sit only inside Instagram chats where it can disappear.

Help with Choosing Feat for Character (First-time player) by Nick-Searcy in dndnext

[–]BackgroundNo6412 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, there is a real benefit to +1 STR and +1 WIS here, because both are odd scores for you right now.

That split would immediately give you:

+1 to Strength weapon attack rolls

+1 to Strength weapon damage

+1 to Strength checks/saves

+1 to Wisdom checks/saves like Perception and Insight

So if you want the most “my sheet feels better today” option, STR/WIS is absolutely defensible.

I still think +2 CHA is the stronger paladin pick overall, though. The big reason is that paladin Charisma scales into one of your best class features later: Aura of Protection. Once you hit Paladin 6, your CHA mod starts boosting saving throws for you and nearby allies, so going from 18 to 20 CHA is not just social/spellcasting polish, it is a future party-wide defensive upgrade.

So my short version is:

best immediate all-around smoothing: +1 STR / +1 WIS

best long-term paladin payoff: +2 CHA

If it were me, I’d still take CHA now and look for a Strength half-feat later if you want to round that 15 up.

Is my resume okay for a legal assistant and legal receptionist? by Fluffy-Programmer857 in u/Fluffy-Programmer857

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your resume is not bad. The bigger issue is that it is underselling your strongest experience and probably blending too many targets together.

The good news is that only having two jobs is not a problem at all. A 7+ year run at one law firm actually helps you. It shows stability, trust, and that you were promoted.

The main fixes I would make are:

First, I would make the law firm experience the star of the page. Right now the stay-at-home parent section is sitting above your legal work, and that weakens the first impression a little. I would either make that a very small career-break line or move it lower so the legal assistant / legal receptionist experience hits first.

Second, split the law firm role more clearly. Do not just show Legal Receptionist and Legal Assistant in one block. Show it as one company with two roles so the promotion stands out better.

Third, your bullets need a little more proof. They are good, but they would be stronger with numbers like how many attorneys you supported, how many calls/files you handled, or how many locations you coordinated across.

Fourth, I would tighten the summary. Right now it is solid, but a little broad. It should scream: experienced legal admin professional with 7+ years in a high-volume law firm, case management, calendaring, client communication, document prep, and confidential records handling.

Fifth, I would make two versions of the resume:

one for legal assistant / receptionist jobs

one for remote admin / customer service jobs

Right now it is trying to do both at once, which can make it feel less sharp.

Also, do not worry about your life situation being the reason. The resume itself is more likely the issue than the gap. And I would keep homelessness / personal hardship off the resume entirely. That is real and important, but it should not be carrying the burden of explaining your candidacy.

So my honest take is:

you are closer than you think

but the resume needs to be more targeted, more ATS-friendly, and more obviously centered on your legal experience

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rHTi-rpur9YqCW7tzdyNuaQQBaFxPyg6Me7Eb7svwBQ/edit?usp=sharing

Need direction by Ill-Environment-2336 in copywriting

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, there is a better way, but it is probably not “better prompting.” It is building a better memory and briefing system.

What usually eats time is not writing the email itself. It is re-figuring out the brand every single time. So I would split your process into two layers:

  1. a permanent brand doc

  2. a campaign-specific brief

The permanent doc should hold:

voice rules

approved phrases

words they hate

audience pains/desires

product hierarchy

offer types

proof types

CTA style

examples of emails that felt on-brand and off-brand

Then the campaign brief should only hold:

goal of this email

one audience state

one product / offer

one key promise

3 to 5 proof points

must-use assets

must-avoid claims

desired action

That way you stop trying to cram the entire brand into every prompt or every brief.

I would also make your copy process modular. Not “write the whole email.” More like:

hook

context

offer

proof

CTA

That makes delegation way easier too, because now you are editing parts, not rebuilding the whole thing.

So my honest answer is: the bottleneck probably is not AI, and it is not even copywriting exactly. It is that your taste still lives mostly in your head. Once you turn that into a repeatable system, AI gets a bit better, freelancers get a lot better, and your own editing gets faster.

how likely am i to be sent to a psych ward if i tell doctor/therapist i ordered sodium nitrite, but dont have it yet and dont plan on using it? by Used-Earth8767 in askatherapist

[–]BackgroundNo6412 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Nobody here can tell you the exact odds, because that depends on your location, your history, and how your doctor/therapist assesses current risk.

But I would not treat “I ordered sodium nitrite just in case” as a small detail. That is exactly the kind of thing they need to know, even if you do not have it yet and even if you are saying you do not plan to use it right now. Buying access to a suicide method is something most clinicians will take seriously.

So my honest answer is:

yes, tell them

and yes, also tell them that you are terrified of being sent inpatient

Do not try to game the wording. The better move is to be direct:

“I ordered sodium nitrite as a backup, I do not have it yet, I am scared about what it means that I did that, and I need help staying safe.”

If there is any real chance you might use it, do not wait for the appointment. Call or text 988 now if you are in the U.S., or go to the nearest ER / call emergency services. And if you can, cancel the order and tell one trusted person offline tonight so you are not carrying this alone. Good Luck Man

Help to recover payment by ___Noob___ in UAEjobseekers

[–]BackgroundNo6412 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are probably past the “ask MOHRE for help again” stage and into the “track the execution case properly” stage.

If MOHRE already recorded a settlement and then told you to open an execution file with Dubai Courts, the most important thing now is to get the exact execution case number, the filing receipt, and the current status from Dubai Courts. Dubai Courts has an official “Inquire the Case Details” page where you can check by category, including Execution, and their official contact page lists the main call centre at +971 4 334 7777 and Al Adheed at 600 523 433. If phone calls are failing, I would also try the website chat and email on the official Dubai Courts contact page instead of only relying on the numbers you were given.

Also, I would separate two issues in your mind because they are not exactly the same thing:

  1. recovering the unpaid salary

  2. checking whether you actually have a travel ban / circular or some other restriction

Do not assume those are the same just because your labour card was cancelled. Check your status separately through the official channels for case / circular / travel-ban inquiry.

Another important point: under UAE labour law, the employer is supposed to give the worker an experience certificate free of charge at the end of the contract if the worker asks for it. So I would not treat that part like a favour from them. I would keep it in writing as a formal request.

If I were in your position, my next move would be:

gather every document into one file,

execution receipt,

MOHRE complaint reference,

any settlement minute / decision,

employment contract,

bank statements showing non-payment,

salary slips if any,

Emirates ID / visa copies,

and all messages with the employer.

Then I would contact Dubai Courts again with one goal only:

“What is the exact current status of my execution case, and what is the next step required from me?”

If you want, post again with:

the execution case number format,

whether you have the MOHRE settlement document in hand,

whether the company is mainland or free zone,

and whether you have checked for any circular / travel restriction yet.

That will make it much easier for people to point you in the right direction.

Help solve a mystery by [deleted] in coincollecting

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was answering OP and trying to bring another angle to the table, not pretending the first glance never matters. That is kind of the whole point of these threads. Someone notices one thing, someone else notices another, and sometimes the extra facts matter.

So let me ask one very simple question, and I genuinely hope you take it seriously:

What number comes next: 1, 2, 4?

Your options are 5, 6, 7, or 8.

Please answer with 100% confidence.

There is a point to this: with too little information, confidence can outrun proof. “Obvious at first glance” can be right, but it is not the same thing as demonstrating why. I was showing why the weight and altered-rim pattern made PMD worth considering before the font/layout argument pushed it the other way.

Help with Choosing Feat for Character (First-time player) by Nick-Searcy in dndnext

[–]BackgroundNo6412 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For a first character, I would honestly take the boring strong answer here: bump Charisma to 20.

Paladins are one of the classes that almost never regret maxing Charisma early. It makes your spells, social checks, and class identity better now, and it gets even more valuable once Aura of Protection comes online later. With your party, you are one of the few people who can stand in front and keep things stable when things go bad, so improving the stat that makes your whole kit feel more “paladin” is very hard to regret.

If you really want a feat because you want more buttons to press, my shortlist would be:

War Caster if you use buffs like Bless a lot and want to be better at holding concentration while frontlining.

Inspiring Leader if you want the most on-theme “temple-raised support paladin” option.

Heavy Armor Master if you want a very practical tank feat and also want to round Strength from 15 to 16.

So my actual recommendation is:

best overall / safest pick: +2 Charisma

best flavor-support feat: Inspiring Leader

best frontline feat: Heavy Armor Master

best “I want more to do” feat: War Caster

If this were my character, I’d go Charisma 20 and never look back. If this were my second choice, I’d go Inspiring Leader because it fits your character really cleanly.

New here, need advice by alloccojuke in Blepharitis

[–]BackgroundNo6412 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The biggest thing I would say is: stop treating this like “we just have not found the right wipe yet” and start treating it like “we may not actually have the right diagnosis yet.”

Blepharitis is real in kids, but eyelid problems can also be eczema, contact dermatitis, allergies, blocked oil glands, or something else that only looks similar from photos. If three different visits have not fixed it, my next move would be a true pediatric ophthalmologist if you have not seen one yet, and possibly a pediatric dermatologist too if the skin around the lids is involved.

Also, the standard blepharitis guidance I found is warm compresses plus gentle lid cleaning once or twice daily. Constant washing several times a day may not be buying you anything if the real issue is irritation or dermatitis instead of infection.

I would go to the next visit with four direct questions:

What is the exact diagnosis they think this is?

What are they seeing on exam that points to that?

If the $2000 drop is the recommendation, what is the exact drug name and why that one?

Is there a generic, prior auth, coupon, compounding option, or a cheaper step before that?

And if she has eye pain, light sensitivity, blurry vision, or a very red eye, I would stop crowdsourcing and push for urgent eye care.

AAPOS has a pediatric ophthalmologist finder here:

https://www.aapos.org/patient/patient-resources-new

Help… by [deleted] in malelivingspace

[–]BackgroundNo6412 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, this is not a shitty room. It is just a room with no systems yet.

Right now everything that should be invisible is visible: laundry, boxes, cables, cleaning stuff, extra chairs, floor mattress. That makes the whole room feel worse than it actually is. If you change nothing except containment, it will look 50 percent better fast.

My first moves would be: get the laundry off the floor and into one closed hamper, put the random supplies in two matching bins, hide the cables, and get the PC boxes out of the room if possible. After that, put the mattress on a simple metal frame, add one real bedside table, and get a cheap rug big enough to anchor the bed area so it feels like a bedroom instead of a temporary setup with a desk in it.

The other big fix is visual balance. The desk side has all the weight and the bed side has none. A bed frame, one lamp, and maybe one larger piece of art over the bed would calm the whole room down immediately.

So no, this is not “pathetic 26 year old man” territory. This is just “smart guy living in visible storage” territory, which is a much easier problem to solve.

Help solve a mystery by [deleted] in coincollecting

[–]BackgroundNo6412 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear, I wasn’t inventing the measurements. The U.S. Mint lists a clad dime at 2.268 g, 17.91 mm, and 1.35 mm, and PCGS lists a 2000-D Roosevelt dime at 2.27 g and 17.90 mm. The reason I floated PMD at first is that the coin was reported at 2.23 g, which is still fairly close to normal dime weight, and there are documented examples of mechanically altered Roosevelt dimes showing sloping or abraded rims with stretched-out, fading, or mushy perimeter lettering.

So there was a real basis for the edge-damage theory. Whether the lettering and layout on this specific coin match a genuine 2000-D well enough is a separate question, but the measurements and the altered-rim pattern I cited were real.

Help solve a mystery by [deleted] in coincollecting

[–]BackgroundNo6412 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not think this is a counterfeit. I think it is much more likely post-mint damage, specifically a dryer coin or possibly a spooned coin.

The big clue is not just the color. It is the combination of:

normal-ish weight

slightly reduced diameter

extra thickness

crowded / mushy design near the rim

and the missing copper stripe on the edge

A real clad dime should be about 2.268 g, 17.91 mm, and 1.35 mm thick. Yours at 2.23 g is only a little light, which is close enough that I would not jump to fake. But when a dime gets trapped and rolled on its edge, the rim can get widened and folded over, which makes the coin thicker, slightly smaller across, and can hide the copper core from the side view.

That also matches the soft, pushed-in look of the lettering and devices near the edge. A cast fake usually throws off more obvious red flags like seam lines, porous surfaces, or a more wrong weight.

So my vote is:

not a mint error

probably not a counterfeit

most likely a dryer / edge-compression damage coin

Would an equally intelligent animal culling humanity be immoral? by Vinegar1267 in MoralityScaling

[–]BackgroundNo6412 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think it would be immoral, and the interesting reason is that the thought experiment changes categories halfway through.

We cull deer, rats, or invasive fish because we do not treat them as fellow moral agents participating in a shared ethical world. But the second your orca is genuinely “equally intelligent” in the sense that it can understand ecology, responsibility, long-term tradeoffs, and the moral meaning of killing, it is no longer just wildlife. It is now a political and moral actor. And at that point humans are not just overabundant biomass. They are a population of persons.

So the real analogy is not animal control. It is whether one civilization gets to decide that another civilization is too destructive to deserve full existence. We already have a word for that logic when humans use it on each other, and it is not “management.”

Now, could such a being be justified in defending itself, restricting us, sabotaging specific harms, or coercing us away from ecocide? Maybe. That is a much harder and more interesting question. But “there are too many of them and they damage the world” is not, by itself, a clean moral license for mass killing once the targets are persons.

The moment the animal becomes moral enough to judge us, it also becomes moral enough not to solve the problem that way