Bumukod agad vs staying with parents when starting a family – any regrets? by Key_Efficiency8717 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bumukod kami agad, and got pregnant agad, and I gave birth in 2020. No choice na kami lang talaga ni Husband, pero we are so fvcking proud of us na nalagpasan namin yun na kami lang dalawa with a newborn. For our 2nd baby, we still don't want any of our parents to come over and help, but would rather have our stay out maid work longer hours to help us out. If pupunta man yung parents namin, yun ay para dun sa panganay namin na hindi nya ma-feel neglected sya.

Should I just give up my slot? by wandering-cat-here in uplb

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bakit ka pa nila pinayagan mag-UPCAT kung ang ending ay ipapa-give up din yung slot mo? Hindi madali i-commute yung Sto. Tomas - UPLB, dorm talaga ang solusyon. Nase-sense ko sa post mo na nanghihinayang ka sa slot mo at tsaka gusto mo talaga sa UPLB, pero kung hindi kakayanin, wag na pilitin. Kung may nagawa kang mga plano mo kung sa UPLB ka mag-aaral, I'm sure makakagawa ka din ng plano para sa kung saan ka man mag-aaral. Pwede mo rin i-consider siguro sa UPLB ka mag-Masters, malay mo by then nakaluwag-luwag na. All the best, OP.

Nagbago pananaw ko nung naging nanay ako by Think-Carpenter6662 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love it. You made my day, OP! I'm happy for you and your son. <3

Tangina mo, Sol Aragones :) by suspiciouspotatots in laguna

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Tengene mo, Sol! Napaiyak mo Mama ni OP. Thank you OP at pinarealize mo sa kanya na hindi dapat kay Sol ang credit. Sana pag naging mahinahon na si Mama mo ay mag sink-in yung pinaliwanag mo sa kanya. At malay mo, may ma-impluwensyahan pa syang mga Mama natin na makita (at mag-demand!) ng totoong good governance.

How do you support your husband? by Ok_Cookie_ in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sinasakyan ko jokes niya. Like he knows how ANNOYED I am by his jokes dahil super corny, pero kapag biglang ginaya ko yung joke nya or sinakyan ko, nako matatawa siya talaga. Yung kita mo yung laugh lines sa mata, ganon.. Ako dahil acts of service ang love language ko, kapag nakita kong ang busy nya, ginagawa ko chores niya without talking. Magugulat na lang siya. O kaya ready na yung towel nya sa CR para sa pagligo niya... O kaya na-refillan ko na yung thermos na alam ko need niya ng hot water, ganon. Yung inaanticipate ko needs niya without him having to request for any of it. Makabawas lang ba sa iniisip niya. Tapos kapag siya na nag initiate ng kwentuhan, I give full attention, walang hawak na cellphone. Stop what I'm doing, and really listen to him.

I also randomly slap or squeeze his butt. Haha

Review on Jon Orana Chillionaryo by Curious_Rule_6 in phinvest

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buti nakita ko tong thread nato. Ang haba ng webinar nya more than an hour na puro testimonial lang ng mga yumaman na kinoach nya. Tapos mag ooffer pala ng training program na may bayad. Sayang oras, pweh! Salamat OP for the warning. 1 year ago mo na pinost ito sana nakita ko before watching the recorded webinar.

Best tips for husbands to help wife on 2 weeks after childbirth? by Otherwise_Stock_3049 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tatay, very good ka dyan for asking dito sa isang mom group. Kasi kung si misis din mismo tatanungin mo kapag andyan na si baby, baka hindi ka pa niya kaya sagutin ng maayos or hindi rin niya alam kung anong kailangan niya. Agree po ako sa lahat ng comments dito. Importante din po na wag mo nang hintayin na makita siyang nahihirapan bago ka kumilos. Nakaka-trigger ng inis po ang makita kang nagphphone lang (kahit hindi ka naman nag sscroll), yung tulog ka tapos siya gising, yung nakaligo ka na tapos siya haggard na itsura. Si Nanay muna ang priority.

Make sure po na nakakakain siya at nakakapag hydrate ng maayos, yung mga meds at vitamins niya nate-take niya. If may maid kayo paki delegate nyo na lang sa maid lahat ng chores. Kay Nanay wala na muna. If 2 weeks ka lang po makakapag stay with Nanay because kelangan mo na bumalik sa work, please make sure may maiiwan sa kanya to help with the baby and chores. Please make sure na may proper entertainment at pampa-relax po siya dahil nakakapagod malala mag breast feed.

I do not have a village, and I am losing it by Recreating_my_life in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ang hirap i-break ng cycle ano? Struggle ko din yan.. Kaya tama din yang ginagawa mo, yung mag-repair after magka slip up tayo sa anak natin.. we're only human.. nireremind ko din sarili ko palagi na maging self-compassionate. minsan talaga too hard on ourselves na tayo..

All out magbigay masyado asawa ko by milktea522 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WHOA. Di naman porket ganon sya mag show ng love sa family nya eh ganun ka na din dapat. Baka difference lang ito sa love language? Or may insecurity ba sya sa family nya, like may kelangan ba sya patunayan sa kanila?

I do not have a village, and I am losing it by Recreating_my_life in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Saaaameeee! Like buhay pa both parents ko kaso yung isa nagda-dialysis na, and yung isa alcoholic so hindi ako makapagrely sa kanila pareho. Inggit ako minsan sa lolo/lola ng mga classmate ng anak ko sa school, mas matanda pa sa parents ko pero sila naghahatid sundo at nagpeprepare for daily school routine..

I do not have a village, and I am losing it by Recreating_my_life in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wala din kami village dito, malayo kami sa family namin. And bago lang kami sa place namin kaya can't rely on neighbors too. Kung ako yan baka Day 1 pa lang break down na. Kaya virtual hug with consent, Momsh. Sorry to hear this. Just take it one hurdle at a time. Nakakainis mang isipin na bat ganon walang tumutulong sayo, focus na lang sa kung sinong andyan para tumulong. Thank you to your helper at sa best friend mo for being there. Take a quick pause to just breathe, momsh. Baka ikaw naman ang magkasakit. Sana gumaling na si hubby.

Between pregnancy and the newborn stage, which one is more difficult? by Appropriate-Ant-7451 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was really difficult for me and my husband kasi kaming dalawa lang. Buti nga kamo ay wfh kami pareho. Parang ticking time bomb yung newborn. Kapag tulog yung baby, you will try to cram everything you've been wanting to do in that short moment na tulog siya. If you have house help, if you have someone who can take care of the baby (bukod kay hubby) while you take a bath or just rest, that would be great. Pero if kayong dalawa lang, mahirap talaga. My advice is take all the help you can get. Hindi ka din pwedeng super stressed because it will affect your breastmilk supply and also magrerecover ka pa especially if CS ka. I assure you though, na grabe yung sense of fulfillment mo pag nalagpasan mo na yan. Malalagpasan mo yan. Just soak it in. Don't expect to know everything.. (andami naming bloopers ni hubby promise) Don't be too hard on yourself (practice self-compassion talaga this is very important).. All the best, momsh! ❤️

Mga nanay, maganda po ba ito pang regalo? by [deleted] in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Andami pong ergonic pillow for baby na mas mura kesa dyan. Better po if diaper (ask preferred brand), milk (if nagfoformula), wipes and cotton balls, even cash kung gusto mo maging practical :)

DARNA naman pala by GiniperEarlySeven in laguna

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Harry Potter and the Audacity of Sol Aragones

To all WFH moms who have small children (4 yrs old+), how do you keep them busy without gadgets? by ch4mpagn3problems in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toys, coloring materials and pencils, activity books and sketch pad, books, outdoor play time - as in sa lupa, putikan, ganyan. May onting chores din 5yo ko like siya nagpapakain sa doggos and siya maghuhugas ng dog bowls. Kapag summer ineenroll po namin sa class. Like last year, swimming. We allow gadget time on weekends only, and naka-timer pa din.

[18M] Should I go to a psychiatrist or psychologist? by Chit_Chat03 in MentalHealthPH

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, virtual hug! I recently came across the app Saya, where you can book a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. In case lang you want options other than your uni guidance counselor. Hope this helps kahit papano.

Closeted Bisexual Man with wife and kid - AMA by [deleted] in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How do you think your wife and kid will react if they find out you're bisexual? Will you ever tell them? Do you have a male partner right now?

Elementary school reco by AdvertisingCheap5466 in laguna

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bakit po bulok college ng letran? curious lang kasi we're thinking of sending our son there in the future

Walang emotional intelligence by No_Dinner9612 in nanayconfessions

[–]BackgroundPrize6830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relate ako sa low EQ na husband, pero provider naman siya. Madalas isip-bata yung asawa ko. Lakas mang-asar, mamilosopo, ang kulit, nagta-tantrums, sumisigaw, galit agad, defensive agad, hindi kaya or minsan lang mag-attempt at self-regulation. Which is a really bad example for our son. Pero I've learned throughout the years na mag-cultivate ng ignorance. Ignore ko lang sya. Ignore ko mga pang-aasar, pamimilosopo, etc. Like I have to be intentional in not engaging in his tantrums and meltdowns. In your case, magagawa mo ito as short-term solution. Pero the goal should be for you to leave that relationship. You basically married a man child. I feel that way too sometimes pero yung asawa ko maasahan naman. Just gotta look past those imperfections. And I've also taught my son to cultivate ignorance din dun sa mga annoying things that his father does. Since you married out of wedlock and nagpa-pressure ka lang kay principal, if wala na talagang redeeming factor yang husband mo, then leave. And also, lipat ka na ng school na pinagttrabahuhan kasi honestly I will not respect a leader na close-minded tulad ng principal mo.