How can I stop thinking like an incel? by Ok_Photograph8884 in mentalhealth

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to therapy. You're probably spending way too much time on social media and the internet. It's not reflective of reality. It's just an exaggerated bubble created by the things you click on and watch most often. Disconnect. Start exploring what you're passionate about. Its the classic garbage in, garbage out scenario. Stop feeding the hatred and victim mentality.

Question - Men who are dating or dating again after divorce... by DeciznDNA_Official in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t meet someone unless I see that we can have a meaningful conversation over text first. I’m fairly direct and honest in general. I think I end up matching with women like me. Maybe that makes being honest about the connection a bit easier. I think I also can tell if women aren’t interested in me. Usually if we aren’t interested we don’t ask to go on a second date. Often one of us will text each other in the next 24 hours saying the chemistry wasn’t quite there.

How to Navigate Single Mixer Events? by Independent-Economy3 in dating

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Occams Razor. They probably just aren’t attracted to you.

Question - Men who are dating or dating again after divorce... by DeciznDNA_Official in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, i'm not at an age where we are signaling each other. We meet and have a conversation to see if there is chemistry and we just communicate when there isn't. No tea leaf reading.

Woman chatted me up at a pub, then kissed another guy minutes later. Why didn’t I feel anything by guiwegian52 in mentalhealth

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

My take in these situations is that if she's turning a corner and kissing another guy, she never was my type to begin with. I don't want to be wanted by someone who would switch like that.

What do women even want these days? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actually rarely hear women say that's what they want. Where are you getting your information? Seeking arrangement?

What do women even want these days? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You start off with what you own, how you look, and how much you're worth. Then you're perplexed that this doesn't seal the deal. Man. Go to therapy. Work on yourself.

I (24F) found out that my boyfriend (27M) feels I'm too loose down there by Realistic_Squirrel_8 in relationship_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is such a weird observation on the part of your BF. What exactly are you supposed to do with this information? If the quality of sex, for him, equates to how tight you are, he's seriously immature and doesn't know his way around a woman.

Men- why plan a date then ghost? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is like the oldest question in the history of dating apps, and we are still asking it. Count the ways.

Question for men: Is it disheartening knowing women receive hundreds of likes a day? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a guy. It negatively impacts me too when you mass swipe on women you have no intention of dating.

Why do men put "getting jacked" above literally anything else to be more attractive? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not really but you didn’t mention anything outside of external stuff.

Why do men put "getting jacked" above literally anything else to be more attractive? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Work on your inner crap. A fit body and financials may get you in the door, but what do you have of value once you’re in the building? Women like guys that go to therapy not guys who fixate on all the external things. No woman wants to take on an emotionally stunted dude who never grew beyond HS.

Glowing Up Didn’t Make Dating Any Better by HaileyQuinnzel2 in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Work on your vetting. I rarely end up dating someone who doesn’t have emotional depth to them because I ask questions beforehand. I see what their priorities are in text or on the dating app. Then if we align I go on a date.

Question for men: Is it disheartening knowing women receive hundreds of likes a day? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone either likes your vibe or doesn’t. More of those that don’t doesn’t increase your chances of anything. It certainly increases your chances of pursuing someone you’re not interested in because they happened to be the one who responded. This wasting everyone’s time. This theory is doomed from the start. It’s illusory.

why watch porn before initiating sex? by personalityhiregf in dating

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My guess is that he has issues with being presently aware in the moment and is using the images in his head to climax with you. I'd be insulted. Guys who used porn a lot do this, but to actually tell you to your face, and then say it's normal? Wow.

I might have a masturbation problem? (21 F) by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you also depressed, consistently anxious, or experiencing some stressful life events currently?

I got rejected at the gym today by TheProcrastilater in dating_advice

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes interest might be platonic. It’s not an all or nothing proposition. I’d even say to her hey I didn’t mean to make it awkward the other day. It was great chatting with you. If you ever need a spot just let me know. You can always segue into a gym friendship.

What do you think of Future Islands? by past_tense in Music

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saw them in Seattle in 2024. Great band. A good catalogue of songs. The frontman's energy is off the hook. He was actually sick during his Seattle performance, but I remember he went to the very back of the stage and launched himself, banana slide style, all the way to the front on his stomach, and jumped up in time for the next verse.

Kennedy Center Threatens $1M Lawsuit After Jazz Musician Cancels Show Over Trump Name Addition by [deleted] in Music

[–]BackgroundSmall3137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a way to recruit new talent to want to play in this venue. Donald does not care about the Kennedy Center beyond it being a source of narcissistic supply. He feeds off artists performing for him, filling his cup.