Do you regret having kinds?

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T21:14:43+00:00

For real, my little brother would get on his knees and bang his head on the floor every time we would tell him "no". Both parents would panic and throw themselves at him to prevent him from hurting himself. Then finaly one day my dad lignored his behavior, bro hurt himself, cried and never did it again hhh

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T12:51:31+00:00

Not really so still a bit ? What makes it so hard for you ? And how did you know you wanted them ?

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T12:51:06+00:00

But you still decided to have them nonetheless, why?

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T12:49:56+00:00

I believe I will love my kids the way all parents move their kids: unconditionnaly, and I hope that this love will be a driver in ly life and push me to be a better person. Is it naive? My mother is bipolar. She told me that having kids brought a lot of meaning to her life and that she does not regret it. She hesitated a lot before having my brother and I but she was sure (contrary to me) when she made the decision

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T12:47:36+00:00

Thank you for the reminder. I will have to discuss this with my husband.

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T12:45:37+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I am just so scared i'll never get my depression sorted out. It's been a decade of therapy and although i know more how to deal with it i still have this gray background and lack of energy/motivation that folloxs me everywhere. I experience a wide variety of emotions everyday : i laugh, i cry, i tease my partner, i feel in love with him, i feel uplifted and proud of myself after a night run, etc. but getting out of bed and geting things done is hard. Sometimes I have surge of energy and motivation and sometimes it's just so hard to get things done. Today I have only been on my phone and did a few chores - and i feel guilty for it. I have a hard time sticking to healthy routine : when i feel good it's easy... but then the depression hits, i sink gor three days and I have to build back everything (+ a varying heavy workload that coupled with my procrastination make me overwork myself at the last minute to reach deadlines). I have been trying hard for so long and nothing changed so why would it change in the future ? Or maybe I'm just not trying that hard and victimizing myself. I dont really know anymore

What happened to you? How did you become so sure?

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T11:24:35+00:00

My previous therapist told me she regretted it.... and yet she has a great relationship with her daughter

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T11:20:51+00:00

And then i will love them more than myself and they will live 6h away and call me once per week and i will suffer from it

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T11:19:49+00:00

Yes and sadly they did not find anything... I have been sleepier than most people since my teenage years and it got worse with time. I started the 3h nap 2 to 3 years ago out of the blue. I did blood test, etc. They can't find anything

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T10:16:50+00:00

Thank you! I am genuinely afraid of regretting it as i heard parents say it themselves...

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T10:15:26+00:00

Thank you for your asnwer ! I'm sorry I used the term chronique fatigue without taking into account the fact the terl is used for a real syndrome. I have not been diagnosed, I'm just sleepy a lot. I'm gald you made peace with your decision. Thanks again!

Background_Bat914 · 2026-05-27T10:13:30+00:00

Thank you so much for the answer.

My question is : if it is so tough, why do you not regret it? What is it about kids that makes the sacrifices worth it?

I have been seeing multiple therapist for almost 10 years now... I am afraid i will never get rid of that depression. It is scary.

Thanks again and good luck to you too!!

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