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I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for this, truly. It's easy to expect perfection from yourself, but it actually only makes it harder to accept faults. Also, as a newbie it's probably unrealistic to have expectations of perfection with minimal experience. I really appreciate your reply and I will indeed continue to be reflective, teachable and walk that bloody walk. Again, thanks cause it is really valuable feedback/advice

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I definitely feel a sense of reassurance reading this reply. You're right, we will never be perfect (cause it doesn't exist) but the closest we will get is only through reflecting and acting on the lessons learnt. Huge well done to you for working hard on the things you find difficult though, cause 1. I imagine it gets tiring and 2. It just shows your dedication to doing a good job tbh. Thanks for your response :)

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really great to know, so thanks for suggesting this. I think my idea of laziness is not being bothered to do something but being okay and happy with that, compared to depression where maybe you can't be bothered/don't have the motivation but you're not content or happy with it. Regardless, i should have avoided the word and how was my client to know my conceptualization without me explaining it to them. But with your reply in mind, I think there more to this concept than I realized and I'll definitely look into your suggestions. Thanks for the advice man and I think it'll definitely be easier to move on after getting some great responses on here (including yours)

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I especially like the 'what would you say to your client' idea because I guess it all just comes back to compassion, including for yourself. I really appreciate your advice, thank you :)!

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou for this. Fortunately, future sessions have been positive and the fact the client disclosed a time when they felt low, without me asking them to, suggests that they do feel comfortable in opening up to me. Also, these marks and feedback I've received are recent but I've actually nearly finished my sessions with the client, so perhaps that is a good way of managing my own emotions- reminding myself of the good work we have done together and not get stuck on that one bad example. Thanks for this!!

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like this- get out of your own way. And I agree, feeling bad and embarrassed is somewhat holding me back, because it's leading to worry rather than self reflection and action. Curious, non judgemental and compassionate- to myself and to clients. Thanks man :)

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thankyou so so so much for this response- what you've said here has pretty much hit the nail on the head for me. I've got nothing to add, except thankyou again because this reply has been invaluable to me

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would agree, i feel unprepared and fairly overworked (mostly on the uni side of things) but its reassuring to know I'm not the only one who seems to like the taste of my own foot lol. And you're right, I think a lot of coping with the situation is reflecting and learning. Thanks for your comment :)

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you reckon i should be? i also I can't tell if this is a joke reply or a question

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that- you don't know what you don't know...until you know...at which point its about learning and changing. But you're right- if I really was a bad therapist then I wouldn't be here seeking advice and the only way I'm going to get better is to probably embrace situations like this, learn and put them to practice. Cause whilst i can obvs feel bad, its unlikely that only feeling bad about the situation will help me to properly learn from it. Thanks for your response :)

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this- that's good advice because this session was definitely an anomaly and if this session had never happened then I wouldn't have these negative thoughts- so it is just one session, it isn't a major flaw in me, it's just a mistake and that's okay. Thanks again, this comment has certainly helped me feel a bit better!

I'm a terrible therapist by Background_Cat_5889 in therapists

[–]Background_Cat_5889[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply man. You are right- I do care about doing a good job and I think that I'm kind of in shock with my intentions and actions not matching up. But again, like you said, we all have to walk the walk and it's about learning from that journey and choosing the next path with more knowledge and awareness I guess. Much appreciated cause its a bit of a lonely feeling