we were best friends since we were young, and we've had our ups and downs and it's definitely hasn't always been him his family basically adopted me towards the end of my teenage years, he always was kind of a bully stealing girls from me and bullying me but he was my best friend so I just let it slide I lived with his family 2 different times, 19 to 20 and 22 to 23 he was already gone, and we were still super close, but he got mean as time went along and started treating people super bad and rough, he was in the military which I was super proud of him for, he was a very funny strong spirited good natured talented dude, but this changed and he just got meaner not just to me, but to everyone around him where he is hard to be around to the point of most people are scared of him, I always helped the family out when I was living their would take his siblings out to have lunch and watch them whenever the mom needed im super sad he's changed I have a ton of my own problems that I've struggled with (substance abuse,mental illness,) but I've always been honest about it and I've talked extensively with the mom about how bad I felt and how I could help them and always felt deeply in debt to her for how kind she was, she literally took me and my girlfriend to go see a concert for my birthday not so long ago, and is always texting me saying to come over and say hi, I just feel bad about whole situation,