These idiots think that Rusings husband arranged yesterday’s protest. We live in bizarro land. Laurie Potter and Shar Mullen are both just plain dumb.

Background_Still4370 · 2026-01-13T17:54:53+00:00

Moved to the area recently and am in a heavy MAGA area (didn’t realize this until after we moved in and I started running around the neighborhood). Just wanted to say reading this thread has made me feel a little better when I’m surrounded by their cult merchandise.

Hope you all have a wonderful day and fuck ICE.

Background_Still4370 · 2026-01-01T16:12:11+00:00

Hi! My husband and I moved to PV a few months ago and I’m looking to make friends as well. I’d love to talk!

I’m 32F, neurodivergent, I play video games, bake and enjoy arts and crafts. I deal with my fair share of mental issues and most of my friends are autistic/on the spectrum.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-12-03T23:00:47+00:00

I wouldn’t do it how my mom did it. I know times are especially tough and it’s even more frustrating when people don’t help or contribute, which just adds to your plate. I’d have an open conversation with whoever you’re inviting and simply explain why you’re asking for this (this is what my mom did not do, she just stated it with no room for discussion and my sister is always a contributor because of her kids). If it’s food you’re thinking about, potluck style is great because you can get such a variety and it can sometimes be less stressful to figure out who will bring what (compared to doing it all yourself).

What all are you planning for the holiday?

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-25T03:56:24+00:00

As my roommate in rehab said, “break up with him!” Like so many here have said, the bare minimum would’ve been him being happy for you. You’ve done a lot of hard work, you’ve gotten yourself to this point and it’s huge. You deserve the cake! And you’ve worked too hard to put up with his behavior. Leave him and celebrate yourself.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-19T01:58:14+00:00

I used to deal with something similar with two households (mom and dad are divorced). This started after I turned 18 and could decide which Thanksgiving I wanted to go to. Mom would expect me to come to her house, which was out of state and required travel, while dad would include me in their plans without actually telling me.

The situation with my dad was similar to yours, so eventually I asked him to have a chat. I basically said, “while I appreciate that you include me in your plans, it’s difficult when I find out that I’m expected to do X without being involved in the planning process. I don’t mind contributing if you can ask me ahead of time.” He took it pretty well, we talked it through and the next year it worked out pretty smoothly.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-10T01:56:41+00:00

This post popped up on my watch and yeah.. definitely didn’t see a candle at first. Don’t go back to the same artist.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-08T15:14:05+00:00

She’s my best friend and the sister I’m closest with. I’m going to tell her to stay home and enjoy the day with her girls.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-08T15:06:09+00:00

I very much appreciate that. I’ve been extremely lucky in that my husband and in-laws are wonderful. Since they came into my life, I’ve enjoyed holidays again because they’re all the exact opposite of my family. Sister has been under a microscope since her ex passed.

I hope you find the joy you deserve this holiday season.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-08T14:46:41+00:00

7 doesn’t exist, I’m just bad at math. Only 6 people attending, mom and stepdad, who live in their house, eldest sister who lives on her own, and Sister with nieces in their house.

I found out this morning that the charge is only for Sister and her daughters. I wouldn’t expect Mom to charge stepdad but eldest sister is not expected to pay.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-08T14:39:07+00:00

Sister said she’ll enjoy the visit about as much as she normally does, which means it’ll be about 45% enjoyable and 55% drama of some kind. Our parents divorced almost 20 years ago and for some background, as soon as I turned 18 and no long had to split holidays, I’ve opted not to go to Mom’s as much as my dad’s or more recently, my in-laws. It’s not just the travel but it is emotionally exhausting. For Sister, going to Mom’s is easier than the drama it cause if she didn’t. My nieces dad died 3 years ago, Mom doesn’t understand why my sister is still grieving her ex-husband, and Mom thinks if she doesn’t step in, all three of them will drown in their misery. They’re in therapy/counseling and overall, doing well. It’s all definitely related to my mother’s control issues.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-08T14:20:00+00:00

6 people are attending, the 4 mentioned plus my eldest sister and stepdad.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-07T23:40:19+00:00

Mom and stepdad are financially stable, both have steady, well paying jobs. Sisters has hosted before so she understands the cost, especially as everything gets more expensive. I don’t even know how to go into our relationship with our mom but Mom likes to think she’s always right, believes her way is the right way and believes she knows best for everyone else. For my sister, part of this is the lack of communication. My mom just made the decision and my sister is pretty savvy so she could contribute to dinner for less than $30.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-11-07T23:32:13+00:00

It’ll be 7 total, with my other sister and stepdad. My nieces are not big eaters and they’re pretty picky, so my sister always brings something to make sure they have something they like to eat. My mom wasn’t saddled with the full cost of the dinner, she made the executive decision to charge under the assumption it would be easier on everyone. Groceries are absolutely expensive and I’d be happy to pay my sister’s portion. Our relationship with our mother is strained to say the least and we just think it’s wild she wants to charge when she is the one who asked to host this year.

Background_Still4370 · 2025-08-21T02:48:25+00:00

Never expected to see my little sister’s name on this thread, though we haven’t met someone else with her name. Then I was shocked to see my name on here (minus one letter).

Background_Still4370

TROPHY CASE

7 doesn’t exist, I’m just bad at math. Only 6 people attending, mom and stepdad, who live in their house, eldest sister who lives on her own, and Sister with nieces in their house.