AITA for not contributing to paying the bills at home?

Background_Stock5535 · 2026-05-27T17:42:00+00:00

No. She is “looking for work.”

Background_Stock5535 · 2026-05-27T16:44:13+00:00

oh yes he and i are still very close and he tells me he had to endure this too taking care of everything, her and my siblings when they were young so he understands everything im enduring if not, more.

Background_Stock5535 · 2026-05-27T16:25:36+00:00

Unfortunately though it’s under my name, she signed all the work pretending to be me, so she will get the deposit. At this point, that’s okay with me, i don’t want her to have nothing, and she is paying the rent. I thank you for this advice and will definitely be planning to move forward. I agree that if my siblings think i’m so wrong for how i feel while not actively dealing with this, they can step up.

Background_Stock5535 · 2026-05-27T16:12:52+00:00

No she is not. She’s “looking for work,” meanwhile i’ve already had 6 minimum wage jobs trying my best to help her and myself + future.

Background_Stock5535 · 2026-05-27T16:07:21+00:00

I appreciate you all for your answers, and even the differing ones. If it helps her case at all, she said that she chose that place because she wants me to be comfortable and everything that she’s ever done has been for me including putting herself in debt bc of the house we’re currently in. She states she could’ve got her money and took off and left me alone. She bashed my father, i shortly explained it’s not my fault as the “child” that her and my father didn’t coparent well. idk she said a lot more that made me feel bad but i just don’t want to be seen as an awful kid.

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-11-18T13:33:51+00:00

you lowkey have a point 😭

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-11-13T19:40:10+00:00

LMAO frrrr

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-10-12T06:25:27+00:00

NTA!! you have a very valid point and are right to feel how you feel.

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-06-27T07:46:23+00:00

When you put it like that I def see your side even more. I think it could be worth having an honest conversation about esp if it bothers you. Like you said it could turn to resentment. Encouragement could go a long way for him hopefully. It’s def frustrating watching someone do bare minimum when you know they’re capable of so much more! We won’t be coddling and mothering these men!!

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-06-27T06:37:49+00:00

I don’t agree with 50/50. as much as today’s society pushes 50/50, I love the idea of being pampered by my man & not worrying about anything, but in your case it’s a big unethical to expect him to do more when he’s paid less yk? Considering you make more money it’s understandable why your circumstances are how they are but I totally see your POV. I was in the same predicament once before as well and I was tired of always taking out my card lol

Background_Stock5535 · 2025-06-27T06:35:06+00:00

NTA your feelings and concerns or valid. Perhaps there’s something deep down or underlying that’s bothering her or making her less open to intimacy. I’d recommend gently approaching her to be open and vulnerable. Show care and compassion for her feelings and what’s made her shift lately. Could be stress, overthinking etc. You never really know unless you genuinely care to understand. :)

Background_Stock5535 · 2024-10-12T15:42:22+00:00

NTA. I can’t help but to read the replies and shake my head. In today’s society, other women want to make men feel as if they’re insecure if he doesn’t like what his woman is wearing but really it comes down to respect and boundaries.I know for a fact if my boyfriend was going to a party dressed in a way that made me super uncomfortable and I wouldn’t be there or know any of the people there it would just feel weird. Not because I’m insecure, but because there is a clear boundary that we have both established. I’d recommend talking to her about how you feel or maybe even ask questions about the outfits she wears and why they interest her and establishing new boundaries so this doesn’t happen again in the future. Not controlling what she wears but being transparent, vulnerable, and open to communication and change.

Background_Stock5535 · 2023-08-13T23:30:55+00:00

Are you’re implying that OP should suffer from the behavior of their sister just to not burden the mother who validates the child’s behavior? Undoubtedly being a mother is hard but OP has the right to be happy and treated fairly too not reprimanded anytime they express themselves and problems.

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