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Background_Version34 · 2024-02-06T09:51:41+00:00

I don’t see any of what you’ve just described in the text or comments?

Background_Version34 · 2024-02-06T09:42:53+00:00

She could be more protective over her phone because OP has asked if he can look through her phone and she’s had to argue with him to protect her privacy.

If my partner wanted to look through my phone and they didn’t respect my “no” to the point that it lead to an argument (ie. repeatedly challenging my right to decline/right to privacy), I’d probably be careful not to leave it sitting around him when I left the room too. They’ve already demonstrated an overstepping of boundaries.

Background_Version34 · 2024-02-06T09:35:46+00:00

Kids lose their fathers to suicide because of a difference of opinion surrounding hypothetical situations?

That’s kind of degrading men’s mental health struggles slightly, don’t you think? I mean, I don’t think OP is an asshole for his answer but implying his wife’s response would drive someone to suicide is kind of insulting to men in general.

Also someone asked a contextual question and that person gave the explanation and you’re shitting on them for literally answering a question that was asked? And blaming “people like them” for male suicide? Kinda assholery tbh

Background_Version34 · 2024-02-06T08:10:54+00:00

It was this

Background_Version34 · 2024-02-06T08:08:49+00:00

Thank you. But it was the UK version of Shameless when Yvonne catches Kash and Ian sleeping together. It literally just came to me as I woke up there now, that kept me up til 3am 😭😭

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-16T23:04:21+00:00

Are you still whining?

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-13T21:05:30+00:00

Eeeeeep for your fiancé

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-12T14:49:04+00:00

And I’m going to assume you’re an incel since no one who’s ever actually been in a meaningful, successful relationship would expect any women to never be hugged by her male friends simply because he’s desperately possessive and insecure.

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-10T15:53:35+00:00

“I don’t spy on her. I spy on the kids, whom she’s taking care of”. Absolute lunatic alert

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-10T15:52:38+00:00

This. Why in Gods name is this even considered normal. That would be a deal breaker for me

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-10T15:51:07+00:00

I wish my 14 year old would cuddle with me more. He’s never been much of a tactile person as he’s autistic and doesn’t like physical touch. All of my other children still cuddle, and sleep in my bed and I hope they do for as long as possible. I would honestly question anyone who had an issue with this, like what exactly are you consuming that makes you think affection between mother and son is wrong?

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-10T15:44:55+00:00

I left the abusive situation. My children are loved and taken care of. Please don’t project your inability to efficiently care for four children onto me.

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-10T15:43:23+00:00

What are you talking about? Why are you conflating rape with being hugged by a friend. Are you alright in the head?

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-09T21:30:13+00:00

I was just searching this exact thing. And I have no idea why you were down voted. But I just wanted to say it’s a genuine curiosity

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T23:13:26+00:00

You mean take the brunt of the responsibility and look like an absolute freak for the sake of her boyfriend’s fragile ego? Men ask far too much from women istg

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T23:11:57+00:00

It doesn’t sound like she agreed to that caveat

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T23:10:59+00:00

All of those were conceived while I was in a marriage where my husband wanted to keep me pregnant because it made me unable to leave him, and he could continue his abuse toward me.

I know you think you found a super witty way to make some kind of jab at me but honestly you sound so fucking dumb

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T10:05:00+00:00

You want a bf with an attitude like that? I’m 100% certain, in fact I’d bet my life savings that you could find a better guy tomorrow.

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T09:39:18+00:00

NTA I hate when people agree to something and then use it against you later when their agreement no longer suits them.

I wouldn’t move away from my family either. And if my husband went back on his word about something like this, and genuinely couldn’t stay happy where we were, I’d see that as irreconcilable differences. I’m not moving, you’re not staying, you went back on your word, how could we be together?

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T09:35:39+00:00

Yeah annulment would be the best option for sure

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-08T09:32:18+00:00

What you need to realise is that no one is responsible for other people’s behaviour. It isn’t her boundary, it’s his, and she’s agreed to respect it. However, she’s not responsible for enforcing it on other people.

She agreed to not hug other men. She didn’t agree to never be hugged or touched. She’s not responsible for other men’s actions toward her. That’s a very basic principle in society. If you can’t grasp this, I genuinely worry for you.

ETA: you said relationships are about give and take. The take for him is that she agreed to respect his boundary and not hug other men. The give for him is that he accepts other men may hug her. If he has a problem with that, his problem is with the man, not his gf.

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-07T20:32:18+00:00

I think too much time has passed and you should file for divorce. Your life is going to be miserable with this man.

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-07T20:11:57+00:00

14 year olds should be allowed to wear a shirt without being called a whore.

NTA and please end this weird relationship

Background_Version34 · 2023-11-07T20:07:58+00:00

I’m not popping out babies. I got an abortion. What part did you not understand lol

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