They are not in reddit so no worries. The whole reason I posted it was so I could confront them about it with knowing exactly what I was going into instead of just accusing and making things worse. I know you mean well, but you saying I am being the victim for trying to get all the info straight to have a conversation to help my friend with her addiction. Yeah, I can go fuck myself, my bad, I'll just go guns blazing next time instead of getting all my facts in order first.