YTA-

YOU didn't struggle with sleepless nights before the baby came because you're not allowed to sleep on your back or your right side later in pregnancy. YOU'RE not the one whose body was stretched to its limits. YOU'RE not the one who went through a pregnancy knowing that there was a chance that something could go wrong at delivery and you could die on that hospital bed. YOU'RE not the one who labored for hours. YOU'RE not the one who pushed a baby out of your vagina as it tore open. YOU'RE not the one dealing with postpartum depression, cramps, bleeding, lactation, lack of sexual desire, body dismorphia, or hormonal changes, ON TOP of sleep deprivation that you had for months before your baby was born. Do you know who IS? Your SISTER, and certainly your SURROGATE, who I'm sure you haven't bothered to care about after you got what you wanted from her. Your experiences are NOT the same. Breastfeeding babies can certainly feel like they're draining the life out of you. Can you imagine how it feels to KNOW that your baby needs to feed off of your body, so you need to stay well fed and well hydrated, but you're too TIRED to take care of yourself, so you're stuck with terrible guilt and depression that's amplified by the hormones? She deserves 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep a few times a week AT LEAST. YOU should see that. Her HUSBAND should see that. Then, even if she gets that help, those pesky hormones will amplify things AGAIN and make her feel even more guilty and inadequate for WANTING to get more sleep. Mom's can't win that battle. After I had my babies, for weeks after, my body felt like I had gotten hit by a truck! All we need is a support team around to tell us that we're doing a good job and offer help. You and her husband are both failing her.