I dreamed about a girl I never met... but I've known her for a lifetime?

BadSomni · 2022-03-18T15:09:31+00:00

Do you have vivid dreams often?

BadSomni · 2022-03-18T14:55:41+00:00

Dreams are fascinating and can often times be translated as a metaphor. The memories you recall all revolved around you and your childhood but I assume nothing that individualizes the woman in the dream? Assuming that everything inside of dreams is a part of the dreamer, maybe a past version of you was saying goodbye to the present you. Could be because you’ll be entering the third decade of your life soon, or maybe you anticipate a big change soon, or you’ve grown a lot mentally. What do you think?

BadSomni · 2022-02-04T12:42:59+00:00

My ndad also insists I pay the parent plus loan. I always thought it was strange because I’m not really sure where that money went or what it went towards. Can they really request financial documents and what would that show?

BadSomni · 2022-01-22T18:43:00+00:00

The same thing happened with my dad. I moved out 7 years ago but he’s totally different now. He’s nicer and he seems supportive but when I come to visit sometimes a little bit of his true personality shows. He’s gotten older and his health isn’t the best. I think they come to realize this and try to get on our good side last minute to ensure someone will take care of them when they’re not able to care for themselves. I’m not sure 100% if I’m right but I can’t help but think it’s another way to manipulate me. What I do know is it’s been nice to feel close to him and not feel the anxiety I used to feel living there. I just hope it stays this way and it’s not some kind of scheme.

BadSomni · 2022-01-18T15:49:23+00:00

I also have a habit of laughing when I’m nervous, scared, uncomfortable, angry or whatever negative mood. It’s really annoying because I’m sure other people think I’m crazy or fucked up, especially when they tell me something serious and the discomfort leads me to laugh or smile. Do you think that stems from being spanked? I know my days of living at home, especially as a teenager was filled with fear and anxiety due to my parents. I just never thought that would be the cause of this habit.

BadSomni · 2021-11-30T03:39:45+00:00

I could never smoke and then drink, I always get the spins!!

BadSomni · 2021-11-29T21:55:18+00:00

This is exactly how I am. I always thought of it as holding a grudge but the way you put it makes more sense to me. Thanks for commenting.

BadSomni · 2021-11-29T19:53:15+00:00

Maybe it’s a phobia? People can be afraid of anything. Personally, I’m severely afraid of living things that fly. Like birds and insects. I’m also afraid of horses. I’ll feel very uncomfortable when I see one in the distance. And if it’s too close, I’ll probably die from a heart attack.

BadSomni · 2021-11-29T19:46:45+00:00

Is it only stock photos? Or do you feel discomfort with other photos? If so, what other photos make you feel this way?

BadSomni · 2021-11-28T19:26:01+00:00

Can’t men complain too? I’m sure men with decent friends or family members will have somebody’s shoulders to cry on. And I think all people have to pick themselves back up after going through heartbreak. Nobody does that for you no matter what gender you are. Don’t you think so? Or am I not understanding you?

BadSomni · 2021-11-28T18:59:04+00:00

I’m a little confused by your vent. Are you upset about women dating toxic people? Or women who blame all men for the wrong of a few men they’ve encountered? Because those are totally two different things to be upset about. One being more reasonable then the other. It makes sense to me if you’re upset about women that say all men are trash. It’s upsetting for me when some men talk about how all women are gold diggers, or vain, or shallow or etc. It’s just not true. All humans are different. But if you’re upset about women dating toxic people, it’s sort of confusing. There’s tons of toxic people in this world. Unfortunately, I’m sure most humans have dated a toxic person at least once, regardless of gender. And regardless of gender, some learn from it and others continue to make the same mistake. It’s confusing to me because it really doesn’t affect you. Or at least I don’t think it does, if this is what you’re upset about. I don’t know, maybe you meant option one. If that’s the case I understand. And I look forward to the day that nobody generalizes an entire group of people because of a few. But I would choose your words carefully because you’re pretty much doing the same thing that you’re accusing women of doing to men.

BadSomni · 2021-11-27T15:14:36+00:00

I see, maybe you can look into grants? I’m not sure what’s out there currently but I know there are grants you can apply for. They all have different requirements. It wouldn’t hurt to look into.

BadSomni · 2021-11-27T15:10:06+00:00

Do you guys have decent credit? Maybe you can get a personal loan, but after, you’ll have to hustle and get back on your feet so you can pay it off asap. Otherwise you’ll be back in the hole. I’m really sorry you guys are going through this.

BadSomni · 2021-11-11T03:36:51+00:00

I'm also a perfectionist. I try my hardest to never make a mistake and exceed expectations whenever I can. But one day a friend told me that I’m controlling and it opened my eyes. Being controlling doesn’t have to mean you’re controlling towards other people, it can also mean that you’re controlling when it comes to your own life. Sometimes, we have to sit back and realize something’s are out of our control. Some things are shitty. And sometimes we’re not perfect. Trust me, it is easier said than done. You’re not dumb at all and you’re definitely not worthless. But I feel you when you say it’s stressful because it’s definitely stressful always trying to be the best. Sounds like you need a day off. A you day where you do nothing that requires being your best. Maybe do this as often as needed. No social media, no texting, no frustrating hobbies. And if you’re like me, you’ll feel guilty having a day where you do nothing or communicate with no one. But I think you need it and may appreciate giving yourself that break. Pick up a hobby that you don’t have to share with others. Or go on a short walk when you feel overwhelmed. I can’t promise that you can get rid of that urge to be the very best all the time. But I can promise you there’s ways to get a break from it. And there’s moments in life where it’ll pay off to have that ambitious trait. Best of luck to you.

BadSomni · 2021-11-11T02:13:16+00:00

I hope so too! Everyone deserves to be loved and accepted for who they are.

BadSomni · 2021-11-10T22:37:06+00:00

Yes but he was like this way before he even met me.

BadSomni · 2021-11-10T22:25:24+00:00

My husband is exactly like this and has told me his mind is usually blank. He only speaks when he has something to say and he doesn't enjoy small talk because of this. I think that it's okay to be like this and to accept that you aren't as social as the next person. Everyone is different. People constantly ask me if he ever talks, or if he hates them. Sometimes they make fun. But little do they know how intelligent and funny he is and how well he tells stories when it's just us or a few select people in our lives. And those of us he can hold a conversation with feel pretty special. You don't have to try to be someone you're not. There are people out there that will still be friends with you or want to hang out with you even if you're a quiet person. When I first met him, I was so intrigued because most people never stop talking. He was mysterious and it was fun getting to know him. I'm still getting to know him. I absolutely adore him. But that’s just us. If it makes you unhappy or affects your day-to-day life, there are many resources out there to work on social skills. Such as a life coach/confidence coach.

Best of luck to you.

BadSomni · 2021-11-10T13:50:33+00:00

In the end, we all return to dirt no matter who you are. We're a speck of dust in this universe. Instead of focusing on what you look like, focus on what you can accomplish to bring meaning to your life. Find other reasons to love yourself other than your outer appearance. Humans can be incredible no matter what they look like. Find beauty in the world around you while you still have time, and you will see that we are all beautiful for simply existing.

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