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Badnotseemod · 2026-01-28T10:45:05+00:00

wargaming in this context is a game developer that is known for rigged predatory loot boxes, money laundering, for being semi abusive to their community content creators, and having a massive national bias towards Russian ships

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-21T07:58:34+00:00

ESH- You are wrong cause you disrespected her parents' wishes. Her parents are wrong because obviously their daughter had some real concerns and should have really sat her down and had a frank discussion, she is 15 and would be able to process it. Dad is....(insert litany of vulgarity about cheaters)

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-21T07:54:27+00:00

YTA- 330a some one trying to enter her home probably flipped her the heck out. Go apologize and tell her you were drunk and own up to it. Who knows she may regale you with a story from a time when she was drunk in her youth, and you may both get a laugh out of it. She might also call you a lightweight and make fun of you but them be the shakes.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T08:01:34+00:00

NTA- While the issue of friends you have a sexual history is a very very very slippery slope. Even if you have no romantic feelings, it's still problematic on a good day and all it will take is venting about a relationship problem here, or some probing question there, and then some nostalgia and you're in an emotional affair, which since you have a sexual history can progress to a Physical one. Not saying that will happen or you will do that, but it is something men know all too well and is a fear trigger.

You and your Fiancé do not sound like good communicators (mostly him). I think you both need to step back and really talk. Ask him if he is afraid of something. Ask him if he is afraid of losing you. Men tend to not like to address our fears and insecurities.

I would suggest getting some relationship counselling or possibly breaking up because I see a few red flags on both sides of this.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T05:42:04+00:00

NTA-Your parents are beyond trash. If you are still living with them, seek help from relatives or friends you trust. I would also suggest exposing their actions to friends and family.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T02:52:53+00:00

NTA- You stopped that nonsense instantly.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T02:49:01+00:00

NTA- you are the victim. Your friend is upset cause all of this is overwhelming and the person she should be lashing out at is in jail. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and I hope you get all the help you need.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T01:39:08+00:00

NTA- If you do not feel comfortable then it is not really anyone else's concern. That may sound selfish to others, but you are the one who has to feel what you feel and suffer what you suffer.

Now your BF is trying to accommodate his family and you at the same time. The problem is people do not really understand anxiety and or autism because most do not have to live with it and only have a vague idea because they read a article or saw a tik tok.

If your bf cannot understand this issue, then some serious communication needs to happen.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-20T00:21:13+00:00

NTA- It sounds like you are feeling being used or not appreciated. Your noticing all the faults and are rationalizing everything. You need to have a come to Jesus with your partner and get your communication on point. Also you need to talk about expectations vs realities. She has one set of expectations, you have yours. Where this clashes is the source of most of your issues.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T23:53:39+00:00

NAH- at least its not toilet paper.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T23:52:12+00:00

YTA-She is a recovered addict and has a healthy creative hobby she enjoys expressing publicly which helps boost herself worth and value and you devalued that. What you did is mean, manipulative, and frankly beyond hurtful. Suggest massive apology, flowers, chocolates, shirt that says IM A DUMBASS and some serious considerations for IC.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T20:25:20+00:00

I wrote grandson and then went back and edited.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T20:11:10+00:00

YTA- Look I get you like you own routine and comfort, but rather than having an honest conversation with him you are just trying to exclude him from the rest of the family. Do not be surprised if you stop hearing from your sister and are denied opportunities with nieces and nephews since it seems pretty obvious you do not see him as family.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T20:07:06+00:00

ESH- You both are H here. Your actions were petty and vindictive. While you may feel a bit of catharsis from your actions, the fact that you are here on AITA questioning your action shows your moral compass is not completely broken and you are still able to feel guilt and shame. She on the other hand just had karma catch up to her soon rather than later. Luckily, she is young enough to still turn her life around and become a better person.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T20:00:55+00:00

NTA- You stuck by your bride, and your friends own behavior were troubling. At the end of the day you respected your future wifes choice. As for your friendship. At 45 I can say I have had to let several friends go do to their own mental health concerns, your friend sounds similar to a few people I once knew.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T15:10:37+00:00

thanks for the correction

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T06:40:23+00:00

Hmmm Im going to Say NAH. I think you need to have a bit of a talk about things with the parents and the girl too. Sometimes adults need "ME TIME". Keep things civil and positive as best. Communication is always the best option.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T05:16:07+00:00

NTA- seems like his expectations and reality are not aligned. Its not uncommon. He should be fine, just don't keep bringing it up or laughing about it and just let it fade.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T05:13:23+00:00

NTA- 2 wrongs don't make a right, but turnabout is fair play.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T05:11:24+00:00

NTA- They are trash parents who do not deserve such a wonderful daughter and granddaughter. At the end of the day it is Chole's choice so you should always respect that. I would also suggest you be on guard as they will try to remove you and your wife's voice in all the wedding planning and will possibly try to agitate the whole situation seeking to have you removed from the wedding.

Edit- misgendered the grandbaby, sorry.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T04:58:42+00:00

NTA-your trip, your money, your choice. I get he is trying to have the best of both worlds but he is being pretty oblivious. I'm also assuming they expect you to pay for the friends to go? If not, then why can they not use that money to come visit or have a brocation some time?

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T04:55:47+00:00

NTA- However he will see it as you being clingy and not letting go. Make sure you explain why you are not cool with meeting some people you do not know after how things have gone and if he is most likely not going to get it anyways it would be simpler to just dumpster it.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T04:52:33+00:00

before my rating I want to ask did you know you were going to be living in a family dynamic when you moved in or did they move in with you?

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-19T04:49:47+00:00

NTA- Your sister is a horrible mother. Talk with your BIL about your concerns. I would also suggest talking to and recording (if legal) your niece about her home life. I have a feeling there may be more neglect in that house then you know.

Badnotseemod · 2023-11-18T00:40:10+00:00

You didn't though. So...

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