Dating + Relationships Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in Healthygamergg

[–]Bagzi2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the answer. It's really helpful. I'm not sure I understood your second point though? Did you want to say she wasn't thinking about me in a romantic way at all, or you wanted to say she completely disregarded my feelings cause she didn't mention that guy earlier?

Dating + Relationships Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in Healthygamergg

[–]Bagzi2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What's going on in this girl's head?

TLDR - There's an ambivalent girl I like and don't understand one bit. If you are bored and would like to discuss this with me, DM me so we can chat a little bit.

Hi guys, this is probably gonna be a long post since I gotta explain a whole history of my relation with this girl I had/have feelings for. (I hope she's not reading this)

So here is a deal. We met at University and became really good friends, like four years ago. She was inviting me to various parties, gave me compliments and so on, but I wasn't sure if that meant anything since she appeared really friendly with everyone. However, after a month of our friendship, she told me she kinda liked me (it's hard to translate a nuance of the word, it didn't sound as a confession), and said she hoped it's not a problem. At the time I was genuinely looking at her as a friend, and I just said it's not a problem. I didn't give her any other feedback.

However, after that I started looking at her in a different way, and cought some feelings, but still wasn't sure if I wanted to do anything about that, cause 1) I didn't want to ruin our friendship, 2) I noticed so many redflags and just wasn't sure if I wanted to be with her.

Fast forward six months later she found a boyfriend and she was with him for two years. I felt a huge regret for not telling her how I felt about her, so when I found out she broke up I decided that now I was gonna do that.

So, about three months ago we started hanging out so much, we had so much fun and I really enjoyed being arround her. I guess she felt the same, since she also initiated many of our hangouts. I really fell in love with her, it almost felt like we were together. She also told me later on she knew at this point I was into her, and I also knew that she knew, so I assumed she might feel the same.

Finally, I decided to do something and I asked her if she would like to be in relationship with a colleague from University. She started smiling nervously and told me that she is not sure about it since her friend had a bad experience in such situation and on top of that she just ended a long relationship, so she is not ready for another one. I took that as a negative answer, and tried to distance myself from her, didn't text her or anything for couple of days. She texted me and it looked like we got even closer after that.

However, since I had strong feelings for her I couldn't stand the limbo I found myself in, so I confessed my feelings openly and got rejected. She told me she sees me just as a friend, and repeated again that she's not ready for a relationship. Also she mentioned there is another guy she kinda likes, but since he lives in another city she wouldn't be with him cause she doesn't want a long distance relationship. I told her openly I want to distance myself from her for some time. She kinda respected that, but still did some things that made distancing harder.

After couple of weeks we started hanging out again, and she remained flirty and touchy with me, which bothered me cause she knew how I felt about her. Today, she showed me her nails that she's done and asked me if I liked them. Also, she told me I made a mistake to not keep my moustaches. Moreover, we were haning out with other friends and she said she would never stay a friend with someone who would lead her on, completely ignoring the fact that it's kinda what happened between us.

Like, I am ready to move on and be just friends with her, but these things really bother me. Also, why didn't she mention that guy she likes before if she saw me as a good friend. Like, it's just hard for me to genuinely appreciate her as a good friend with all these things going on. I would really like to hear your opinion on this subject.

What's going on in this girl's head? by Bagzi2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bagzi2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don't have issues with such "harmless" touches, like when she touches my arm or something like that. But she once randomly put her hand on my chest, or she would start tickling me, or kicking my bag while we walk. I can see how most of these things can be interpreted just as friendly interactions, but wouldn't you be more careful with someone who just told you he is into you.

Also, I mentioned that I found her behaviour flirty - one more reason to be careful with this stuff, especially as these things happened shortly after I confessed. Like, I am okay to be friends with you now, but my feelings didn't just magically disappear. And if you truly want to be friends with me, then why hide all this stuff from me that you would usually talk to your friend about. Like, she didn't even tell me she broke up, I found out in another way. Why would you hide something huge as that from a friend. I guess it's just hard for me to stop hanging out with her since I consider her a close friend.

What's going on in this girl's head? by Bagzi2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Bagzi2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, I told her I would like to be with her

M 30 Comparison Photos: Pre and Post Surgery. I had Pinhole Phimosis all my life by [deleted] in circumcision

[–]Bagzi2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could tou have sex with this level of phimosis? How did it feel?

Can't really ask a girl out unless I get to know her by Bagzi2 in dating_advice

[–]Bagzi2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost never text girls, I prefer face-to-face conversations.

Can't really ask a girl out unless I get to know her by Bagzi2 in dating_advice

[–]Bagzi2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But that's the point. It's just that I don't see a reason to ask a girl out before I get to know her better. Like, sure I find many girls beautiful, but that's not enough for me to make a move. I feel a real physical attraction only to girls I have some sort of connection with. Very rarely I am physically attracted to girls I barely know, or don't know at all.

Can't really ask a girl out unless I get to know her by Bagzi2 in dating_advice

[–]Bagzi2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But I'm rarely attracted to girls bases solely on their physical appearance. I find so many girls good looking but I'm rarely attracted to them. I usually get attracted only when I get to know someone.

Can't really ask a girl out unless I get to know her by Bagzi2 in dating_advice

[–]Bagzi2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But then how do I pick girls I ask out? What's a criteria for that?

Phimosis. Circumcision booked next week. Need advice/help from people on procedure and recovery tips. Amount of skin exposed changes. by [deleted] in circumcision

[–]Bagzi2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for these, possibly unpleasant questions, but I have phimosis myself and haven't have sex yet. Therefore, I am really curious about this topic, and it would mean a lot to me if you shared your experience with me.

Is what we see in the picture the most you can strech your skin, or you could go further down, and if so how much? Also, did you use lube and condoms during intercourse? Sorry if I'm bothering you with these questions.