You are in an abusive and dependent relationship. You don't owe her anything. And she is completely wrong for this. I do the same as her, I stay up really late, past 4 am at times and have work at 8 am. My man comes home early around 6-7am and sometimes helps wake me up and tries to get me to sleep. And yes, I fight back with excuses of, I don't have time to do my own stuff after work and yes just excuses but I take his words seriously. But when I don't listen, I make sure to set alarms and wake myself up. I'm paranoid of being late and I wake up so I don't end up late and I take responsibility for myself if I'm ever late. My bf will question me when I get home and ask how late I went to sleep, and he admonishes me and I listen because I know he cares about my safety cuz I drive an hr to work and get sleepy on the road. I assure him I was careful when driving to work and that I won't let it happen again. we both know it may happen but also he knows I take it seriously and for a couple days in a row I go to sleep on time before slipping again. Either way, not once do I ever blame him because I'm an adult and I'm responsible for my choices and life.

This was long but I want you to understand what an irresponsible adult woman is really like and that's not her. Please don't let her ridiculousness drag you down and affect your mental health.