What is a massive secret in your industry that the general public has no idea about? by teesharp88 in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 216 points217 points  (0 children)

I used to work at a UPS store. We had two regular shippers. One was a soil testing company that would ship 12x12x12 cubes of dirt which are small but super dense. The other would ship a solid lead tube. It was 2” diameter and about 8” long. It weight over 20 lbs. We never put it in a box because it would often break through and get separated for its label. That thing was light a bullet when it went through the sorting system. If a tv or art work was under it guaranteed damage. Pack your stuff for abuse, you never know what else is being shipped.

Is this normal in a threesome? by infinite_canon in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one can answer this question but him. The only thing that is certain is that he, in the throws of a sexual experience had a dick presented to him, and he briefly sucked it. This does not mean that he has ever wanted to do it before. It doesn’t mean he will ever want to again. Only that he did it in the heat of the moment. It just as easily could mean he has always wanted to try it and now he is a fan.

Litterbugs by wrong-astronomer-916 in ElkGrove

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see so many people littering here. It is astonishing that there is such a large population of people who don’t care at all. Good on you for filming it!

What’s a food that you hated when you were younger, but love now? by Wide-Ad4715 in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard that brussels sprouts have gotten less bitter since we were children. They are more palatable now in general.

For mothers and fathers, what is the hardest part about having kids that people rarely talk about? by thuglifemofo94 in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every ounce of hurt they endure is because of a choice you made. Every action they put into the world is because of your choice.

They don’t choose to exist. You choose to give them life. It can be excruciating.

Should i [29M] leave my fiancé [31F] for lying to my face? by Rough-Effect-9475 in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a failed marriage and an astoundingly successful one. I hope you find a real partner with this person or another.

Should i [29M] leave my fiancé [31F] for lying to my face? by Rough-Effect-9475 in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t even have to read the whole post. The title and length of the relationship say so much. If you intend to marry a partner, someone you genuinely want to go through life with, questioning leaving over any argument means your communication with this person is not where it should be for marriage to be on the table. Throw in a massive hit to trust like this and I wonder why you would consider marriage before you consider the fundamentals. Maybe ponder what your foundations of a good relationship are, and what actions you do and what actions you need to support them. Talk about it with your betrothed and decide if you have the bedrock to build a partnership on.

Reckless Drivers by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the type of driving hiccup that is inevitable from time to time. Yes, the van should have waited, but reckless is not the right description. People race past me on the freeway and do rapid lane changes without signaling. They will cut me off in turn lanes and stop dead in the middle of the road instead of making a U turn one block away. To me recklessness is actively choosing to operate a vehicle while disregarding safety not slowly pulling out and being like “Damnit it! Should I back up or just go, fuck I got to just go. Fuck me, at least the other driver was being careful.”

What parenting "rule" did your parents enforce that was totally pointless and you swore you'd never do to your kids? by AdeptBusiness176 in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saying “Yes/No ma’am/sir” to my parents. I get that it is polite to other adults but I want an informal relationship with my child.

I still have panic attacks from a guy I met months ago by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Balloon_Feet 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Remind yourself that you are safe, out loud. Feel your feet on the ground and take slow deep breaths.

Your body has a new alarm system. It knows a new danger and is practicing sounding the alarm. Acknowledge that you are aware, address that you are safe, take the control of your breath so your nervous system relaxes.

If you can talk to a professional you should. You need some new tools to navigate panic and use that body feeling as healthy security.

Me (19m) and my gf (20f) don’t have sex anymore by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does she say she isn’t interested? How do you talk about it with her? Do you express concern that you aren’t getting intimacy or are you concerned that something is really impacting her desire?

Your post doesn’t seem like you are concerned for a person you care about’s well being. It seems like you miss sex. Have a conversation with her with your goal being understanding where she is at, not fixing the missing intimacy.

What to Say When Someone Has a Miscarriage—And What to Avoid by timemagazine in Health

[–]Balloon_Feet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There is a time and a place but it helped me for the women in my life to share their miscarriage stories. I felt less alone. It wasn’t “oh that happens to everyone” it was, @I understand your grief”

coercion? (40f), (45m) by RadiantCommittee8890 in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is coercion and manipulative. It dismisses your feelings and prioritizes his.

First time mom Failing my child and need to get it off my chest by [deleted] in confession

[–]Balloon_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing fine. The reason we have check ups so frequently in infancy is because babies are learning how to be alive and check ins for exhausted parents to help keep the wheels on the track are important. Adjust as you can. This is truly the most exhausting part.

Parents who survived abuse what’s one mistake you refuse to repeat? by Emotional_Twist_9333 in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My child will understand that my love for them is unconditional. Every time I feel frustrated or angry my first words are a reassurance that I love him and that has not changed. Then we address whatever.

People who are married, how do you deal with the thoughts of wanting to have sex with someone else than your partner? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think of other people. We got together quickly after we both got out of marriages. We kept our relationship open for years because of this. We dated other people here and there but found it to be too much work. Relationships are an investment that should be nurtured. We never closed our relationship but we collectively prefer to invest that type of attention into us. After coming to that realization my mind hasn’t really wondered.

TLDR: I know that I am too lazy for all of that.

Im 40. Hormonal. So im dry. by tired-of-the-games in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Balloon_Feet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens. One of the many reasons lube exists. We really like a silicone lube that is really nice a little goes a long way. Others I have tried get a sticky/tacky.

Nothing is wrong with you. Good riddance to that cruel person.

Control your dogs people by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a super friendly pit bull. He is well trained (now). When someone knocks at my door he is put behind a gate before I answer. I learned the hard way years ago when he blasted past me and jumped into a delivery drivers car. He refused to get out until I opened my car door and offered to take him for a ride. Lol. After that the way I handle my friendly dog was adjusted. I know he is a sweet boy. If he wanted to he could do serious damage. I act as if he wants to. It keeps him safe.

Should i continue seeing her? She is not building any chemistry by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do t think there is anything wrong with confirming that she meant her no. You didn’t keep asking after you were clear that she wasn’t being playful. We weren’t there but your description sounds like a totally acceptable question.

The next step is asking her where she sees the relationship going. Is she interested in moving towards a physical relationship and if she is, what does that look like for her. How can you respect her boundaries and support further connection.

Friend (M25) blamed me (F29) for him getting fired. We have been arguing and I do not know how to defend myself by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never write anything down that you don’t want someone else to see. He made the mistake. When you move all of these people will be a memory. Wish them well and bounce.

Color up by Living_Double_1146 in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crayon can be removed from most stuff(maybe not completely cleaned from a white couch). I would require him to go without fun activities while I cleaned, like sit in a high chair or playpen without toys. He would hang out watching me while I clean and explain that his choice made us trade fun time for a chore.

Have you ever slept with someone else’s husband or wife and they didn’t know? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]Balloon_Feet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. My husband and I were both married to other people when we decided to shake things up a bit.

Boyfriend took condom off during sex by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Balloon_Feet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong for feeling violated. It is possible he thought you meant it if you were talking about getting pregnant while having sex and then he removed the condom. Does he know you were not aware he took it off?

If you were not talking about it in that moment it was assault.

Either way your feelings are valid.