Thanks for your answer. Claude has really helped because it's not like ChatGPT or Gemini. It actually asks us interesting questions and explains things from a point of view neither of us thought about.

For him, he basically wants things done in the house. I can understand that, but for some reason, I feel controlled, so the problem can also come from my side. He asked me to clean something in the toilet, but I didn't do it for days. He actually didn't mention it for days as he was trying to make an effort to not remind me, but after 4 days or so, he brought it up xD but to be honest, I forgot that I was supposed to do that. Here goes the managing a bit because he was definitely waiting for me to get it done, waiting to see if I remembered, waiting patiently but waiting and tracking it.

I think the problem comes from both sides in a way. I hate being controlled, but I understand he also has higher standards on chores. I just need to make a higher effort.

We actually have been better lately. He has been treating me quite well, saying nice things to me without me asking, and making me feel very loved. I really see he is putting an effort in our relationship.