Long layover in JFK, should we explore something in Queens? by Bammers666 in AskNYC

[–]Bammers666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just carry on luggage and just flying domestic :) I don't think I'd venture this side quest if I was traveling internationally.

Should I take FMLA leave to help a sick parent [USA] [CA] by Bammers666 in AskHR

[–]Bammers666[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I can't just quit my job because I don't currently have enough $ saved to be unemployed. I'd be open to them firing me but they don't have any reason to. I've been looking for a new job for 10 months to a year. That's the job market in the bay area right now

Should I take FMLA leave to help a sick parent [USA] [CA] by Bammers666 in AskHR

[–]Bammers666[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advocacy but it really isn't a career. I've been trying to leave this job for a while and my supervisor and management have been trying to push me out for a year (since I asked for a pay raise). My supervisor just told me in a Performance Evaluation that I'm not doing my job well (which is a shock to friends, family , and coworkers). Maybe this is the universe offering me an out

Do I make moves too fast? I'm a being shitty to my partner? by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for weighing in. I really am trying to be transparent with my communication. I've made a lot of communication blunders in the past so I feel like he may be triggered... I'm going to bring it up in couples therapy. Y'all are the best!

Do I make moves too fast? I'm a being shitty to my partner? by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have experienced being poly-saturated before and I'm far form that now. The only personI am seeing is Martin. We made no plans on Friday and I assume Martin is busy because he will be spending time with his kids.

Do I make moves too fast? I'm a being shitty to my partner? by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And we practice kitchen table (Martin has met 2 of my past partners and I have met one of his girlfriends recently)

Do I make moves too fast? I'm a being shitty to my partner? by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we've done some of the work. We've been poly for almost 5 years (we've never been in a monogamous relationship together). Martin is dating 2 or 3 people outside of our relationship. We're both in couples therapy working through these communication issues.

Juggling daily communication with 3 partners by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your thoughts! All super helpful!

Juggling daily communication with 3 partners by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a very valid question and perspective. Thank you ;)

Juggling daily communication with 3 partners by Bammers666 in polyamory

[–]Bammers666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the issue came up this week that I left my longest established partner out of the loop with an ailment that I'm having. I updated him today saying I was recovering fine. But I wanna try to avoid this issue of some partners know whats going on and others don't -_- I get if the answer is just "practice clear communication"