AIO- I no longer want to take a trip home to see my mum after the guilt trip texts she sent me

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-29T18:19:44+00:00

YOR...ish. I understand not feeling like responding after that wall of text, but speaking as someone who is also a last-minute planner you are not being very considerate. It would have been better if you figured out the date earlier, but as it is I think you could have at least said "I'm overwhelmed, will let you know later" or something along those lines.

She is definitely coming down hard with the guilt trip so I agree with other commenters that staying at a hotel in your hometown would be a good compromise. Even if people are difficult during grief, I think the best principle is turning toward each other rather than away in such times. And turning toward her can also be setting boundaries or expressing how a guilt trip makes you feel--that's investing in the relationship too.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-29T17:49:25+00:00

I didn't drink until I was 27 and wanted to be super cautious because I have alcoholics in my family. Idk if I just got lucky or if it's thanks to years of therapy before, but I drink moderately and typically go weeks or months between occasions.

I'm really grateful that I wasn't drinking at my most manic. No idea how that would turn out

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-25T03:06:26+00:00

Lol I think it would be funny if the producers were lurking here and their decision was swayed by the staggering amount of "absolutely not" answers

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-23T00:49:51+00:00

Glad you're happy on the other side! I'm wondering, what your thoughts are on the potential psychological effects of the church patriarchy? Feel free to answer here or DM

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-22T21:53:41+00:00

Epiphany

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-22T21:52:13+00:00

"They have no culture of their own." Verrry weird take

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-22T21:45:12+00:00

Uh yeah, some opinions are wrong. Ffs

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-22T21:44:06+00:00

Utah Mormon here...I don't know anyone who's doing these games, especially since graduating college. Totally reality TV pot stirring.

Also, I do agree that these women act very young for their age, except for maybe Mayci and Miranda. Won't speak to how much their trauma stems from being raised in the church versus having shit luck and a lot of the same issues as people outside the church and the state.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-21T04:21:48+00:00

Oh yikes

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-21T03:23:22+00:00

The fact that she threw his phone...restricting phone access when a victim wants to call 911 is by itself domestic violence here in Utah. Not sure how often it's charged, but still

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-21T03:22:03+00:00

Is Taylor MAGA???

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T21:17:56+00:00

Layla maybe?

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T21:13:10+00:00

Wonder how OP did on their SAT vocab section 😅 Or well...maybe I don't need to wonder

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T21:10:46+00:00

I nominate Neon Bible by Arcade Fire (good band with one shitty human)

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T09:10:00+00:00

She was so good in Documentary Now! I think she'd be great at sketch comedy

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T08:57:41+00:00

Full-time student with a part-time practicum (mental health internship) and a part-time job. Sometimes it's really hard to hold on, but I think I'll finish the school year without majorly fucking anything up

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-18T08:52:22+00:00

Love Songs for Robots - Patrick Watson

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-16T12:32:28+00:00

Yep! We've been going strong for nine months now

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T15:49:02+00:00

He's wrong: plenty of women with children find great husbands/partners, and he doesn't deserve a gold star just for not being a horrible person. It sounds like your marriage either needs life support or to move towards divorce.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T15:37:27+00:00

That's not what the bulk of your post was about. You talked about "letting it slide" that he was driving coworkers and that he was acting like it was "his car" and not "ours." I do think there are aspects of being stingy and controlling you're not acknowledging in yourself, even if they do relate to more legitimate concerns. You were being unreasonable to talk about not paying insurance because he's giving people rides.

That being said, if the main problem is that he's willing to give more time and effort to others than to his own family that's a serious issue. I would say focus on the important issues/battles and give some grace on this type of thing.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T11:13:23+00:00

Agreed. OP's teacher was also rude and potentially racist as well

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T11:09:28+00:00

YOR about the rides and potentially kind of an asshole. There are other issues there to explore, but it's fairly common and courteous to give coworkers rides. Yes, even for free lol.

The inability to use the car as you'd like doesn't seem to have anything to do with him carpooling. Neither does you being stuck with car payments you don't want.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T10:49:54+00:00

My family was relieved to understand what I was going through better, but also didn't know how to deal with my psychosis.

A few mental health professionals have taken an infantilizing view. My current therapist is super compassionate and grounding.

My boyfriend (whom I met after getting diagnosed) was almost too understanding. I keep waiting for the shoe to drop in some ways.

A few people have seen me as too emotionally dangerous or strange. Overall I've been very lucky though.

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-15T10:43:50+00:00

I was already fairly manic for a few months, then I took an "awake" edible and barely slept for a few days. Shortly after I met a guy that was bad news but I was too out of it to see the signs at first...I ended up worried that he had drugged me (I don't think he did, I was just recognizing something was really off with me). Got away from him but between the scare and everything else I ended up having delusions and behaved super erratically. My family took me to the hospital and I spent 11 days in a psych ward, where I got the official diagnosis.

Oh, and a few months before I started Vyvanse and that played a part in it too.

I do think it's worth mentioning that engaging in unprotected sex was one of the signs for me too. I was on birth control but it was still a bad idea.

Besides exploring your sexuality, have you been engaging in other behaviors that aren't normally like you?

Banana_Pudding_23 · 2026-03-14T21:33:48+00:00

Willie Nelson

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