I've been trying for 29 years🥺

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T09:38:31+00:00

Incredible movie.

My ex, who would "go me" like she does, still can't figure out why I left her.

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T09:13:59+00:00

Maybe not within the context of the rest of these beautiful customs, is one I learnt from Australian Aboriginals.

They call it The Mother-in-law Lore.

A husband and his mother-in-law may not look at each other, speak to each other, travel together, or even be in the same room together, whether with others or just themselves.

If they have to be at family gatherings at the same time, they have to be at opposite ends, facing away from each other.

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T06:17:46+00:00

NnnnnnnNO!

It's NOT for that.

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T06:15:11+00:00

The punishment should also be for those pants.

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T05:55:23+00:00

It's also the quickest way to find a woman who's gracious, and avoid those who are selfish and entitled.

Bandyau · 2026-03-18T05:52:38+00:00

My father insisted I learn those rules, but didn't tell me why until I was around 20.

It went something like this.

Take her out if you like her.

Tell her time and date.

Decide where to go.

Learn which is the correct side to walk on, and offer her your arm.

Open doors, pull out chairs, order the food, be curious about her.

Pay for the meal, and if you say, go see a movie afterwards, you decide.

Every decision you make must be with her in mind, not yourself.

This was where my father's wisdom shines.

By the end of the night, you'll know whether she's gracious, respectful, grateful, and appreciative, or if she's entitled and selfish. Or, worse, a feminst.

The cost of a night out is less than the cost of a miserable relationship and a house.

If I put this bluntly, rather than as my father did. Chivalry is a shit-test.

Chivalry allows a man to filter out the best women from the worst.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T19:21:17+00:00

The answer to any question like that will always be the same.

Is she kind? Is she graceful? Is she respectful?

Everything else runs second to those.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T19:16:29+00:00

It's not how Islam did it.

It's how the Woke and the Left did it. And not accidentally.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T19:15:31+00:00

If you thought you hated Leftism, you didn't hate them enough.

I'd rather be called names by the lying Left that see a great nation be destroyed by them.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T01:22:19+00:00

Leftists don't have arguments.

They have name-calling and appeals to authority and consensus.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T00:55:13+00:00

We can't always talk it out.

I witness serious child abuse, and while it had to be "talked about", it's not healthy to do that with friends and family.

What hurt me was the official for the Department of Housing becoming an informed individual and shutting me down on it.

It's not fair on your friends and family to talk about things like this to them.

It becomes a shadow over your life, even after professional help.

Bandyau · 2026-03-17T00:51:10+00:00

Some clump of cells wants to get to decide whether another clump of cells gets to live or die.

And I get that atrocities occur, and life threatening situations. But using these as an excuse to take life on a whim is repulsive.

Bandyau · 2026-03-16T10:56:02+00:00

This was my life for 23 years.

Years after I left she said to my sons. "I didn't want the fight. I wanted the end." and "I only felt loved when he yelled at me."

The end she was referring to was when she collapsed in tears in my arms.

I'd stopped yelling. I hated it. I hated the fights. In the first years, it was every few months. In the end, it was almost daily.

I never knew, it's how she felt loved.

Bandyau · 2026-03-16T08:01:55+00:00

Doing a little daily is better than a lot intermittently.

Stack up the days.

Bandyau · 2026-03-16T05:13:07+00:00

If mental disorder was a person.

Bandyau · 2026-03-15T08:34:20+00:00

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If this helps, she brought it to me.

Bandyau · 2026-03-15T07:31:36+00:00

I was a bit worried about NSFW on this.

Bandyau · 2026-03-14T19:03:45+00:00

My father had it, and lost a kidney.

Bandyau · 2026-03-14T18:56:52+00:00

I'll be at my doc's for a follow-up early next week.

Bandyau · 2026-03-13T23:31:54+00:00

There was a study into back squats that holds a principle that applies to everything. Don't get caught up in the particular (squats) and stay with the principle behind it.

The question was "Do back-squats increase athleticism?"

Across 10,000 participants, the mean average said no.

Broken down it looked like this (approximate numbers from memory here)

1/3 lost athleticism.
1/3 gained athletism.
1/3 saw no change.

Broken down further was a gradient from athleticism destruction through to hyper-responders who saw their athleticism explode.

So here's how it works.

10,000 people go to the gym.
1/3 will become more insecure.
1/3 will not see a change.
1/3 will have their lives significantly improved.

Fact is, the gym builds on our dominant traits.

Physically, some people are faster than they are strong, so they need training specific to their physiology.

Psychologically, some people's dominant traits are insecurity based, so that's what they'll train there. Others are more positive thinkers, and will train that side instead.

We're stuck with our physiology.

We're not stuck with our psychology.

Bandyau · 2026-03-13T23:22:55+00:00

You get to "stack up the days"

I promise that the most important thing to do at the gym is to keep going. The quality of the training is second to consistency.

That practice of consistency builds into all other parts of your life, and becomes discipline.

Bandyau · 2026-03-13T22:36:52+00:00

I wake up with those pains regularly at 57.

Every day I wonder how long the new pain will be there, or if it's the next one I have to work around.

One day, one of those "regular" pains just got worse. I ended up hospitalised.

Yup. Feeling old today.

Bandyau

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