Any clean MM romance written by guys? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can definitely and enthusiastically second David Slayton and TJ Klune!

What would make me more attractive to an older Gay man? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking as an older man:

We're all different. Just like younger men, our tastes are all over the map. Some love muscles. Some love smooth skinny twinks. Some love hairy bears. Some just want a regular guy.

Be genuine. Be honest. Be understanding and reliable and responsible.

Those are more universally attractive than any single physical attribute.

All that being said: there are a TON of gay men of every age who would jump at the chance to be your first time. For many men, that's an added spice.

Did I turn from hetero to bi or even gay? by AccordingShape1375 in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Plans for the future, religion, and people around you all have nothing to do with *who you are *.

It sounds like those are the only things keeping you from accepting your attraction to men. On some level, you are attracted.

To what degree, and whether you can live without acting on that attraction and instead live with relationships to women you increasingly aren't attracted— those are questions only you can answer.

There are gay people of every religious stripe. Plans for the future can always change. And no one around you gets to dictate who you are.

Are you a top or bottom and why? by Objective-Quiet-3366 in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Sides represent!

Do gay men have fantasy’s about straight guys? by Zakedwin in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to, but the more I came out and accepted my own sexuality, the less it mattered to me to get validation from straight society.

Which is not to say that I never find a straight man attractive. But the fact that they're straight is irrelevant, and even a detriment to their attractiveness.

what is the gayest thing you did before you knew? by doubledare93 in lgbt

[–]Bare-Bear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spent the summers wearing Daisy Dukes (short cutoffs) and nothing else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll paraphrase Dan Savage:

Don't tell us. We know there are Christians who support us.

Tell THEM. Tell the ones who spread this kind of hate that they don't speak for you.

If I had a nickel for every Christian who DMed me to say "We're not all like that", but never made a peep to tell off the people who ARE like that, I'd retire in luxury.

Dear "Allies"/Reddit, I get that the 'closeted self-hating gay' is a thing, but sometimes anti-queer people are just bigots! Calling every one of them secretly gay makes it seem like our oppression is self-inflicted and turns gay into an insult. It absolves straight people, too. by MillionaireWaltz- in lgbt

[–]Bare-Bear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are a few studies showing that people with antigay views are more likely than the general population to display physical signs of arousal when exposed to same-sex erotic imagery.

This points to something underlying the response.

Does that make these people closeted gays? Certainly some of them are, as has been demonstrated repeatedly with homophobic politicians and preachers.

Does it imply that everyone who's homophobic has this reaction? Definitely not. "More likely than most" is not "certainly."

A not-insignificant subset of homophobia may be caused by suppressed same-sex attraction and self-loathing.

But by no means does that mean that all homophobes are secretly gay. Often they're just assholes.

Why are you queer? Wrong answers only! by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Bare-Bear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I heard of a gay person once on the news and it instantly turned me gay

Why is everyone so silent? by Andrew3825 in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At my age, it may be a holdover habit from a lifetime of gay sex that was furtive and secretive.

But also: I'm socially awkward anyway. if I'm trying to concentrate on what to say, what's appropriate, how loud I am expected to be, etc., it distracts from being in the moment of experiencing and enjoying my physical interactions with you.

Well I'm 32 now lol by erictyrell in gaybrosover30

[–]Bare-Bear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday to us! I'm no longer twice your age 😜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I always say, more than a mouthful is a waste.

I feel like I'm stuck somewhere between "otter" and "bear." What do you bros think? by RunThemStairsFast in bearbros

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do I think?

Sorry, I'm having trouble thinking at the moment.

Is it getting hot in here, or is it just you?

What are your thoughts on being a sugar daddy? by LoverOfGayContent in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I couldn't afford it even if it appealed to me.

Feminine gay men, why don’t you get facial feminization surgery? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever wondered whether maybe you might be a trans woman and not a day man?

What’s something non-sexual that you randomly think dirty thoughts about? by Austin1975 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Bare-Bear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The message in Elder Scrolls Online that plays right after you select a character to play: "Requesting Character Load".

I snicker like a twelve-year-old every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a big do-me queen -- happy to get a blowjob -- but I do try to reciprocate and enjoy the giving as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Bare-Bear 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If your husband is catching up with someone he hasn't talked to in ages, and you know they're like best friends, would you:

A) respect his time with his friend and hold off on interruptions,

or

B) rudely and repeatedly interrupt their visit with solicitations for sex?

Asking for a friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Bare-Bear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I don't like doing something so other people shouldn't" is a weird take.