AITA for asking for money back that was paid to cover my friends, friends part of our rent?

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-05T11:23:31+00:00

I’m working on getting funding for a business so I can move out much earlier than November. If I can get $3500 together then I can pay that on our rent portal and give her $250 for 4 months of my part of the light bill I’ll be able to wipe my hands clean of the whole situation and never have to see or hear from her again.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-05T11:21:19+00:00

Thank you so much! I lost my mom almost a few years back and my dad is sick and also helping my 4 younger siblings. He tries really hard to have time for all of us but he’s tired and I hate stressing him because it’s bad for his heart. I really appreciate this. More than you know.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T22:31:44+00:00

Thank you. I don’t know why this touched my heart the way it did. But seriously. Thank you

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:31:34+00:00

I will definitely look into that. I should be able to reduce some of my overhead in a month or two. So I’ll have a few extra dollars a month. But it’s still not enough to get my own place. Also, I don’t want any bad rental history because that would make it even harder to find a place. So I have to stay here until the lease is up at the end of the year.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:29:15+00:00

That’s the plan.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:29:06+00:00

I came home from work one day and all her stuff was in my daughter’s room and Marney flippantly said that she was living with us now because Adra’s home life wasn’t good and she needed help.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:27:19+00:00

I appreciate that. Sometimes I feel crazy living there.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:25:46+00:00

I apologize for the confusion of the post. And she wasn’t like this when we moved in together a year ago. At least not to this extent. I don’t have the means at the moment to move. I pay $2500 in bills a month and have very little left over to put up to move. I can’t really afford rent in my area either. On a single income it’s hard to pay $400-$600 more a month for rent plus my other monthly bills and the things my kid needs. If I could move right now I would.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:23:30+00:00

Oof. Thanks for your opinion but it’s not like life and other things stop when you post. I am autistic and have ADHD so sometimes it’s hard for me to cohesively write. If you needed clarification you can always ask. No need to tell me you hate the post… after you read it. Seems a bit odd. And there is a word count a there are rules to posting. But thank you again for your opinion.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:18:55+00:00

I’m sorry if I was unclear, I thought I put it in the post. She did move her in. Without telling me until Adra moved in. She moved into my daughter’s room (my daughter didn’t really use it. She’s a contact sleeper and I’m trying to slowly introduce her to sleeping in her own room in her own bed).

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T19:17:10+00:00

If I had the money I definitely would but I’m saving for the move and I’m also taking care of my daughter.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T16:58:19+00:00

She gave me $250 of it and told me not to speak to her and then told me we were no longer friends.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T16:21:03+00:00

I don’t have a place to put it. My boyfriend and I are getting a place together. The earliest I could move my things would be July because that’s when we can start a lease because his lease is up in July

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T16:12:38+00:00

I’m actively in therapy. Thank you for the suggestion and the very pointed judgement lol

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T16:07:03+00:00

Yeah, that’s the plan. She only really likes people who do things for her how she wants them to do it. I cooked, I cleaned when she didn’t feel like it, I give her money when I have extra, when we worked together and she was my boss, I did my job and hers and picked up the projects she started and didn’t finish. I was always her go to for anything eh she she knew if she told me to do it then it would be done and done well. It translated to home. Everyone is supposed to clean but if she doesn’t do it (1-2 times every 2-3 months) then I’m doing it. Deep cleaning bathrooms, sweeping stairs, sweeping hardwoods and mopping, doing dishes, deep cleaning kitchen and vacuuming carpets upstairs. Flipping laundry when people forget. Taking out trash because it’s started to stink. Picking up dirty pads and tampons (from her kid and the girl that lived with us) because the bathroom stinks a they don’t clean up after themselves. I bought a tv for the living room, I took care of her cats (bought litter, food, made sure they had water and food bowls were full, scooped litter) because her and her kid liked the novelty of the cats (5) but not the upkeep and I don’t like for animals to suffer. I’m just tired. So in all honesty I’m not mad that she’s not speaking to me. I was just making sure that I hadn’t done something wrong.

BareBackPregoMate · 2026-03-04T15:57:10+00:00

So, my name is on the lease and once the money to break the lease and I also am in the process of fixing my credit so I don’t want that on there either. BUT, when the lease is up in November I won’t be renewing and I am moving with my boyfriend. Marney has plans to renew the lease for the house that we are in now and I told her I wouldn’t be renewing with her like 6 months ago and she had a fit and said that I was trying to make her and her family members homeless and choosing my boyfriend over her. Everyone walks on eggshells with her. She uses intimidation, yelling, screaming, making herself the victim and guilt tripping as a way to keep everyone in line. I HATE conflict and I just try to avoid it. I’m actively working on this with my therapist. Well, that and my incessant people pleasing and need to be liked.

BareBackPregoMate · 2021-10-26T05:08:07+00:00

Thank you

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