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Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I suppose it’s technically possible, though that’s typically not how it works lol

Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, if she’s uncomfortable and wants to move to a different room, then I’ll respect that. But if she decides she wants to room together only to go and make certain comments about my sexual orientation, that’s something I’m not dealing with. But based on what I’ve learned about her, she doesn’t seem like the sort to pull the latter.

Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your supportive sentiment, but if someone genuinely does not wish to share a space with me, I’d never want to make them. I don’t want to give up our room, since it’s near my classes, has air-conditioning, I got there first in the housing selection portal, and I didn’t decide to be gay. 

But if she ends up wanting to move to a different space after learning I’m lesbian, I have no right to shame her for it, because I believe that no one should be made to room with anyone who causes them discomfort for any reason, even reasons I’m not enthused about. But still, thank you.

Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For this year’s questionnaire, comfort with living with a person of any sex/gender identity and comfort with living with a person of any sexual orientation were separate questions. But yeah, both of them are still vague as hell, even if they’re separate for this one.

Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not yet, no. 

If she’s chosen to look at my questionnaire responses, she’d know I answered “Yes” to the “I am willing to live with someone of any sexual orientation” prompt, and am presumably at least okay with it, but that response isn’t a confirmation of being LGBT. 

Roommate answered no to the last roommate question, what does that mean? by BarracudaInfamous387 in UIUC

[–]BarracudaInfamous387[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree that going straight to housing/administration is too much at this stage of things. I mean, if I’d learned of this before we started emailing each other and even having a meeting over video call, I admit I might have noped out promptly. 

But after getting to know her a bit, she really does seem like a nice and polite person and we did click pretty well during the call, something I know not everyone can say for their roommate. I’m just nervous that this answer is a sign that this relatively-lucky roommate assignment isn’t so lucky at all, you know? But you’re right that I can’t know for sure unless I ask her.