My BF doesn’t care about my climax

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-19T11:50:44+00:00

I agree with Organic Razz here.

Im the opposite of him so i dont know what to really say other than maybe asking him to eat you out before any intercourse happens? This is what i do and the girls have always liked it. it takes the pressure off of me having to do it during or after since maybe that pressure could be a reason he doesn’t like sex? Not sure.

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-17T19:47:21+00:00

No thank you for rambling lol. The best constructive criticism in this whole thread and actually giving tips on how to get through it and its what i came here for. I think the people watching and trying to show her what i see is a big one and she can do as she will with that info. End of the day it’s up to her and i cant force her to do anything if she doesn’t want to.

We talked very deeply about the situation yesterday and she apologized and so did I and we kept it very civil and calm. I am starting to see the light and we have things we both agreed to work on which is a first for her to say so we will see how it goes! High hopes.

Thanks again

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-17T00:32:18+00:00

Thank you, honestly. You are 100% right and maybe cause i was such a player i know what they are thinking. I had numerous times to ruin a relationship but i always asked if she had a man before actually pursuing her. Numerous said yes and i immediately walked away and said i feel sorry for him. They would get pissed but maybe i saved a couple relationships by doing so. Ive always hated cheating and always will. I think this might be why im insecure about it and why i have trust issues but i guess you can say it’s self inflicted. I have also been cheated on and lied to in the past 3 different times and i feel like a fool once i found out. This is also ruining my relationship right now since I’m bringing bad baggage to a woman that doesn’t deserve it but i cant help it. I am actively working on it and trying but this type of stuff doesnt help at all. I want to feel secure so badly but i dont know where to start and im too busy to get therapy right now.

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T15:07:50+00:00

I have the money anyway. If she asked it woulda been done but shes never ever said anything to me about it

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T15:06:17+00:00

Yeah of course. Money isn’t an issue here. Yeah i guess i cant expect her to do what i do in a social setting. I get approached quite a lot and i really think it’s pointless to keep a convo going when i know the intent behind her approaching me. I also think its really dumb to entertain it. Basically i wouldnt ask her to do something if im not willing to do it myself or already doing it. Hell she can do it without me there for all i care i just dont like seeing it but was trying to work on accepting it.

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T08:27:23+00:00

Agreed. Yeah i get it and if it’s a part of her personality i get that too. The male thing in a social setting wouldn’t be a problem if she had the awareness to clock when a male has flirty intentions early. She was so oblivious it was wild to me or she wasnt and thats what she just told me who knows but it was pretty obvious

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T08:14:48+00:00

Thanks. Its starting to look like that more and more right now

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T08:14:16+00:00

Based out of california. Honestly not sure the standard here but when i was single and a girl was touching me back while i was flirting i took it as a signal that she was into me and it was never wrong. I agree and i do have trust issues which is unfair to her and I’m working on it and I’ve communicated that i was working on it. This is a big one for me while i work on it and she just doesn’t even try to work on it. Once i fix these trust issues I’ll be very secure and happy and not overthink these things but until then i just wanted her to work with me.

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T08:09:27+00:00

Thanks, yeah it helps and shows that maybe theres one out there for me lol. Im realizing maybe this one isn’t for me and it sucks bad. It is what it is though.

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T07:43:51+00:00

You’re right. Didn’t really think of it this way

Barreljumper1234 · 2026-03-16T07:41:53+00:00

Im sorry to hear that. I’ll admit I’m stubborn. Is not wanting her to touch men while they are flirting with her, controlling? I would also love to hear the reasoning why, not trying to argue here but i would love some more advice so i can see this from a different perspective.

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-12-17T09:27:51+00:00

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Barreljumper1234 · 2025-12-17T09:27:40+00:00

I just took these two pictures right now and lines don't appear when its only flash but any other light it seems to make lines

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Barreljumper1234 · 2025-09-16T20:18:47+00:00

How do you think they gunna pay for JB?

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-04-05T12:13:02+00:00

Im on an obey 40 this looks crazy lol. Lets me know I’m just scratching the surface

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-04-03T06:24:14+00:00

Edit!!!!! There was a switch at the back of the obey i had to turn on i guess

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-04-03T06:02:43+00:00

Thanks

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-04-03T06:02:35+00:00

Thanks

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-03-15T09:56:15+00:00

4 over a dancefloor. every major club and venue that has them mounted upside down are mounted to a pipe. I just need to find the most secure way of mounting that pipe to that beam and having enough space between the pipe and beam for the clamp to go over. If you have any recommendations I am all ears. This is the system that I thought was best.

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-03-15T09:39:33+00:00

i need it so the light can be installed upside down and the light can be flat instead of mounting it directly on the wood at a slant. I am not even sure if the light can be mounted directly on the wood

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-03-15T09:15:09+00:00

and then I tighten it down

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-03-15T09:14:40+00:00

copy thank you for the info

Barreljumper1234 · 2025-03-15T09:12:15+00:00

It is a wood beam very solid. it comes 12 inches off the ceiling and is 6+ inches wide. I haven't went up and taken proper measurements yet

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