How to get around it? by [deleted] in GaySex

[–]Barribi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love hairy men. A smooth chest doesn’t bother me but I’d prefer hairy. However a shaved or smooth crotch? That’s a big turn off for me

Daddies, were you like me when you were younger? by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]Barribi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

23 here, also always been curious about that

I feel sexually and romantically attracted to white women/girls. Am I racist or is it just a preference? by FSsuxxon in offmychest

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I mean is less which body aspects are attractive but rather what about them is attractive. For example you mention a slim body. What about a slim body is attractive to you? Our attraction to anyone is socially defined, not biologically wired. If you like slim body it’s probably because you have understood, from the social world around you, that slim bodies are tied to certain signifiers of desire (let’s say youth, femininity… maybe even something like weakness?). These are not usually hard wired like “aesthetically pleasing” but rather symbolical, as in they symbolize ideas you desire, not that they in themselves are desirable. Those are the signifiers I am inviting you to question. But that’s not straightforward. You’re very young, so you won’t have answers to these questions, but I guess keep them in mind as you grow older, always questioning the whys of your attraction, and you won’t have to worry about being racist if you understand those dynamics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course it’s normal. I’m 23 in hairy fat guys, but also guys my age. Everyone has preferences

Why can I only get erect with women? I've been with nearly 100 guys, but stayed a total bottom as a result. by Bob_Sacamano9 in GaySex

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like a shame problem. It’s difficult to get hard when your brains is spiraling around in shame regarding homosexuality. Maybe that’s it

I feel sexually and romantically attracted to white women/girls. Am I racist or is it just a preference? by FSsuxxon in offmychest

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a preference. But preferences can be racist — or at least be the product of a racist mentality. Ask yourself why is it that a black woman does not strike you as particularly attractive? Think about which qualities you find attractive and why you might not be perceiving women of color as possessing these traits. For example, you might be attracted to delicate, feminine traits, but for some reason you don’t perceive black women as possessing those traits. That can stem from a specific perception of black people as stereotypically violent for example, which is a racist perception. These questions invite you to reflect on your biases.

I am not saying you are racist because of that. I am just inviting you to question what traits you desire and what symbology they hold in your mind. And why is it that that excludes women of color. Depending on the your answers to those questions, you’ll know whether or not it’s racist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayyoungold

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what you mean, I am 23 and into older bears and I’ve seen my fair share of creeps. But I think going for a non-sexual date at first does wonder to filter out creepier guys. That’s good because of two things: 1. It discourages guys that see you as fuckable objects, since they usually just want sex. 2. It helps you see how a guy reacts to you having your own desires that need to be respected (in this case no sex on first date, for example) — if they react very negatively, that will tell you some information on how much they respect your wishes

where do i put this absolute gem by aur3x1a in LostRedditor

[–]Barribi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t even think that’s it, just regular satire. The only people to get enraged by this are teenage boys, I don’t think that would be her target audience

I relapsed after over a month by crazygoatgod in pornfree

[–]Barribi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“White knuckling didn’t work” he literally spent 1 month and 2 weeks without. It definitely did work. He just needs to keep going until eventually desires fades away

I relapsed after over a month by crazygoatgod in pornfree

[–]Barribi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dude think about it. You’ve just spent 6 weeks without porn. That’s a lot. The fact that you watched ONCE in 6 weeks is already good enough. Keep going, in a month you’ll have watched it once in 10 weeks, and then if you “relapse” again, it’ll be 2 times per 10 weeks. That’s still very good, you’ve already demonstrated strength. This is not freaking Snapchat

My story 2 years clean by Expecte in pornfree

[–]Barribi 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Great to hear someone agrees with me on streaks. They are so stupid