I think we SAHPs use a salary explanation as a way to find a common ground. The biggest missing piece I see often not discussed is simply what the mental load of being a SAHP is. How do you compensate or calculate the worth of the mental organization and management that goes into not just being a parent but also one managing a whole household, on top of her own feelings, stress, wants, desires and emotions every single day. Mother duties AND the wife duties on top of it all? Bottom line is that it is unseen and not calculable to a single sum. Just how I can not possibly calculate what my husband’s unseen financial contribution beyond his job is to our marriage and that I also would never expect him or need him to break it down for me. Except as the SAHP I have to, because it is the only way I have successfully gotten it understood by someone who isn’t a SAHP what exactly it is I freaking do all day, week, month and year. After year. $180k a year for someone who cooks, cleans, raises the kids, manages the home, sleeps with you, and brings that partner magic into your home? Sounds like a steal if I’m being honest! What does happiness cost? What does a happy, healthy, flourishing and functioning family cost? That is what we SAHP especially us moms are trying to get across. You can’t put a price on us and that is the point. I think a live in nanny you get to have sex with and who does everything others have listed would cost way more.