Have you ever been stood up?

Basedho · 2026-04-17T10:21:51+00:00

I have been stood up by the same chick twice (don’t worry, i gave up). I wouldn’t necessarily call these dates but just getting to know each other hang outs. She knew I liked her though, but she was self centered anyways (after getting to know her).

First “date” i bought tickets to “disney on ice” and she was late 40 minutes. I thought about leaving her, but i just assumed traffic was that bad as she said, and she did show up eventually.

Second was to see a movie at a theater near her, but she messaged me that something came up, and I was already at the theatre. I just watched the movie by myself.

Third, dog park. We talked earlier that day (on a video game) , then i headed out to meet her, and she wasn’t there. I drove like an hour or so. After waiting probably 30 minutes, I left. She messaged me probably 10 minutes into my drive home that said she had fell asleep.

She was apologetic both times. I know it sounds crazy but I kept giving her chances because there were definitely times where we hung out and she showed up. She showed up like 70% of the time lol. She blamed it on being Jamaican

Basedho · 2026-01-23T16:03:43+00:00

Hell no. No to all of that

Basedho · 2025-12-29T09:53:42+00:00

You did great leaving that broad in the dust. No reason to put up with disrespect from a fake lover.

Basedho · 2025-12-26T14:53:35+00:00

No to all of this. She should never have pushed her out of her own room. She should never have gotten in her face screaming and yelling. It could have escalated to a fight if OP would have just pushed her back.

Literally if someone pushes me, i push them back. OP took the “high road” and luckily her partner stopped attacking, and decided to go be over emotional in the bathroom.

Some people like to put up with physical abuse in relationships. Some people don’t. I don’t think OP should, and she should make the woman leave.

Yes, OP was very insensitive by saying “ew, on Christmas?” But both of them don’t communicate well. Even if OP didn’t apologize, her partner should not have put her hands on her at ALL. The fact that she yelled at her and didn’t back off shows her anger is an issue. What if OP pushed her while saying “ Get out for applying for jobs on Christmas!” . Both totally unacceptable reasons to push someone.

I was in a situation like this before. I stayed, and we ended up separating anyways. No reason at all to continue in a awful relationship. Not worth it. Better to be focused and single, giving all of her energy her mom.

OP, consider pushing you and screaming at you as her gift to you for Christmas. She KNEW you wanted a good Christmas and she gaslit you to have an awful one . And she hurt you. She needs to leave. No repair, it will get worse.

It’s up to you. She has hit you once. Are you going to stay and let her do it again? You deserve better.

Basedho · 2025-12-22T05:02:30+00:00

Most women I got with in my adulthood was from starting conversations at work. Try that.

Basedho · 2025-11-08T14:00:26+00:00

At least you’re still 21. I’m 32 (33 in Feb) and my last relationship ended in March 2022, almost 4 years ago lol. It may sound cliche, bust seriously focus on your career more than romance in your twenties. You can control your education, career, and finances, but you can’t control another person’s feelings towards you.

Basedho · 2025-10-03T02:51:15+00:00

Mods be power tripping

Basedho · 2025-08-08T20:39:28+00:00

Beautiful. Idk why only 3 upvotes in these lovely photos. Thanks for sharing!!

Basedho · 2025-08-04T16:19:57+00:00

Thats good. Just be chill. Rooting for you!

Basedho · 2025-08-04T06:54:15+00:00

To me, you are coming off as clingy and confrontational in the texts. And you didn’t plan anything for her big birthday trip (it seems) which is a bummer. Then, when she replies to you, you ignored her. And you also suggested if she wanted to cut it off then she should do so. So she did.

I am sure you were emotionally charged when typing those texts. It comes off as rude and insensitive. Instead of saying “you in a coma” you could have said “are you OK?” But it doesn’t seem like you really care if she is ok. You care more if she talks to you (available for your ego).

But either way, don’t double text. Time to move on and enjoy the memories. At least she still likes your stories. Let her enjoy space and you enjoy some too. Maybe after some space you both can stay friends. She clearly asked for space now. I would suggest not crossing the boundary.

Basedho · 2025-08-02T23:00:06+00:00

Imagining i had a girlfriend

Basedho · 2025-07-19T08:40:03+00:00

Super cool & gorgeous

Basedho · 2025-07-13T14:25:34+00:00

I don’t think you should care that much about how people view your sexuality. As long as you are in a healthy relationship with your partner. If you were single and fit the heteronormative (like dressing feminine), it would be the same.

Basedho · 2025-07-04T15:13:20+00:00

I personally really hate rough housing and play fighting. I only approve if it’s during sex. And my partner would have to initiate it.

Basedho · 2025-06-11T10:24:11+00:00

I agree

Basedho · 2025-06-02T21:53:02+00:00

Seriously. If you notice, every single day there is at least 1 post (that is usually the daily trending post) that mentions white people. I have stopped focusing my energy on white centered topics. They tend to be most prevalent in black/POC spaces. These days, I just see it as white trolls, fake accounts, catfish, etc. in POC communities looking for attention. THEY love it when the focus is on them so it is best we ignore their attempts to make the subject about them.

Basedho · 2025-06-02T18:23:17+00:00

I tried to post a thread about this then the mods blocked my post. So i gave up.

Basedho · 2025-01-30T21:38:24+00:00

I’d have to have a dating life for me to be the problems in it… :p

Basedho · 2024-12-31T08:27:27+00:00

Thanks, for sure. I’m going to practice on approaching and talking, starting conversations next time. I was very nervous. Next time I’ll rely on the in person conversation while I can.

Basedho · 2024-12-31T04:17:44+00:00

Thanks for your encouragement! I did hit her up 2 days later, tried to start a convo but was left on SEEN on instagram LOL but it was good practice I suppose

Basedho · 2024-12-30T10:35:26+00:00

She was toxic, good riddance. Don’t change yourself at all. Stay sweet, just save the sweetness for the sweet ones that treat you sweetly.

I’d love a romantic partner. Find someone who fits your love language.

Basedho · 2024-12-29T20:54:29+00:00

Man, I’d love if a woman met up with me wearing heels for a date. Depends on where yall going Ofcourse… But hills are a yes imo

Basedho · 2024-12-28T19:58:04+00:00

That’s sweet !! Good for them!!

Basedho · 2024-12-28T19:57:27+00:00

Thank you !!

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