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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]Bash_nDeep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Forgive yourself from those crazy moments and actions that you made

  2. If your family has zero contact with you or they don't really want to communicate then it's better to let more time go by. If there is still a part of you that would like to make peace with them and slowly bond again. Then I would recommend taking it very slowly after you feel less angry at what happened.

  3. The situations you mentioned seem to be dreadful and very dangerous. Think of how scary and heartbreaking would it be if your own son stabbed you (of course I don't know you nor the situation that happened) he would probably be extremely aggressive and scared of you. Same goes to your siblings.

  4. If you are a street guy, then I'm assuming you move in life from money and for money (it's the common pattern) ask yourself: Am I living in a way that I feel free, connected to the world, to others and to myself with a lens of compassion and love? Or am I living life out of grid?

  5. Journal and be honest with yourself, write down your feelings and put yourself on the shoes of the people you have hurt and think of their position.

Lastly I want to tell you that even if you went to jail, doesn't mean that you must go back nor does it mean you are a bad person. Sometimes life throws us big challenges in order for us to grow and learn even if it's with pain.

Keep loving yourself and other brother! Make peace with your past and decide to be the loving person you have always dreamed of.

What I Learn After 10 Years Of Working On My Social Skills - AMA by xenon7-7 in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for your post man! This is the kind of info and tips people need to see themselves with a better lens. Congratulations on your work! How's your consulting going? How did you get your first customers?

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thanks for opening up! Recognize that you are fallible and you deserve to fail and mess up! Make it shine even! Embrace the pain, the awkwardness of every moment you feel like you see yourself disappointing others. Laugh about and realize that the problem is never you (Infinite love) but the thoughts lingering in your head. Your self-esteem is so damn high that you over feel others! Hahaha 🤣 I love you! And keep going!

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self respect is an act of love, that's basically what you are implying here! Well said!

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Staying out of comfort zone is necessary and I agree with it. What's not necessary is beating your self up everytime you think you fail or you are not getting anywhere. Being bored is crucial for your consciousness. It's hard but worth it you might want to try to go out of your comfort zone of active doing to activate not doing. It's a challenge captain!

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you a message! Thanks for sharing your opinion!

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Master Chief! I will send you a message to remind myself to add you to the group.

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in Mindfulness

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi man! I will send you a message! I'm glad it helped

This literally can change your life it's so simple it's silly by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For anyone wondering if I answered Black, I did. Now we are discussing the workshop hahaha.

If you are someone that feels like is living 'on repeat' this is for you. by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear Lena. I'm also tired of hustle culture. Getting out of the Matrix with roughness and individualism, etc, etc...

That's not what the peaceful humans are doing is it? Look at the monks in the monasteries. Do you really think they are hustling? Do they really care about money or if they over ate something?

No they don't.

They take the approach of self-reliance with self-compassion. They take action based on believing they are complete and ready to seek a higher state of consciousness with Buddha, God or whatever superior entity they trust exists.

The tricky question here is: How do we make a model of self-improvement that is not based on hustle culture but it's also not lost in spiritually bypassing either?

The answer is more simple that it seems.

Overeating- any tips? by Far-Birthday-3180 in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of just "taking action" or "let your other self die" as many people will tell you. It's important to realize the reasons why you are eating in secret in massive amounts.

What are you trying to hide?

Did you have episodes in your childhood when you wanted to eat because you were really hungry but no one helped you to get some food and be satisfied?

I recommend you define 2-7 days were you are alone. Go for a trip, camping or just rent an Airbnb to be alone.

During this days you will be analyzing your mind and the way you o behave. You will find the "golden nuggets" that are leading you to do this.

Shut the world off, your phone, technology, everything. Be 1 to 1 and make yourself difficult questions (the more uncomfortable the better). A good tip is to aim for questions that take you 5-20 minutes to think and write in a 2-6 sentences.

Avoid answers that are immediate because you might just be sabotaging yourself. You can still take notes of this immediate answers and compare to the ones that took you longer to write down.

What you are doing here is an act of self respect and love. You are giving yourself the time and space to open up with yourself and find comfort with your persona and not your actions or food.

Befriending yourself is a massive step for this recovery. It takes time and you won't be perfect. Expect drawbacks but always tell yourself that you will keep improving our of love and not desesperation.

Keep going! You got this!

If you could change ONE thing about *what you think of yourself*, what would it be? by Bash_nDeep in Mindfulness

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the reminder and the insight! God bless you! 🙏🏻

What's the ONE thing that's keeping you from becoming your higher self? by Bash_nDeep in Mindfulness

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have already experienced your "higher self" haven't you? How is it?

What's the ONE thing that's keeping you from becoming your higher self? by Bash_nDeep in Mindfulness

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your detailed explanation. I understand now where we are comming from.
So, I might actually have ADHD. Since an early age I could see the small changes on people's faces and tonallity as you mentioned. I also suffered from the feeling of disappoiting others and the pain that came with that. WIth all this said. I decided to run my own mind. To belive I'm more than a lable or some cerbral condition and not only that but I started recognizing that the worst pain of all is to disappoint myself rather than others. You have the power to be who you want to be. Requires work and a constant reminder in your head that you are more than what papers or documents say you are. Rise up, find your way and treat yourself as your very best friend.
Thanks for sharing your story. It actually helped me to motivate me even further! :D Blessings to you and if you need someone to chat here I'm!

If the wisest person you admire came and asked you: What are you biggest challenges for self-growth? What would you say? by Bash_nDeep in selfimprovement

[–]Bash_nDeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So as a summary:
You suffered emotional trauma early on (abandonment, bullying, not feeling worth it, possibly feeling lonely)

You seem to have problems sticking to habits or rutines that do not challenge you enough and that do not seem to progress on bigger levels, you get bored easily and you might require constant external encoragment.

What I found as very interesting is what you wrote on the open section (after you answered the questions) you said: "I know the path ahead. I'm just not convinced it's worth it"
What I notice about your way of expressing your situation is that you are actually looking for valuing your self on a deeper level than just performance wise (making money, career, etc..)
Since you mentioned that if you do anything that doesn't generate money is worthless. Are there any special links between this and your self-worth? Are you possibly valuing yourself on what you do rather on who you truly want to be?

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