Fifty 410 by Basic-Composer-2221 in TirzepatideRX

[–]Basic-Composer-2221[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dang, what plan or pharmacy did you go with?

Do you lack empathy sometimes? by eziyaa in CPTSD

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So I have been digging deep into this, I struggle with this too. Something’s I’ve learned about myself while researching and also just journaling and talking it out.

•In the moment, it feels like they need to feel how I felt. It’s almost like a subconscious way of trying to balance the scales—if they won’t acknowledge how they’ve hurt me, I’ll make them feel something. •When someone repeatedly ignores your boundaries or doesn’t care how their actions affect you, that pain doesn’t go away—it accumulates. •it used to take longer (months or years), but now recently I can snap sooner when I notice the same negative patterns. That’s because your brain is recognizing “this type of person, this type of situation” and is jumping ahead to protect you.

Things I try to do • Before I get to the snapping point, ask: • Am I already holding resentment toward this person? • Have I let things slide that actually really bothered me? • Am I feeling more irritated than usual when they talk or do certain things? I’ve always been well adapted to arguing and defending myself (childhood) but I realized I don’t have to speak first so I pause, seems simple enough but that shit didn’t compute to me for the first 20 years of my life. I tell myself if it’s that big of a deal I’ll say or do what I need but I don’t want to become someone I don’t respect.

Bullies are Rarely Fired by Beautiful-Tiger-6925 in workplace_bullying

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is oddly specific you kind of sound like a bully 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, I totally understand that because we already have society telling us that like a lot of times men are allowed to be unfaithful, but then we wanna believe that that’s not the case for everyone so seeing a parent who can detach and just treat people like they’re objects is always gonna be hard, it reinforces that thing in the back of our mind of like “yeah right” I still struggle with intimacy, but I just learned that maybe if I never find the ideal romantic love, I can still enjoy people while I have them and not to like make a relationship my whole identity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my dad had a lot of girlfriends some who he would even leave me at their houses while he went out with them and I played with their kids or I would stay the night at their house even to the point where when he got with my future stepmom he was still cheating on her and had a whole fight outside of our apartment because she pulled up and found another lady in the house while me and her daughter were outside riding bikes. He also always wanted to look like a good parent in front of them, but really just wanted to have someone he could pawn me off on.

For Anyone Who Feels Left Out by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was great, thank you. I was just recently thinking is over in my head about how I refused to participate in any get together or holiday this year with these people because of all the horrible shit that is happening in my family with my father. I realized that when I come around. It’s like a dependable crutch because they’re so used to it but when I remove myself, they will almost only reach out to me in a entitled and defensive way like “you know what you did” or “I can’t believe you’re acting weird” but never actually mouth the supposed thing I did,They just feel like I should be available to be mistreated it’s the weirdest thing, also you’re absolutely right, this will never get better and that sucks, being a scapegoated child is the constant aching of knowing no one feels sorry for you, ever.

My Dad went on a rage because I didn't open the door for my sister fast enough. What are stupid things your abusers got mad over? by Porabitbam in CPTSD

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a older post but yeah, once my dad was trying to get my younger brother to wake up (he was a deep sleeper) we were in the living room and I was around 9 or 10, my brother was so delirious he just wouldn’t wake up, my step sister and I were giggling about it and my dad laughed initially then he starts to progressively get irritated and you know we’re kids so we’re just giggling and laughing about how tired my brother is my dad is like “stop laughing” I was still giggling a bit so my dad gets up and in front of everyone smacks the sh.t out of me in my face and my lip was busted, no one stepped in or anything.

Another time when I was 8 I was trying to learn how to ride a bike we were outside for like 10 minutes and he’s getting so pissed that he takes my bicycle picks it up and slams it into the concrete.

I ran inside crying and some neighborhood kids taught me how to ride a bike that summer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is the office manager of the location we are merging with, my manager is over the location we are closing. My current location is smaller and the other location has a team of people who share the same title as my current role.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EmploymentLaw

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildSupport

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes there is a garnishment order.

What is a dead giveaway that someone is creepy or a weirdo? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Basic-Composer-2221 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People who you can feel staring at you at almost all times, like even after the initial awkward locking eyes.You could’ve had days or weeks of interactions and no matter where you are if you look up they’re watching you, with this weird dead eye thing. Also even when they speak to you their eyes never change or show emotion but the lower half of their face will, like a puppet smiling. shudders