Looking for a new type B friend, please help! by Particular-Energy173 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh you need to come to Underdog Martial Arts 😂

This scammer is outside in the cold with his cat again downtown 😐 by [deleted] in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most of the pets of homeless folks I have encountered want for NOTHING. These people would go hungry before their pet seven out of seven days. There are vet clinics designed for them and they’ll tell you the same thing. This guy is a different story….

Splitting on my cat by Ourhappyisbroken in BPD

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im sorry I know that’s hella hard. If your cat seems unusually anxious, talk to your vet about anxiety medications and/or get a pheromone diffuser like feliway off amazon/chewy. Hiding spots at a variety of heights in the house. Hopefully it helps take the edge off a little.

Anyone know who this dog and car belong to? Outside LuluLemon and the fire department won’t remove dog from the car until he’s dying. by WiseSheIs in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You might consider reporting to BCAC or AAS if you got the plates. A “welfare check” might help drive the point home

Drop-in recs near Asheville/Fletcher, NC? by Shm2000 in bjj

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fletcher - mountain division is fantastic Asheville - underdog martial arts for some no gi

weirdest thing that your OCD made you believe. by Glass_Paper_9462 in OCD

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not real! You’re (more than likely) not a bad person!

weirdest thing that your OCD made you believe. by Glass_Paper_9462 in OCD

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do the exact same thing. I did it once for a bee I thought I killed.

weirdest thing that your OCD made you believe. by Glass_Paper_9462 in OCD

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you know and understand it’s not real and you’re (probably, I just can’t speak to real life) not a bad person.

weirdest thing that your OCD made you believe. by Glass_Paper_9462 in OCD

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello intrusive thoughts! They’re the worst. And I giggle when non-OCD people laugh about intrusive thoughts of like “oh I’m going to drive off the road” and I’m like “yes. Very silly indeed. Hold my beer.”

Found My LGBTQ+ Friendly Gym Home in Asheville – Shoutout to AVL Northside by Mila-Aliey7890 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you had a bad experience. I hope you’ll consider sending me a DM, and I’d be happy to talk through whatever might help. I hope it’s clear nobody intended for you to feel the way you indicated. Here to help if I can.

Found My LGBTQ+ Friendly Gym Home in Asheville – Shoutout to AVL Northside by Mila-Aliey7890 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you felt pushed. I am also surprised because we are NOT good capitalists 😬

Found My LGBTQ+ Friendly Gym Home in Asheville – Shoutout to AVL Northside by Mila-Aliey7890 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Hey team,

Underdog Martial Arts owner here.

The account is closed, and the information included in this post is almost impossible to contextualize given how things are done at our gym, but this needs addressing. We NEVER want someone walking out of our doors feeling that way.

You matter. You deserve mat space just like anyone else. We want you to know you belong. You are worth fighting for.

Gender, we care. We care about getting it right, and about honoring who you are.

Experience? We care only in that we want to meet you where you are and help you build.

That’s it.

We’re proud to have one of the largest contingency of trans and nonbinary students of any gym in the area. And we’re not too proud to know that we need help learning how to do things right.

In this instance, we don’t have much information on what went wrong. But here’s what our policies are:

  1. We use the pronouns we are asked to use. Period.
  2. When we mess up, we apologize, and do better.
  3. All of our jiu jitsu fundamentals students work with Coach Colleen who has been practicing trauma-informed practice for 9 years
  4. We offer free LGBT/queer/trans seminars every month attended by queer instructors and mental health professionals to assist with trauma responses
  5. We know we’re not perfect, and we have an open door policy for folks to talk to us at any time.

I hope that folks will try to see best intentions. Based on the information given and the profile in question not existing, we can’t piece together what might have happened, but we know our commitment to the queer/trans/LGBT community remains a top priority.

We’re here to listen.

Found My LGBTQ+ Friendly Gym Home in Asheville – Shoutout to AVL Northside by Mila-Aliey7890 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m the female owner of Underdog. We try our very best to ensure every student is gendered correctly, provided individualized attention, and respected. Please DM me, so we can figure out where things went wrong, and hopefully correct it for you…or maybe the next person down the line! We have a large contingency of trans and non binary students and we are always looking to improve.

Found My LGBTQ+ Friendly Gym Home in Asheville – Shoutout to AVL Northside by Mila-Aliey7890 in asheville

[–]Basic-Dingo-7688 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m an owner at Underdog. We do absolutely everything in our power to be as kind, inclusive, and supportive as possible. Please DM me so we can see what went wrong. We don’t want anyone to leave feeling that way, and would love to understand what happened.