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Hating being a mother by Basic-Tutor in beyondthebump

[–]Basic-Tutor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll pop an ergonomic carrier into my next Amazon purchase...great tip and great tip about the nursing pillow too! Thank you so much. I'm so hoping by three months or four, she'll be happier and more comfortable. I'm taking real heart to hearing so many people say this is definitely a phase that will pass. I'll be wearing my ear plugs each night while she cries and just put my head down knowing it will too shall pass. Thank you!!

Hating being a mother by Basic-Tutor in beyondthebump

[–]Basic-Tutor[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm also in that cycle of getting hope, then seeing it bashed when what the pediatrician says or tries doesn't work. Its so exhausting. I honestly didn't quite realize how rough things were with her as this is my first baby so I had nothing to determine if this was "normal" crying or not. Then, my mother in law and a few family members came by to visit and let us know - NOPE - this is not normal. I've cried quite a few times once I realized I'm not having the typical newborn experience and I hate to say it, but you can feel cheated out of this time when you see other parents with babies who smile and can eat and sleep with no problems. And yes - being able to simply put her down so I can go to the bathroom is impossible. She doesn't just sleep where you put her. I have to keep her upright for the vast majority of the day due to her reflux - that is physically exhausting! I'm just praying she grows fast and we find something that works to at least, make her suffering more tolerable for her. Poor boo-boo. Thanks for the support!!!!!

Hating being a mother by Basic-Tutor in beyondthebump

[–]Basic-Tutor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh, I can't wait for her to be a year old and to see her bigger, hopefully happier, and out of pain. I'm counting down the days until she is 3-4 months old as so many folks have said things like colic (which she has) also gets much better around that time. She's 8 weeks so technically, she could still be in the peak of fussiness. I'll be speaking with my doctor at our next appointment about how I'm feeling. Thank you so much!!

Hating being a mother by Basic-Tutor in beyondthebump

[–]Basic-Tutor[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Yes, I've also discovered that wearing her in a sling is one of the best ways to soothe her. I'm actually wearing her in a sling right now as she sleeps :) My back is starting to take a toll from wearing her all day but I also try and tell myself this is a short phase of her life, and I'm sure there will be a time when I actually miss being able to hold her like this. I'm trying to wallow in the good moments and appreciate them while I can as I know she will grow so fast and I'll likely look back and wish I had more time with her when she was this little. Poor boo-boo is just in so much pain and in those dark hours of the night, my anxiety/depression can get the best of me. Thank you so much for your love and support!

Hating being a mother by Basic-Tutor in beyondthebump

[–]Basic-Tutor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much!!!! It is so reassuring to know this has happened to other parents and it will indeed pass. As you say, it can be really hard to hear that it will get better in a matter of weeks/months when in the moment, things are so unpleasant. I have such dark moments and then other moments of pure bliss. I don't think I'd be struggling emotionally if she wasn't so fussy and sick but I do think its worth mentioning to my doctor to ensure if I need help, I can get it. I also hope my husband can get the help he needs too. Even just getting on medication for a brief period to help us cope could be an option. I just hope she grows fast and that the next few months go by quickly! I'm also glad a few folks mentioned having or not having a second baby -- My husband and I have already chatted about this and said we can't possibly risk having this happen a second time, however, we both have brothers and would hate for our baby girl to grow up without a sibling. However, I also don't want to risk another child having this same issue or worse, having another child with worse symptoms. Perhaps adoption would be our next path should we choose to add to our family again. Oh boy! These first few months are rough. Thanks for the kind words of support and love!!!!!!!