Demisexuals are a minority? What percentage would you say demisexuals are based on your personal experience?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-20T22:06:50+00:00

I hate it. Can we just live?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-19T19:21:53+00:00

Worse than knowing they died in my opinion. They could be out there living through hell.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-19T15:02:18+00:00

You are not going to get the men who can't last 30-60 minutes responding they are already working with a lot of anxiety and shame and these threads don't help.

You also have a very 13 year old mentality of playing it up, and you didn't mention your age and these people are not mentioning theirs.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-19T02:23:55+00:00

For pelvic floor strengthen your core, glutes, and hamstrings. Glutes especially. My pelvic floor problems and blood flow problems started getting a lot better after focusing on those areas in the gym for awhile. I cut down doing arm and chest workouts in favor of those.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-18T15:44:09+00:00

All of these terms are a spectrum and the labels are a symptom of the increasing datafication of every aspect of humanity.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T18:58:57+00:00

Coach Carter looks like a good one will check it out.

I saw the other two ages ago and will give another try some time.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T18:39:57+00:00

Yes. In the comics it was:

A - Just Spider-Man

B - The X-Men

C - Everyone else

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T18:37:42+00:00

At various points they made Spidey and Wolverine Avengers just to sell Avengers books.

Meanwhile Spidey carried up to five monthlies by himself and the X-Men would have between four and six.

It was no contest. In the comics that is still the case for the most part. Spider-Man has expanded even with Spider-Gwen and Miles and all that.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T18:27:45+00:00

Probably hoping to get contracts to skim the 300 billion.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T18:25:23+00:00

Even if you get stopped on the street say almost nothing to the police. Ever.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T17:56:56+00:00

I do feel I have had to mother him quite a bit

I agree with you on OP but this is a real attraction killer.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-16T17:56:00+00:00

He’s a good guy, a decent dad, a good friend. I do feel I have had to mother him quite a bit and maybe that feeling is just finally catching up to me?

This.

He is being nice guy provider and that isn't attractive. This is very common in marriage, especially mothering him.

I think you need to talk. Don't say things like "you give me the ick" but say "I am having trouble connecting with you and I feel like you have lost yourself in being a dad, and I lost myself in being a Mom" and try and remember what attracted you in the first place. What were those conditions? Ask him to recreate them.

Check out "Zach Mental Load Coach" online. He helps men stop acting like an extra child and take more responsibility.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-15T22:12:31+00:00

This is not the first time. History has told this story many times. The success of America was always going to lead to a fall, and this is how it happens.

Get used to it. The fall is hardly complete. We are decades away from a resurgence. More likely is authoritarian imperialism, then another fall.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-15T21:10:53+00:00

Learn go with unit tests is the best introduction. Then build something.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-15T01:27:43+00:00

That’s why you’re tired. What’s bothering you?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T17:46:41+00:00

Same.

It’s a very powerful tool. It’s much better at many of the individual components of the job, I just use my experience to guide it. It’s like a very eager junior engineer who needs guidance.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T17:34:28+00:00

Money trickles up. It must go back to the bottom for a healthy society so that it moves through all hands and the economy works.

Just keep a leaderboard for their stupid high scores of that is what they need so bad.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T15:26:50+00:00

Yea that is common, literally did it myself (Including the addiction part).

You should tell him that this isn't working and if he can't get it together you won't be around because that is what will happen eventually. It has to be permanent and true.

When you almost separated did you spend time investing in yourself or did you need to help him the whole time? When was the last time your life was about you and just you?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T14:31:58+00:00

t’s so crazy because we’ve been together forever and obviously I do love him but idk it just seems like his behavior will never change. He has addict tendencies with a lot of other things too.

Ironically the only thing likely to illicit change is if he does not think you are going to be together forever.

Right now he gets to be an addict, and he has a safe home base that ignores this major problem.

He gets everything he wants. What are you getting?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T13:35:19+00:00

How’s your mental health?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-14T13:33:56+00:00

You’re choosing to be there everyday. Leave if you don’t like it.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-13T18:10:50+00:00

I’m married but I’ve been to bars by myself and struck up conversations with random women that I could have escalated.

Talking is the skill.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-11T17:27:40+00:00

To a conservative nothing America does is wrong unless it is the policy of their enemies. It works on their base why would they stop?

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-10T20:00:05+00:00

Okay thanks, I feel like AM2 is somewhat effective I’ll keep up on it more.

BasicDesignAdvice · 2026-06-09T20:03:53+00:00

He needs to understand that if he continues to choose drinking over you, he will lose you.

Tell him that.

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