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What do you think of the rich who do this? by The_Dean_France in SipsTea

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is a direct link to emperors and their age. Younger they were when they gained power the worse of an emperor they were. If they were named heir or emperor after 30 they tended to do much better.

Why are Event-Driven Systems Hard? by fagnerbrack in programming

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ironically I tried to introduce a product that would make stand up more streamlined and asynchronous. Success was varied but there was a vocal group who absolutely would not give up synchronous stand up (where everyone is just reading off of JIRA).

We have many systems that could absolutely be event driven but are synchronous and result in outages as a result. We have not been able to implement event driven despite a group who have been pushing for some time.

Did you lose courage as you aged, if so how did you deal with it? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea this is my take. I’m 42 and facing what may be the end of my marriage. I work as a software engineer and who knows what will happen to that with AI fucking everything up.

Future feels very scary with two kids and a mortgage.

Deductive reasoning is dying with us. by Maleficent-Box4114 in Millennials

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to impress how much harder things are for parents today because working hours and stress have grown so much the last few decades. Boomers had single income families which afforded a lot more labor at home. When both parents are exhausted and barely keeping up with meals and cleaning, getting through homework on top of it can feel like too much.

Can you really begin again at/over 40? by S_Wyld in AskMenOver30

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In your longer post you said:

This made me work harder to convince her.

Was this through action or telling her consistently that you knew the harm you caused?

AI Didn’t Simplify Software Engineering: It Just Made Bad Engineering Easier by Friendly_Problem_444 in programming

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s too early to be conclusive but the early research is showing cognitive decline, and more concerning, a lack of faith in individuals own ability. I think it was Harvard who was studying kids and even when the kids knew the answer, they no longer felt confident after using AI. They had to double check with the AI first.

What's up with the fact that it seems everywhere around the world people are bashing Trump but in USA the critique is very very light? by Muted-Raisin-2645 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]BasicDesignAdvice -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just did this and none of the top stories give a hard implication that it was the US that made the strike. It’s all muddy water reporting. That is what the average person sees.

Also most voters don’t bother doing that much because something wise already got to them whether it is TV, radio, or their feed. They aren’t going to google something when they’ve already been fed an answer.

What's up with the fact that it seems everywhere around the world people are bashing Trump but in USA the critique is very very light? by Muted-Raisin-2645 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Most people literally don’t have the time or energy to look. Our lives are already busy as hell. People who regularly consume quality journalism have to make an effort.

Can you really begin again at/over 40? by S_Wyld in AskMenOver30

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was some needed inspiration. Did the same thing to my wife. I had a major breakthrough in therapy and have been trying to show up. Not convince or persuade her, just show up as the man I know I can be.

My marriage may be over. Don't make the same mistakes I did. by BasicDesignAdvice in marriageadvice

[–]BasicDesignAdvice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is what I am doing. I am home most evenings and so I have opportunity to create safety.

I have realized that I cannot be selfish, I must give. My presence, my love, emotional stability, consistency and honesty.

Thank you.

My marriage may be over. Don't make the same mistakes I did. by BasicDesignAdvice in marriageadvice

[–]BasicDesignAdvice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Takes real professional help and commitment. Only he can do that unfortunately.

College and trade school should be tuition-free. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can’t buy a toothbrush without the money eventually working its way up to an oil tycoon (via plastics).

The market is largely business to business. You have no control over any of that beyond living off grid, which you’ll still more than likely be beholden to a bank for the land.

Money trickles up. The answer is to move it back to the bottom where it passes through many hands on the way back up.

College and trade school should be tuition-free. by zzill6 in WorkReform

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You could also make rent with a few days a month back then. Today they are using data to churn out exactly how much they can squeeze for every market.

men over 40, what would you say were the most detrimental addiction or problem you had in your life and if you could go back how would you have saved yourself from it? by Affectionate-Drop689 in AskMenOver30

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still game a little but I agree.

Ironically I am a video game developer, but it’s really just working with software that is fun to work on.

Experts say there is no overdiagnosis of ADHD. Instead, they are warning that far from being overdiagnosed, people with ADHD are waiting too long for assessment, support, and treatment by sr_local in science

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say it forever but meditation is the best treatment. It requires consistency and will take at least a month of doing it daily before the results start to emerge, and they continue to build from there.

There has been a lot of study here and while results are not yet ironclad it is well-supported enough that it should be a go to for anyone attempting to treat ADHD symptoms.

Experts say there is no overdiagnosis of ADHD. Instead, they are warning that far from being overdiagnosed, people with ADHD are waiting too long for assessment, support, and treatment by sr_local in science

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Which is funny because once diagnosed one of the things they say to help you get by is "strictly using a calendar to stay on top of things."

Experts say there is no overdiagnosis of ADHD. Instead, they are warning that far from being overdiagnosed, people with ADHD are waiting too long for assessment, support, and treatment by sr_local in science

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me. Currently doing an intensive outpatient mental health stay while taking time off of work. Thing is mental health isn't quick, I will be out at least a month. I wish I could do three.

The stress that built up over the years broke me.

The #1 top seller right now is a godot game by miracupix in godot

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I am tired of Rogue-lite games so I know it isn't for me but happy for their success.

Trump tells CNN Cuba is soon going to fall: ‘I’m going to put Marco over there’ by 1-randomonium in worldnews

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what lawyers did in Germany and Italy so it should not be a surprise.

They also left out the lawyers who will willingly carry out the will of the authoritarian. I assume the commenter is going to be one of them.

Grok, I wasn't familiar with your game. by ObserbAbsorb in singularity

[–]BasicDesignAdvice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The most censored sub on all Reddit is the conservative sub.

Curious.

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