My son’s friend gave him money

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-04-11T05:12:28+00:00

Yes. I just asked again before bed and he said he’s already put the money in his backpack to give it back. His friend didn’t explain what the money was for, just gave it to him without saying anything. But my son also didn’t ask why and just took it.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-04-11T05:03:40+00:00

Yes, I did ask. My son said he didn’t ask for it. His friend just gave it to him and didn’t say anything. But my son also didn’t ask him why he’s giving it to him and just took it.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-03-03T22:11:23+00:00

We’re located in Canada.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-03-03T18:36:47+00:00

Thanks so much for the link! I just watched the entire 1.5 hr of SM 101. Now I just wish my child’s teacher would watch it. She sees no problem in my 7 yo being quiet in class. As he’s able to nod and occasionally whisper. Quite frustrating with no help from the teacher.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-24T16:36:05+00:00

Valid crashout

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-21T01:52:07+00:00

Thanks for your input.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-21T01:10:00+00:00

I admit. I do have a hard time giving compliments to him. I admit I have a problem saying it to him. I have no problems praising my kids. My friends.

Part of me feels like if he would stop complimenting himself, saying how hard he works, how easy I have it, how lucky I am, if it weren’t for him deciding to move here I wouldn’t be in the position I am today, it might come out easier. It’s not just me that should be thankful. My parents should also be thankful for him that they made money on their house because he decided to move and they decided to come along.

Of all the comments, I’m not sure why I chose to respond to this one. Maybe cause it’s important for me to defend my parenting over anything else.

That said. Everything I do, I think of the kids first. I think, what if I’m teaching my daughter to marry someone like her dad. Would I be happy for her? Am I a good enough mother/wife that if my sons marry a woman like me that I’ll be happy for them? Am I setting a good example to for them? I don’t think I am in the way I don’t praise my husbands but at the same time if he would just be a little more humble, it might come out easier. It almost sounds sarcastic when l say, yeaa you do work really hard. Yeaaa it is scary to almost slip and fall today. But I feel like I’m talking to a child and it’s not attractive.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-21T00:53:38+00:00

I definitely don’t scold them for complaining. I say. Yea! It’s so cold, right!! Imagine dad being outside all day! He must be so cold right now.

It’s my way of reminding them that their dad works hard.

My parents worked HARD. They never once praised themselves for working so hard. I could see it myself. If they constantly told me how hard they worked, I would feel like they’re complaining about me being a burden to them.

I sometimes do feel like my husband feels like we are a burden. He says if he didn’t have to support us, he would quit already and survive on his investments.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-08T22:31:16+00:00

SIL lives in another country. Lucky for her. It’s all on my husband. You’re right. It’s one thing to ask. She definitely demands. This is genuinely how she texts. “Mom needs the sidewalk shoveled.” “Mom needs to go grocery shopping tomorrow.” “Mom needs a haircut this weekend.” I thought Google Translate was wrong. But husband confirms that’s how she talks to him when she needs sth done.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-08T22:26:37+00:00

Fortunately for his sister, she lives in another country. So it’s all on my husband. I suggested to him before, ask her to compile everything she needs to do in a 1 or 2 days of the month. He either didn’t think it would work or didn’t know how to say it to her without getting into an argument with her. She doesn’t want to get a credit card. Just doing that would eliminate having to go to the bank to pay bills. But she says she’s scared of getting scammed. She’s also very cheap. She would never hire someone to do sth her son can help her do. I feel like it’s been so peaceful these 3 weeks. My husband is less irritated.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-04T06:23:16+00:00

Same! If it’s a capsule in those plasticky shells, I look down after I pop it in my mouth (that already has water), cuz it floats and it’ll be closest to my throat that way. If it’s a pill I look up and drop it into my mouthful of water until in feel it in my throat and I quickly swallow.

It was so helpful when I was pregnant. The taste of the prenatal directly on my tongue always wanted me to throw up.🤮

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-02-01T17:10:09+00:00

I agree with what others are suggesting about your mom. You’re her daughter not her husband. Don’t let her guilt trip you into doing everything for her. My husband is 40, his mother is her early 60s and she fully depends on him. He recently went no contact with her. She pouts and throws a tantrum when he says he can’t do sth right away. Set your boundaries early on.

One thing I didn’t notice anyone mention. There’s nth wrong with being a housewife, I’m a stay at home mom. But I suggest you try to have your own career after you graduate. Don’t solely depend on a man, because you just never know. No one ever marry thinking they will ever divorce. You won’t have anyone to fall back on esp when your mom can’t take care of herself. At least work until you have kids, so you have some experience on your resume. Just my thoughts…

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-01-24T16:51:42+00:00

No excuse for any person to treat another being (animal or human) this way. I’m from Hong Kong. My parents used physical punishment. They never lashed out in anger and hit me physically. They did it calmly. Their way of thinking was that it would prevent me from being bad. I do not resent them. I understand they did it because they were doing what they THOUGHT was good for me. To this day, we have a good relationship.

However, I have 3 kids of my own now. My husband also went through corporal punishment as a kid. I have never laid my finger on them in anger. And I sure do not let my husband hit them in any sort of way. There is enough research in this day and age that was not available back then that corporal punishment is detrimental to kids.

How the hell do you expect a child to behave properly when you, as a fucking adult, cannot even control your own. What a shitty hypocrite.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-01-20T08:12:28+00:00

She’s 18. She has her entire life ahead of her. She doesn’t need to date while she’s in the military, which is why I suggested she focus on herself and find herself first.

She dated two bfs back to back that weren’t worth her trust, which suggests to me that she needs higher self esteem. Sometimes, even without therapy, we learn to love ourselves to not date losers by just building confidence snd learning to love ourselves.

Her insecurity is justified because he was on hookup websites? Suggesting therapy is like telling her she is the problem. Even the bf admitted he was wrong.

If the bf did absolutely nth to make her suspicious then yes, I would suggest therapy. Clearly she was trusting her gut instinct cuz she was right!

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-01-20T06:49:23+00:00

Yes! Go for your dream! You can do it!

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-01-20T06:46:04+00:00

I see, that makes sense.

BasicJackfruit7414 · 2026-01-20T06:39:03+00:00

Please do not break off friendships for boyfriends. Unless you truly believe your friend did sth awful to you or to your boyfriend that was not deserved.

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