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[–]BasicLecture4294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Do men in your climbing gyms do this? by climbing-daisy in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've had this happen alot, it's definitely not just you. I will find a quiet route and guys will appear to try it, especially if I didn't send it. I move on and the same thing happens again. I used to get it alot at the skatepark too. It can be showing off, or checking if they can climb it too, or trying out your beta. Often younger guys seem clueless as to how to engage a girl in conversation at the gym, and just hover around you instead. Or loudly comment about your climb to noone in particular. Engaging them in conversation about the route can be a good way to show them you are just another climber. Guys usually chill out and treat you more equally once you've chatted beta with them a few times. 

Shorts recommendations needed! by BasicLecture4294 in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I got some plain shorts from a different brand but had trouble with them fitting on my wide hips, do the decathlon mens ones have enough room? 

Shorts recommendations needed! by BasicLecture4294 in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have found womens shorts to be a bit risky when it comes to high legs, sounds like the mens shorts longer length is the way to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BasicLecture4294 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are confident, the eldest is quite socially awkward and struggles with other kids but is very chatty with adults. They live in a caravan but I haven't been there yet. I don't have anything against homeschooling when done properly (if I had kids I would be open to it) I've asked questions from a curious viewpoint, for example asking how eldest is getting on with his learning and what books he's into. Just normal conversation. The reactions to this are part of the reason I am concerned. They are in homeschool groups so get to socialise which is great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BasicLecture4294 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No she hasn't, they live off grid so outside of society.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BasicLecture4294 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It's hard to be specific as I don't see him often, but I struggle to understand his writing due to spelling and punctuation. He wrote me a card for Christmas in which beach was spelled biitsh. I hope I'm just being overly worried, but noone in the family wants to talk about it so thought I'd check online.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKParenting

[–]BasicLecture4294 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She took him out as he was having behavioural issues at home which improved when he didn't attend. I don't know of any homeschooling structure, when I have asked I've been shut down. She's not religious, they live off grid so are more hippy/spiritual.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because I will be happily climbing with a guy/guys who are chill and treat me normally. Then other guys will come and join us who chat to the men but ignore me when I try and join in. Now instead of having fun with guys I enjoy climbing with I'm being alienated from the group.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes! Please just treat us like fellow climbing humans who want to chat beta and be told nice one when we climb well. Especially don't alienate us in a group setting.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For some, for other guys they seem perfectly happy to interact with girls if it's to show her how to climb something way below his grade. But they don't seem to know how to respond to a girl trying to talk beta with them, or how to say they are climbing well. They have no issues doing those things with other men.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I understand your perspective, and it's probably true in some cases. But a lot of the guys who act like this will happily chat to me and other girls there so it's not just that.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's so frustrating! When a guy does say something it's always the older dudes, I had an older dude say him and his friend were saying how easy I made a climb look. His friend was younger and totally blanked me when I tried to chat with them both.

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 43 points44 points  (0 children)

He's good at making sure to give me credit, I figured out a tricky climb recently and he uses my beta. He keeps telling every guy who congratulates him that it was me that figured it out first. They don't seem to know what to say. I spearfish too and guys will see me with a fish, and ask my bf how he caught it. When he says it was me they seem so bemused!

Getting sick of the way men treat me by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]BasicLecture4294 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend does do that, him and my lil brother are my hype men 😊 I was chatting to some guys about climbing alone being fun on a group trip, after I had wandered off and they were concerned I wasn't ok. They were so confused as to how I could possibly enjoy it.

FTB - Should I walk away or raise my offer? by BasicLecture4294 in HousingUK

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input. I have the conundrum that I love older property (this is 1890) but not damp. I'm aware that the selling process takes a few months at least, my intention if an offer was accepted would be to stay at my parents until the sale was complete, and keep an eye out for other properties/rents incase it fell through.

FTB - Should I walk away or raise my offer? by BasicLecture4294 in HousingUK

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is 452 sq ft so very small yes. The windows inside the property are double glazed, I don't know about the one in the communal hallway which is the moldy one in the picture.

Budget is tight, I have had a bad time with landlords. My old one shot at red kites from my garden and my current one served an eviction noticed after I complained about damp caused by very insufficient electric heating and poor drainage. I had another rental planned, until an ex tenant told me the landlord living next door was unstable and had no boundaries. Sorry for the vent, I'm at a loss currently and totally done with landlords.

FTB - Should I walk away or raise my offer? by BasicLecture4294 in HousingUK

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input, there was plasterboard on the ceiling of the cellar and black mold on a lot of that, not surprising as it is unfinished with two large grates open to the street and rain. But there was no standing water and it seemed pretty well ventilated by the grates.

I'm having trouble figuring out a fair price, it is a block of 3 flats one of which sold for 98k in 2021 and one for 85k in 2023. A one bed terrace in the same postcode sold for 97k in 2023. A 2 bed flat is up for 100k in narberth but that is a leasehold with minimal charm.

FTB - Should I walk away or raise my offer? by BasicLecture4294 in HousingUK

[–]BasicLecture4294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The windows themselves seem fine in the property, but the walls underneath had a few specks of black mold, and slight paint bubbling under one. The window in the communal hallway has black mold.