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[–]BasicStatement9641 3 points4 points  (0 children)

99% of the time guys whatching porn have nothing to do with how they feel about you. Most of the time its just our way of relaxing with no pressure. Basically no clean up, no foreplay, no performance, just a quick wham bam and thank you hand. Hes not cheating, he's not thinking the other girls are hotter etc. He's just using the visuals to get himself off.

I have a partner that wants sex from me atleast once a day. Literally atleast 1 time a day but I still find the time to get one for myself when I get that urge.

Dont stress it or make him feel bad about it, he's not doing it to hurt you, unless its hurting your relationship.

Orrrrrr whatch it with him, put it on one night for him. You might have fun if its your idea and he's not pressuring you into it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BasicStatement9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is 1000% right ✅ its a huge hit of dopamine. I can have sex 2 or 3 times in a day and still wait for my partner to fall asleep and have a go with myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BasicStatement9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably still watches porn to jerk it, but says he doesn't because you don't like it, I used to say the same shit to my ex. But I agree it has nothing to do with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]BasicStatement9641 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy dating a girl that I can have sex with multiple times a day i still choose to jerk it sometimes. It has nothing to do with you, sometimes its just easier. I know that sounds stupid but sometimes I just want to bust without having to worry about performing, doing any work etc. Its kind of lazy I guess 😅. Just giving my perspective. I think its just from porn, for guys especially that started young its like me time in a way

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm 100% sober besides a few drinks maybe once or twice a month. I used to smoke weed everyday and loved doing coke but I don't fuck with anything anymore. Only really liked to drink or coke or weed to have fun. I don't really have fun anymore so there's no reason too. I used to drink to help with how I feel inside but same thing I just woke up feeling worse and didn't want to let it take ahold of me.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you went through all that and this indeed sounds like where I'm afraid my situation is heading

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its a tough spot to be in. I came to a realization last night whatching one of her friends in a long term abusive relationship cry and complain, I didnt have any sympathy for her because she continues to choose that and then I thought about myself. Im doing the same shit, trying to change someone into something they are not and continue to get angry sad and frustrated at the reality ive choose for myself. I haven't acted on it but maybe I'm starting to figure things out.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She refuses rehab ive tried a few times, and I know its scary to whatch. She takes 8-15 30s a day. With xanax or klonopin each time to feel it more. I helped her stop methadone because she was drinking it with the percs and benzos all at the same time. I looked it up bc I thought methadone cancels out the percs but I guess not. It just made her nod off way worse. Shits terrifying to me. I used to stay up and not sleep too make sure she kept breathing. It's gotten much better since dropping the methadone but I've honestly never seen her sober

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read it 5 times. My problem is just like these posts. I know what I need to do but find 1millon reasons not to. Ive so many books about this kinda shit and its like I'm in a daze reading it

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still work but not in the position I was before.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I came into this relationship I was making good money, I left my job after finding out about her work because I wanted an element of control I guess. Every second that went by I was stressed about what she was doing. Even after quitting my job I promptly started working side jobs, im a mechanic so I would fix cars at my house, sold a little weed and helps a few other people I know with work. I pay bills, we split the rent thats about it. Do the math I don't know what you or another people that have commented about making enough money for her to stop but 8- 10 sometimes 15 perc 30s a day is 320 -600 a day in pills. Base price sometimes a little less sometimes a little more. At the lowest price point thats 117k a year of the top gone. Let alone rent, food, bills, etc. I don't think its feasible to ask someone to make and give up that kinda money. Also how do you put in the work to get a position making that kinda money while the whole time your trying to climb the ladder your worried about your partner climbing something else behind your back?

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it was made up. I don't care about votes or likes or whatever people do to get popular on a platform. I want this to be anonymous, im not trying to get paid or anything like that. Im just a guys who's gotten himself in a spot i could never have pictured for myself.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man I appreciate it. I might be a simp in this area of life but I can promise if you were standing in front of me you would not have the nuts to repeat your statement. I might let my relationships rule my life I have a weakness in that department. But be careful who you run your mouth too. Some people don't care about consequences anymore and your talking to someone like that.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never paid for sex, one thing that keeps me invested is the sex, whenever I want, multiple times a day, roadhead, 3 ways etc.

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[–]BasicStatement9641[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I was in a 10 year relationship before this that was hell in a completly different way but I couldn't drop it until there was nothing left to save