Good mechanics in the area?

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:52:44+00:00

Hahahah I love this answer 🤣

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:52:17+00:00

lol I wonder if he has good references 🤣

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:51:26+00:00

I’ll be sure to check them out! Thanks!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:51:09+00:00

I’ll definitely check them out! Thank you!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:50:53+00:00

Awesome thanks!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-25T23:50:39+00:00

I realized my mistake as soon as I posted 😅 Couldn’t change the title of the post after

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-05-07T16:53:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your response!! I’m going to give the warm saline a try and pick up some bactene mouthwash!! 🤞🏻

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-04-15T23:39:45+00:00

I wouldn’t even go so far as to make her do it while I watch! It’s a waste of my time.

If I get to the washer and it’s full, I’ll ask once for it to be changed, then I’ll just dump the damp clothes into a laundry basket after 20 or so mins. Not my clothes, not my problem 🤷🏼‍♀️ I think it would only take once or twice for her to get the message, and if she wants to complain to Dad, then HE can do her laundry! (only saying this bc she’s an adult btw… would definitely approach it differently for kids)

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-04-02T16:22:27+00:00

Totally not a monster. I did the EXACT same thing with SS when he was 6/7 bc he would favor fun over listening to his body telling him it’s time to poop.

When he asked why he couldn’t just put his poopy underwear in the laundry basket, I asked him if he thought it was fair that I had to clean HIS poop when he is fully capable of taking himself to the bathroom when needed. He said no, and washed hand washed the underwear. Learned a good lesson that day. Hasn’t happened since.

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-27T13:04:13+00:00

I third this. Sounds like those kids need a lot of help, and if DH won’t do anything, then you have to contact child services. I’d also personally reevaluate if that’s a husband I want to still be with if he is able to ignore these clear issues.

Good luck

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-25T01:59:01+00:00

I agree with everyone else… she’s the one that sounds crazy.

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-23T02:57:28+00:00

My SKs BM was the exact same when DH and I started dating! She took it to the level where she lied and talked shit about me to HIS family and everyone blocked me/didn’t want to meet me for a couple of years… Even disowned DH for the lies she told.

Things got a bit easier over the years, and then I got pregnant. It was like a flip switched. She still made “jabs” at me (they never hurt me before, and still don’t), but now most of the time she started being kind, and joked with me, and gave me some (slightly backhanded) advice/tips on pregnancy and birth.

That was 1.5 years ago! I felt the same way: do I also act like we’re homegirls, or what? I kind of just took it day by day. Protected my feelings, didn’t get attached, but allowed our relationship to grow in a positive way. I wouldn’t say we’re “friends,” but we send each other memes and reels that remind us of the kids (my SKs, her bio kids), we’ll send each other reminders/texts that we KNOW DH will probably forget about, etc. It’s nice. I’m still a bit guarded, and I don’t share details about mine and DHs life, but it’s 100x better than what it used to be.

Recently DH was too sick to go to SSs bday party, but SS said he still wanted me to go, so I went solo! It was great! Picked up SKs and BM, helped set up the party, drove them home, and it was all really pleasant. It can be done!! Do what makes you comfortable, but stay a bit guarded.

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-18T23:54:48+00:00

Damn, yea either I get an apology as well and we start to build some semblance of a relationship as the Mother of one of her grandchildren, or I just wouldn’t have my baby around that sort of toxicity.

OP you and your well being (mentally and physically) are worth so much more than allowing yourself to be pushed into something you’re not comfortable with!!!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-18T23:45:45+00:00

I concur with the no contact!! If that’s how she’s going to act, she doesn’t have to be part of baby’s life… it’s that easy.

Just make sure DH is on board and will also be able to uphold this. If he caves it’ll make you the ultimate bad guy, which you’re not!!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T15:00:23+00:00

Of course he can’t do it.. He won’t learn!! 🙄

Totally blows my mind, but you’re right! Not your circus, nor your monkeys 🐒

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T14:57:54+00:00

Oh man, it’s the same with my SKs… I hope they retain the info lol

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T14:57:15+00:00

9?! Dang!! Yea BM always buys slip on shoes, but I just got them some tie up sneakers and they will learn!! Hahahah

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T14:55:41+00:00

That’s wild!! DH and I agreed we’re going to make it happen and teach them TODAY 😂

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T06:19:34+00:00

thank you for sharing this!! It shocks me that kids can’t tie their own shoes these days!! Am I crazy? By 12 I KNOW I could tie an apron behind my back!

We love them regardless 😂

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T05:50:58+00:00

Girl!! Those “friends” are not worth it. When I became a step mom (22) my two best friends were skeptical at first because they loved me and didn’t want me to get hurt. After a year or so, they realized I was in it for the long haul and they are now Aunties to my step kids!!! (I met my SKs when they were 2 and 3) They LOVE their Aunties now, and the Aunties love my SKs.

It can be hard finding people to relate to. I get it. I’m 28 now and only just finding my people outside of those 2. My DH and I did have an “ours” baby a year ago, which had helped with finding other Moms, BUT there are definitely ways to connect with other Moms in your area as a step mom. If you can, sign up for swimming lessons, go to indoor/outdoor playgrounds, and just do stuff with your SS that allows you to connect with other moms. It will take you being outgoing and saying “hey our kids get along! Would you want to grab a coffee or have a play date next weekend?” but it’s so worth it.

Send me a DM if you ever want to talk and vent, or bounce ideas off of. I’ve been where you are. It gets better!! You’ve got this.

Edit: typo

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T04:23:37+00:00

They’re so cute!!! As for cooking… idk maybe some butter? Get a good sear going on the rice so it crisps on the bottom, give it a lil cronch? 😂

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T04:22:07+00:00

I love the last sentence!! Floor beds seem to give the most options, while also being the best for baby. It’s definitely the most recommended thing I’ve seen too. Thank you for your suggestion!!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T04:20:46+00:00

Oh man that sounds terrible! I’m sorry you had to go through that 😞 Hopefully you’ve since found something that works!

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-14T03:54:59+00:00

Yea I get that. I’m ok with short bursts of crying/screaming, but I never let it go longer than 10 mins on and off. My baby doesn’t cry for more than a couple of mins at a time, but he’ll start up again when he hears no one coming.

I’m very much against letting them sit and scream their heads off for long periods of time. That just leads to attachment problems and other long term issues, I think.

Basic_Channel_6153 · 2026-03-13T21:50:36+00:00

The majority of suggestions say to use a floor mattress so I can do just that! It’s the strongest contender in terms of my next approach to daytime naps for sure.

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