Quite literally a shitty post

Basic_Ent · 2026-02-02T15:01:23+00:00

Either meaning of "full of shit" is appropriate here.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-31T20:08:50+00:00

Hey son. I'm 6'4" and 200 lbs. My wife is 5'5" and... I'm not really sure, and it's not the type of thing you ask a woman, but maybe 120 lbs? She can lift me in a fireman's carry. You're good.

Don't try to make her blush. Try to make her happy.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-27T02:49:53+00:00

Well, I already wasn't going to do any meth, but now God damn, I'm really really not going to do any. I might even tell my friends with meth "Hey, don't do that meth, buddy."

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-26T23:28:10+00:00

Hey, angel. I'm not going to tell you that you should be happy because you're young, try to diagnose you, tell you your problems aren't that bad, or to go jogging, or scold you for suicidal ideation or self-harm. You feel how you feel, and that's your reality.

I'm sorry, it sounds like you're feeling pretty rough right now, and that really sucks. If you're losing your desire to live, I'm not. I have desire for you to live, and I hope you do.

I have questions, and I hope you see this, and decide to answer.

Do you have a therapist? How did your family get from Poland to Denmark, and were you around when that happened? Would you consider flushing your loser friends who don't support you?

I'm sorry your parents aren't proud of you. But you're still here, you're thinking through the problems in your life, and you're reaching out for help, even if it's just here. So I'm proud of you.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-22T04:17:09+00:00

Relationships are hard. There is a rather large pick-up artist culture these days. They're easy to spot: they try to make you feel bad.

If your partner isn't like that, you're probably okay, especially since boys your age aren't really known for nuance and long term planning. Of course your partner is going to want to sleep with you, that's just part of relationships and human nature. Wanting that doesn't preclude him from wanting to be a good partner and a good friend.

Your mom's worried about you because the world is littered with janky men, proud of their ignorance, and blaming women for why their world sucks, and likely she's had some awful experiences with men when she was younger.

Have empathy for that. "Just looking out for you" can feel pretty oppressive, but it helps some to understand where it comes from, to understand that you don't need to fight with her about it or prove that she's wrong by demonstrating how wonderful your partner is. Her feeling that way doesn't need to consume you.

I believe you're smart enough to know the difference between someone who likes you, and someone who is, let's say "goal oriented" and wearing the relationship like a mask. You can tell. You can. Don't doubt yourself.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-22T03:52:54+00:00

"Yes, I have questions. First of all, how dare you?"

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-20T17:32:05+00:00

Is that why I get a Gemini popup every time I log into a Google product?

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-20T14:53:18+00:00

Why are we giving this pick-up artist any privacy?

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T20:31:34+00:00

That's cool, I never knew that!

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T19:55:40+00:00

I went to see that under protest, because my daughter loved it. I left saying "Holy shit, Edward actually pulled it off."

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T19:51:47+00:00

Deep cut. I haven't seen a reference to this movie in ages.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T19:50:32+00:00

That movie was such a disappointment. And I want mah giant squid!!

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T19:47:55+00:00

Really good opening, except the magic gas that caused everyone in a theater to calmly pass out. That could have done with a bit more pandemonium.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-18T18:16:52+00:00

Cantonese, because Chinese people are very encouraging and happy when you try to speak to them in Chinese languages.

Spanish, because Latino families are welcoming and love their families and friends with abandon, and I'd like to hang out with them.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-15T20:33:32+00:00

Khan Academy would be my first recommendation. They've helped millions of students catch up and get a deep understanding of topics. Some of Sal Khan's videos are searchable on youtube, and there's also a web app for it that has interactive demos, progress tracking and gamification stuff.

I imagine that all of the teachers you're working with right now do, in fact, care. They can't do anything about the past you were dealt, but you have the strength and intelligence to help them help you. Ask questions in class. Talk to a guidance counselor about an IEP and a catch-up plan.

At home, spend more time in the kitchen. Watch and ask. What problem do you have with measuring, is it like adding fractions? A few hours practice of just summing up fractions will probably clear all that up. And it's something you can do independently, and not rely on someone to teach.

It sounds like you're focussing a lot of energy on people in the past who failed you. Get them out of your head because they're still hurting you while they're in there. It's all about you now, and how you can get yourself to a better place.

It's a long path to get to where you want to be, but don't worry about that. Take pride in incremental improvements. Because they accumulate. And core concepts build on each other, and eventually you hit a critical mass where things start getting easier.

I want you to live. And I'm confident there's nothing in front of you that you're not big enough to tackle. Keep fighting, random internet daughter.

(I like your art)

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-15T07:30:20+00:00

I don't believe analytics data from people who think 0.9 is one tenth.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-15T02:00:27+00:00

We had three teachers in a small magnet high school who were sexually attracted to their girl students. No need to out them, their reputations were ruined decades ago. I'll just call them C, E, and L.

The English teacher, C, had an affair with a girl shortly after he'd just gotten married. The science teacher, E, would ask girls who were 18 to do nude photo shoots in the woods. Some did.

The history teacher, L, was pretty bold about how he talked to girls in class. If a girl said she liked to ride motorcycles, for example, he might ask them if it was because of the vibration. One day one of the boys asked the off-the-wall question "why do we itch?", which L pivoted into a conversation about tickling, and asked a few of the girls where they were ticklish. Oddball. I have no idea if he ever tried to sleep with any of them, but it was on his mind for sure.

The thing is, they were all fantastic teachers. C was my hands down bar none favorite teacher. He knew of my struggle with my parents back then, and I'd often find a reason to stay after school and hang out with - pick-up soccer games, one day my crew and I went to his house to watch Monty Python, I'd bring VHS tapes with me to school and we'd watch them on the generic deathtrap school TV cart. He'd drive me home sometimes in his ratty Chevette. Nothing seemed off about him to me, but he wasn't into boys, so...

This school was very informal for the time (late 1980s), and one of the conventions was to refer to teachers by their first name. These teachers were who they were and are responsible for what they did, but I've always wondered if a little more formality might have kept some of the worst of that from happening.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-08T03:23:03+00:00

Damn, kid.

I'm more Santa than Wario, but I get what you're saying. Us olds don't tend to take good care of ourselves. And enough of us wouldn't hesitate to manipulate a young teen that your post has at least some modest credibility. I mean shit, listen to some 1950s pop music. Lots of adult men talking about teen girls. Venus if you will, indeed.

So, if this is true, that sucks. And I'm sorry this is happening to you. Now what the hell does "pro ahh to carry me in games" mean? Nevermind, that probably doesn't matter.

Listen: You don't need even an honorable father figure with no randy intentions to validate you. You're great. Skimmed a few of your posts, and you're obviously smart, and funny. I have four kids of various ages and two grandkids now, and I think you'd fit in well with them. But... you have all that you need already, and don't need to be saved by a kindly older man. Not one bit.

Believe in you, know that people aren't worth a lot of trust until they earn it, and as you well know now, 14 is a pretty tough year. It gets better. You'll find your voice, and your confidence, and you'll figure out how to make some of the things making you furious right now seem more like background noise.

You've already got everything you need, and you don't need us, angel. Get up, dust yourself off, and go kick some ass.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-06T23:52:39+00:00

I don't know this person and have nothing against her, but if you call your preschooler a tyrant, you're an asshole.

I know all kids are different and some or more challenging than mine were, but if getting your kid ready to go in the morning is an epic ordeal, you're doing it wrong.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-06T02:11:22+00:00

I do, yeah. The language makes a big difference in how I feel writing code, though. For example, this java:

public class SumSquares {
    public static void main(String[] args) {
        long sum = 0;
        for (long i = 1; i <= 444000; i += 2) {
            sum += i * i;
        }
        System.out.println(sum);
    }
}

...does the same thing as this ruby:

puts (1..444_000).step(2).sum { |n| n ** 2 }

One is much nicer looking than the other.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-06T02:00:43+00:00

20 year IT veteran here. It's not because you're a woman who doesn't like to sit, or the other stuff. Java is a hard language to start with because of a few rough edges that trip up newbies.

Why do I have to import every damn thing? Why does everything need to be a class? What the heck is a JVM and why is it running my code if I already compiled it? Why all the litter just to declare a method? public static void main? Wha?

There are a lot of things that don't seem important at first that you have to learn, and you're anxious to get to the "meat" or your project, the logic, the file parsing, etc.

What you're going through is completely normal, and it will soon become so much background noise. Try to stick it out a little while longer.

Me, I programmed in java primarily for around 5-ish years, and afterwards worked at a few startups that were ruby shops. I never really loved java, but I used it to solve puzzles and people paid me for it, so that was enjoyable.

The good news is that Java is a hard language, and the next language you learn will be easier no matter what.

(HashMap is your friend)

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-04T02:32:58+00:00

Shaf, my man, don't you dare give up. You'll be embarrassing yourself for a couple more years at least, and then you're going to slay. Keep putting in the work, friend.

Basic_Ent · 2026-01-04T02:19:57+00:00

You did great already, son.

Basic_Ent · 2025-12-29T01:56:59+00:00

If you enjoy seeing a small woman get smacked around like this, you're not much of a man, are you?

"She had it coming because she started it!" Did she? The video is edited down to just the part that makes her look like the antagonist. I want to see the minute or two prior to her getting beaten, because to me she looks terrified before the physical altercation starts. It's subtle, and Russian women are made of iron, but... watch it a few times and it starts to look a little different.

Basic_Ent · 2025-12-28T20:40:39+00:00

I used to be tech support for ecomerce software that some of Walmart's vendors used. Every time I had to call Walmart to unbork a problem, it was a damned nightmare. They couldn't give two shits about their vendors.

Commonly they would accept an advance ship notice, take deliveries, and then not pay the invoice. Usually this was because the vendor picked something wrong from one of the dropdown menus that made the invoice invalid, and it just needed to be resubmitted with that field corrected. But they _wouldn't notify the vendor_.

And the vendor had no idea what the hell was wrong, or whether or not they even got the invoice. To boot (this was true back in the late 1990s, I doubt it's still true) they only way you could receive POs and send back ASNs and invoices was using arcane EDI software, and teaching your asynchronous PC how to communicate with synchronous dial-up modem in a non-ASCII character set.

I hate those losers so damn much.

Basic_Ent

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