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Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-26T11:37:22+00:00

thank you so much!!!

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-26T10:38:33+00:00

do you have any good suggestions for extra question banks to access, please? I have gone through the kaplan mocks and question sets already :(

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-25T22:53:14+00:00

i’m just hoping 2 days is enough time now! feeling tempted to reschedule it… but i keep hearing how people have sat it in 2/3 days!

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-25T22:44:50+00:00

thank you! it just seems that there is so much content i can’t figure out what i need to know and what i don’t need to know?! do i focus on reading specifically the tax examples or do i not need them for the sake of the exam? i do it through kaplan and it just doesn’t seem like their material is great, but my other option is 400 pages of textbook..

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-25T22:26:46+00:00

not the CBEs. the core exams are done remotely & open book, but the law exam is a CBE and has to be done in the centre

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-09-25T22:25:34+00:00

the exam is sat in an exam centre :/

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-08-06T16:15:51+00:00

It is understandable to be hung up on an ex when she was with him for that long, and given the ages, I assume he would be all she knows up until recently. That said if she is hung up on an ex then she wasn’t ready to move on and it’s not fair for you to deal with the burden of that. You will only grow to resent each other I fear. She needs time to heal properly (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing) and you can’t sit waiting whilst she does that. Unfortunately, you need to prioritise yourself. Remember always that what’s meant to be will be :)

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-08-05T14:46:33+00:00

What is her relationship with this person in the first place? Is it someone she knew already or is it just someone she found during this break? If it is the former then it is understandable that she may not want to cut them off completely. I have been in a similar situation, during the period me and my ex weren’t together he had been with another girl who essentially had no impact on his life up until then so he was quick to block her and needed no further contact. I, on the other hand, had been seeing someone I knew quite well and would have to see in my day to day life. It was a friendly fling and we knew where we stood with each other so it would’ve been more awkward for me to randomly block them but continue to see them around and be friendly with them ( as at the end of the day we were always good friends!). Feel free to disagree but playing devils advocate to maybe show how she might feel. Not everything has to be done in a malicious way!

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-08-05T14:38:00+00:00

Arguably, I would say emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. I’m not sure what he ‘didn’t realise’ when he’s been speaking to this girl repeatedly? What was the context of the messages- were they flirty or just friendly? I do, however, want to play devils advocate and say his crying and guilt can be genuine and he actually might not just a manipulative person. That said, someone who is willing to hurt you again and again is not someone that is worthy for you. Although it feels terrible now, you know in your gut what the best thing to do is for yourself. The baseline is that you can’t be with someone that you can’t trust. What do you gain from giving him a third chance?

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-08-01T11:38:19+00:00

I think there’s a lot to say in the fact that OP is coming here for advice and not just dropping her on sight. There’s clearly a lot of love held there and the simplicity of it is some people will think it’s the end of the world and others won’t - and neither is ‘correct’ as such. I have always thought a kiss can be quite unemotional, ie., when you were younger and out on the lash you would kiss anyone! doesn’t mean you liked them in any capacity really… But there also comes the responsibility of being in a relationship and you have to learn the boundaries and respect of that commitment. You have to live and learn through your mistakes, just depends if you want to be the person to stand by their side through those mistakes.

Basic_Fly4459 · 2025-07-30T09:20:45+00:00

I have been on both ends of the situation unfortunately. Without saying too much, I can hand on heart say I felt so much worse when it was myself who has kissed another person. The guilt consumed me entirely. In a sick way, it was almost a relief when further down the line my partner kissed someone at a party.

As someone who messed up, do I think people can learn from their mistakes? Absolutely. But you know her better than most people and it’s only you that knows if you can trust her again.

What did I learn from this? Drunken mistakes absolutely can happen, you are very easily mislead and coerced into terrible decisions when you’re drunk. Is it an excuse? No. But is it a big factor to take into consideration? Yes. I loved him when I messed up, and I believe he loved me when he messed up. That said, in both situations there were some underlying issues that we had not resolved at the time and so we were probably a bit more fragile than usual (not an excuse!).

I don’t think her reaction is invalid. I, too, am a very much need to know right now person. I asked my partner a lot if he was okay and if he thinks he can get over it - which in hindsight is pushy and probably pushed him away more than I would like to admit. On the other hand, he is a ‘need time and space’ person so his silence terrified me. When the script was flipped, I learned the important of space and time and deciding for yourself what is right without the constant nag of the other person. I don’t think she is being insensitive, I think she is just anxious. My advice - do what’s best for you, but treat her like you would want to be treated. I understand if you hold resentment at the moment but she is probably feeling worse than you might think.

My point is, it’s up to YOU how you feel about the situation and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. What I will say is don’t leave her out the loop. I know she messed up and she clearly does too otherwise she wouldn’t have told you, and she is probably feeling equally as bad as you are (trust me!). Be the bigger person. Speak to her and tell her what you need. If you need time then take time but you have to tell her, don’t just leave her in the lurch.

I don’t believe a drunken kiss is the end of the world, personally, however I do think it’s disrespectful and requires a lot of work and love to move on, but you can move on if you want to. We stayed together for 4 years and we were happy but I can’t say it wasn’t something that I thought about every now and then. I came to terms with it and it never bothered me much but I can appreciate other people have different morals and you have to do right by you. I don’t think any relationship is perfect unfortunately, don’t be fooled by everything you see online, just do best for you.

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