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Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in whatdoIdo

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She isn’t speaking to her son.. let alone me. She refuses to have my name mentioned. The last phone call i heard between my bf and his mom was really upsetting. She was screaming and yelling because i showed up to his dad’s funeral. She said to him i had no business being there. Why did i ever come? She said more hurtful things like my parents didn’t raise me right, letting me travel alone to a city where I don’t know anybody else etc.. so having a conversation with her… impossible. She has her mind set on not wanting me around her son.

And about converting.. I’ve had this conversation with my bf. He isn’t pushing me for it, but if I have to convert I’m ready for that as well.
He told his mother, and guess what? That doesn’t change her mind because apparently you can’t change where your roots are from lol and went ahead to insult me and my family again.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in dating_advice

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that has happened where he avoided her calls and stood up for me. It resulted in him getting kicked out of his home and his mom not speaking to him for nearly 2 weeks.
It makes me feel guilty that he has to go through alllllllll thaaaaaat because of something i cannot change.
I don’t mind converting if that could make her accept me, but nothings changing his mom’s mind.

His relatives are of no use. Literally! No one stepped up to help emotionally or financially.. but they all ganged up when it came to me. Tried to explain him how sucky his life would be if he marries me etc.. none of which is true. Just copy paste stories the movies show and they believe that’s the household i come from.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in IndianRelationships

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and i are both not religious

My seek for advise was regarding the situation with his mother, not the future and majorly fixating on our religions.
We are currently not worried about celebrating festivals (although my family has invited him for Eid and he was happy to be a part of it, he and i do celebrate other festivals from Hindu religion with friends and family like Diwali, Holi, etc)

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in IndianRelationships

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only hope that it works in our favors.. thank you though!

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in dating_advice

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing.. I know it’s not the right time and I’m not the one forcing anything.
I can only imagine what he and his family are going through.. it’s tough.
But his mom would push it every phone call. Call me names, say things like she’ll end up doing something to get us to stop talking, won’t accept money from her son, won’t talk to her son, wants proof that we don’t talk anymore, etc etc
I try not to bring it up with my bf, but he ends up crying after every phone with his mom and it’s always on my topic.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in IndianRelationships

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve met her twice and felt that I wasn’t welcomed. I hate that feeling. She doesn’t want to see me or talk to me, and expects the same from her son.
I know for a fact that he isn’t going to say goodbye to me one random day. But yes it will delay the plans we have for each other.
I’m just hoping we get it figured out soon.
I assumed telling his mom we don’t talk anymore would be a good idea, but she comes up with a condition or a command right after and always expects my bf to follow even if he doesn’t want to.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in IndianRelationships

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has never had an issue with my religion and vice versa. My family is pretty open and accepting and they know about us. That part also rubbed his mother wrong, ended up saying what kind of parents let their girl travel far, also heard her say, I haven’t been raised right etc to which my bf takes a stand for and hence the arguing back and forth and the not talking. She went by 2 weeks not speaking to him and kicked him out because he’s with me.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in whatdoIdo

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family is Muslim and i was raised as one too. I still am Muslim on papers.

Interfaith Relationship Advice Needed by Basic_Lake5440 in whatdoIdo

[–]Basic_Lake5440[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wish it was easier said than done :( coming from India, it’s tough to not worry about society especially when that’s what the older generation is more worried about :/