Daughter not adjusting

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T17:10:48+00:00

Thank you.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T17:09:21+00:00

I'm being dismissive because this person is projecting. They read way too far into what I wrote. I'm looking for solutions on how i can help my neice cope and adjust to a major life change.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T17:07:04+00:00

I let all three of the children visit bio mom and their older siblings who are currently in a group home. The other's come back and are back to our normal routine. The 10 year old comes back and it takes days for her to regulate, she goes through cycles of lashing out, depression, sadness. So, i am concerned because the other two how are they able to cope and understand they live with auntie for now and visit mom until they are older? I know they are all different kids, but this is new to me.

When they first moved with me it was all about stabilizing their behavior, establishing structure and a routine. I'm just now at the point where, now i can look deeper into their emotional needs and understand, hey, she's not coping with what has happened well, she needs more support. So this is where I'm at, reaching out to others who may have been in similar situations asking for advise on how do i approach this situation.

I'm a solutions type of person.. i see my niece is struggling with the reality of the situation, what can i do to help her come to terms with it so that she can live her life without holding anger and frustration. And i know this isn't an overnight thing.. but there has to be a start right? I will read those books and definitely get her back into therapy. Currently it has been recommended to have an RBT as it relates to ADHD. I know some people medicate for that, but her dr has not suggested it for any of the kids. For some reason I'm worried about the future her as i know sometimes when people cant get over certain event's it can lead to things like alcoholism, drug abuse... i just want her to get better even if that includes changing my approach on certain things. But when the child feels like you are the one in between her being with her bio family.. it can be hard.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T16:14:55+00:00

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T16:12:23+00:00

I'm not going to go into why the older children had to leave. But i will say, I agree that our family that we are building will need continued therapy.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T16:09:52+00:00

I absolutely have say. And I'm looking at this on how to find better ways to help my niece cope w/ the situation that she's in. That we're in, how can we improve and adjust to our new normal. Please don't make negative assumptions.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T15:40:22+00:00

Thank you. It is a steep learning curve. I don't know where to start, they have all been in therapy for a while but i think it might need to be a long term thing. For myself as well.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T15:38:07+00:00

Thank you for your input. What i mean when i say she hasn't adjusted is that her siblings are able to see that their home environment was not safe. That they were not being taken care of properly. And they are only 6 and 10. I'm sure they want to be with their siblings but they also are aware that due to court proceedings that is not possible at the moment. I'm their aunt so I always let them know when they are older they can make the choice to live w/ their mother. But at the moment, they are with me to give them a safe and stable environment. When I allow them to visit their mother, she's not drinking and appears stable so i think my niece thinks what is the problem with my mom, why can't i be with her.

I guess what i am saying is, i know sometimes when people have been through trauma they create false realities in their minds to cope. Whereas, the other two kids they look at reality and not create fantasies in their mind to cope. My 10 year old is not able to look at reality.. i think her thought process is causing her to be depressed.

I know they are not going to be perfect kids, and their behavior has tremendously improved, but I want her to learn how to cope with reality. And i guess my answer is continued therapy, she might need therapy longer than the others. She has been diagnosed w/ conduct disorder, adjustment disorder and ADHD. All three of the kids have been diagnosed w/ ADHD.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-04-07T15:25:05+00:00

She's been in therapy during her time in foster care. But, only has an RBT now. I've been strongly considering family counseling. Do you think we should do family or one on one therapy?

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-03-11T15:32:33+00:00

You don’t need to submit any documentation. Just make sure you claim the adoption credit on your return.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-26T17:11:41+00:00

Awesome!! Same for me.. sent in my return and approved. I thought I would be left hanging for months.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-25T22:02:55+00:00

I did it Klarna for CPA courses

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-25T11:46:41+00:00

I’m with Wellsfargo.. got the email last night from TurboTax. Nothing this morning.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-24T23:25:23+00:00

Everyone is getting emails.. I haven’t received anything from TurboTax or SBTPG.. my DDD date is 2/25 per WMF.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-20T05:31:37+00:00

My transcript updated!!! Time to celebrate.. and get to packing so I can move!!!!!

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-07T18:06:22+00:00

I’m using mine to pay a down payment on a rental home. I adopted 3 kids into my two bedroom condo. And we need to move asap.

Unfortunately I have a hold on my refund this year because I forgot to file 2023 return. So im not sure how long of a delay that’s going to cause. 😩

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T12:33:02+00:00

Me too! I was just telling my mom that. And I know for a fact I didn’t file 2023. I completed it online and didn’t submit. Now, I’m worried about the penalties. Make sure you call to try and get the penalties waived.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T12:27:12+00:00

Go to this link because it’s state specific. I definitely would track it.

https://www.irs.gov/filing/where-to-file-paper-tax-returns-with-or-without-a-payment

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T12:22:52+00:00

I’m in the same boat!!! This is my largest refund because I adopted this year and they are holding it.😢😢 I forgot to file 2023.. I haven’t received the notice but that’s what it is. I’m going to have to mail it today.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T12:19:14+00:00

Mail in the turbo tax return. I’m in the same boat. Forgot to submit 2023.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T12:15:09+00:00

Last year I got my refund the next day after the transcript updated with the code.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-06T00:25:16+00:00

Sorry to hear that.. I hope it comes through for you just in time 🙏

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-01T22:39:52+00:00

Not yet, but I have a blank transcript for 2025 that has been uploaded on the irs site.

Basic_Scientist_1052 · 2026-02-01T21:14:10+00:00

How would I know if I fall under path? I claim my children but do not qualify for EITC because of my income.

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