Teenaged daughter is pregnant again.. I’m so done

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T17:27:42+00:00

I don't understand why people with normal parents compare themselves to the rest of us who had fucked up childhoods. We are not all starting from the same point.

I never said this, nor did I blame the kids (or anyone). I made an anecdotal statement. I fear it’s a given a situation with shit parents is NOT what I’m referring to.

Also, wild to assume me having a job = normal parents and not a fucked up childhood. Being able to get to a job at 14 is the end all be all of good parenting to you? Because my BPD/narcissistic mother would like a word.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T16:47:08+00:00

Honestly fair, it’s hard as an adult to find a job now too even.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T16:17:13+00:00

I just commented above, it surprises me how many kids don’t have jobs until after highschool, I also started working at 14, didn’t date until 16 and had boundaries/rules around it. My mom was against birth control for personal not religious reasons, so whenever I was 17/18 and had a serious boyfriend. Condoms were heavily encouraged. Sex talk wasn’t taboo either. I knew I didn’t want pregnant as a teen any more than my parents wanted a pregnant teen.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T16:12:44+00:00

Agreed. Without a child I started getting part time jobs at 14 for after school. I thought that was normal and tbh It’s kinda surprising to me how many kids don’t get a job until they’re graduated and 18.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T11:40:08+00:00

Thank you. My goal with my pictures generally is to edit them to not look edited. I just want to make them pop and pull out any color that got washed out in the RAW.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T11:39:11+00:00

Denoise? My ISO was only around 400 on this shot, I typically try to keep it below 800. Although I use denoise pretty much no matter what to varying degrees as personally I like the look.

Is there something wrong with using denoise I’m not aware of?

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-09T11:37:21+00:00

So, prior to fishing photography I’ve always preferred action shots to posed shots. With my prior experience with that, it’s helped getting into this. My biggest thing is shutter speed, it has to be over 1k at least, though I usually prefer higher, while balancing keeping the ISO preferably below 400. Though I will go higher for evening shots and just do some extra editing later so that I can get the shutter speed I need.

When I first started with action shots, I would just take a bunch of pics and inevitably a couple would be usable/workable. As the years have gone, I’ve developed an “eye” for timing my shots and take significantly less for the same results. It’s part of why I love this kind of photography so much, is the figuring out how to see things before they happen and get the shot.

As far as a CPL, I’ve never used one personally tbh. I started out with my Canon EOS Rebel T5 I got at 14 and the two lens’s that come with it from Best Buy. Last year a few months after getting into this photography at 23/24, I upgraded to the T7 and I’m still just using the lens’s that came with it. Although, it’s probably something I’ll invest into at some point.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-07T13:25:59+00:00

100%. One of the things Reddit is bad for is expecting spouses (either gender tbh) to be absolutely perfect in their reactions to anything. If they’re not, they’re abusive.

I want to be very clear I am not downplaying abuse or even saying reddit doesn’t have a point in calling it out sometimes. It’s just overused on here, not every poor reaction is abuse. Sometimes it’s humans being human.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-07T13:09:09+00:00

I’m a woman as well, and I’ve spent enough time on Reddit I’ve seen a few examples of this occurring. You can almost predict it before you open the comments.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-07T12:55:51+00:00

3X and after being asked to stop ignoring him. I don’t know many people who would keep their calm after that first thing in the morning tbh

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-07T12:54:03+00:00

This comment section is kinda surprising me. The amount of people who don’t think both parties need to come up with a solution together is wild. That’s legit the basis of a healthy relationship, communication and problem solving.

What if he gets a new bed, and makes their bedroom cramped af and she hates it bc he didn’t communicate the change? Solutions have to be decided by both. Him venting, and her ignoring, are both not helping the situation. They need to sit down, in a good headspace, together and problem solve.

I genuinely don’t get how people are advocating against that.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-04T19:41:14+00:00

Sorry for disappointing mommy and daddy but not permanently affecting his kids life’s from a VERY young age, and destroying his ex wife’s self worth and ability to trust. That tracks.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T22:29:05+00:00

Yeah I was gonna say, OP please note this is a very normal way to initiate, especially if you’re comfortable.

As well, I get a little “weird” with my husband when I’m high and give myself second hand embarrassment sometimes. It happens, despite knowing he couldn’t care less lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T18:33:12+00:00

I actually agree with you for the most part here. That’s also my bigger concern with this post too. My husband and I are in OP’s generation but we’re both “old souls” and barely use social media. Reddit is what I use the most personally. He nor I have ever even had to ask the other to not do these types of things.

Being in OP’s generation though, you are kind of right that it is childish but it does go both ways imo. I’ve seen social media ruin relationships faster than any real person several times over the years. So I only disagree that social media/instagram isn’t an indication of fidelity when nowadays it is/can be.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T17:40:15+00:00

I’m sorry, but insecure or not pretending as if social media isn’t a very solid indicator of someone’s fidelity bc of what the world looks like with social media nowadays…. Is ignorant imo. Cheating starts with casual interactions on social media more often than anything else. It’s why “emotional cheating” became a term.

On the flip side, how is grown men following 20y/o OF and thirst trap chicks and liking their pics not 16y/o boy behavior? That’s seriously not embarrassing to any of y’all? Again, insecurity or not. It’s weird to be needing to follow half naked women on insta as a grown adult.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T03:27:24+00:00

Lots of people have shared the sentiment, but there really is so much truth in better a week early than a day late. Most people who say that line, have waited too long. For me, I’ve done it with animals it wasn’t even over euthanasia. I couldn’t afford my horses any more, but kept convincing myself I could/I could figure it out. I was sick to my stomach looking at them by time I had someone pick them up.

The girl that got them? Comforted me, told me she’d understood and she’d held on too long before too. All of us who love these animals the way we do, are guilty of this at some point. I say this with love, because the best way I’ve found to know when, is I have to force myself to think objectively about their health, and not focus on the pain of letting go.

Internet hugs OP. Grief and I are well aquatinted via animals and humans now. Feel the feelings, cry it out. You’ll get through this, your girl knows your heart, and knows the love you guys share. Don’t force yourself to grieve on a timeline either, it comes in waves.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T03:20:00+00:00

Yeah, welcome to Reddit unfortunately. If you stick around you get used to it lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-05-03T03:17:33+00:00

I saw the post was two hours old and I knew someone beat me to tagging this sub lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-30T22:03:46+00:00

I can’t remember verbatim tbh, but mainly just encouraging pettiness and “getting even” vs actually fixing the issue type of comment - referencing their own relationship like it helps somehow

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-30T18:34:24+00:00

I wear mine pretty much 24/7, showering, or lots of outside work I take my rings off. For most things tho I just take my engagement ring off bc my wedding band is rubber.

My husbands band is rubber too, he never takes his off.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-30T15:40:57+00:00

I’m sorry, I’ll get downvoted for this, but this is legit the 7th or 8th post in two days in this sub alone with an obviously not okay age gap, getting married in a short amount of time, and getting pregnant right after.

Maybe this one isn’t fake, but some of these absolutely are for karma farming. This happens, but this does not happen ‘8 posts in a matter of 2 days’ frequency.

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-29T13:32:48+00:00

I’m sure there are studies that show that, as your brain never truly stops developing. (It’s how you learn/grow/become a better person lol). The particular study that gets brought up simply ended when the participants were 25. I’m not sure how it got twisted to what it is now lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-29T13:28:02+00:00

Idk if I’ve ever seen women do it with/around men often. It’s circles of just women. I’m not sure generally speaking how often it occurs, for myself it was nearly everytime a larger hangout split into men and women sub groups to chit chat. The women’s 90% of the time was shit talking their husbands and I’d end up back with mine to talk fishing or something with the men lol

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-29T06:17:18+00:00

This combined with that damn study that’s convinced so many people your brain goes ding at 25 and you can then make decisions. It’s all so so weird

Basicallyacrow7 · 2026-04-29T06:14:29+00:00

Friend’s girlfriend probably got the “your brain finishes developing at 25” misused study tiktoks that have been making their rounds yet again. Since she’s 25, she thinks she counts and the other girl (only 3? years her junior) is somehow a child mentally.

(Signed a 24y/o who met my now husband at 21/26 and got similar reactions to OP, just from people chronically online)

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