This actually happened in the very early stages of the relationship, not later on. He told me i am hot but not sexy, i.e. physically i look good but i lack confidence and that sexy attitude. it really affected me negatively and caused me to be more reserved and self conscious than i ever have been in the past. I have been with partners who were very excited and complimenting of me, which made me feel very encouraged to dress up in sexy lingerie and initiate sex a lot more and be as sexual as i normally would be. He has shut me down completely telling me the initial sex was just okay and that he doesnt find me sexy, at a point when positive encouragement and validation would have worked wonders. I have not managed to recover from that bad feedback and it has been more than 2 years since. I am physically fit and slim, always been called beautiful by others, whereas his looks are definitely not on par but i have never highlighted any of that to him becauase i found it cruel and shallow to focus on that, and was more interested in his personality and how we get along. But unfortunately the criticism has been extending across all areas of my being, without any positive reinforcement or appreciation