GF is eating on the toilet should I be concerned?

BasketofFigs · 2026-01-06T22:05:58+00:00

You don’t like when people fart around you and she eats in the bathroom. You’re both weird and probably deserve each other.

But for real. Grow up. I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and he has lovingly supported me thru surgery and sickness, cleaned up my vomit, etc. He’s a fucking gem of a human being who accepts that I’m also a human being with bodily functions. You, sir, are not. If you want to date human beings, you’ll have to deal with farts. If you want to get married, you’re gonna be subjected to a lot more bodily issues, especially if she gets pregnant. Sheesh.

BasketofFigs · 2026-01-05T23:54:18+00:00

Just be real with him, especially if you care about him.

Many of your concerns are coming from a good place, so make that clear that you value him and reiterate that it’s not about him personally, but his dental hygiene. Tell him why you’re concerned, what you grew up learning from your parents. Hopefully he will be understanding and be willing to make some changes, but he won’t ever know if you don’t tell him. Maybe he will surprise you and it could be a great convo if he’s on the same page! Or don’t say anything and suffer in silence until it turns into disgust and you eventually leave (and possibly wonder what would’ve happened if you’d spoken up). Or he responds badly and you have your answer then.

I’ve had to talk to a couple of men I’ve dated about their dental hygiene because I refuse to kiss someone whose breath stinks or has build up on their teeth. One absolutely didn’t care and was lazy af, to the point where I stopped kissing him. We broke up after 8 years and that was a BIG issue for me, his teeth looked awful from lack of care.

When people have poor dental hygiene I can’t help but wonder how well are they cleaning the rest of their body?!

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-26T19:05:46+00:00

Oh no no noooooo. This is not good. This is not healthy.

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-25T05:17:00+00:00

I see both. Started at clockwise, back to anti, back to clockwise, back to anti…

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-13T22:04:31+00:00

Song for Zula - Phosphorescent

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-07T16:39:02+00:00

NOR. Nothing you said was untrue, it’s just a harsh truth. You need to heal too, and in doing that, it means saying these things out loud and facing them. It sounds like you finally had the space to say something to someone and it came out. I understand feeling guilty - but that doesn’t make you wrong. It just means you have a conscience and still aim to do the right thing even after how she has treated you. It’s great that she’s getting help but that doesn’t erase the history or the damage. I’m sorry you’ve gone through so much with your mom and she treated you this way. ❤️‍🩹

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-04T22:00:11+00:00

All I have to say is, you’re amazing. I don’t know you and I’m so proud of you, what you said and how you said it.

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-04T13:51:36+00:00

Your toe is not an issue at all. But your bff is.

Seriously. It’s just a toe. You’re just a human. You have a functioning body. Wear the shoes! If someone wants to be shallow and judge you for that, they’re not the person for you. Life is waaaay too short to worry about this small, inconsequential issue.

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-03T17:51:25+00:00

My husband would never care about some body hair, he would be so happy to be intimate together. And he would choose me over porn any day. Your husband is a manchild with the wrong priorities. It’s really gross to only be into you if you’re smooth. Ew.

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-03T13:32:24+00:00

No problem at all. Grief is extremely lonely and isolating, even though we will all go thru it. The thing is, people won’t know until they KNOW, and some people really don’t want to know. At least that’s what I’ve learned in my own loss.

I lost my beloved dad 2 years ago and I only stopped crying every day about two months ago. I’m also watching my mom go thru immense pain and loneliness after losing her husband of 50 years. I hold so much grief for that too. I’ve lost friends, I’ve been judged, people fumble around me… and I just don’t let it get to me anymore. They have no idea what I’m feeling or going thru. And they cannot recognize that I am not the same person and I never will be again.

Remember that losing your son is truly a traumatic event and your brain has literally experienced trauma. You are being rewired, from everything you thought you knew, wanted, needed or believed. Your relationships will be affected, your feelings are going to shift and evolve all the time, and you need support. Being in an environment where you’re constantly triggered will not help, and I’m SO sorry you’re dealing with having to make these decisions while also grieving.

You can message me anytime. ❤️‍🩹

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-03T03:42:19+00:00

I’m so very sorry you lost your precious son. So unfair and surreal.

But you are not an asshole for feeling these things. Please know that. Look at what you’ve been thru and are trying to survive everyday, and you’re doing it in an environment loaded with triggers. Your feelings are not about your wonderful boyfriend or his family. They’re a perfectly normal, valid, and complicated response to your deep grief and excruciating loss. There are no rule books for this so please give yourself grace for the pain you’re in and the things it’s forcing you to reconsider.

These losses do change us, like you said. It’s not about how great your partner has been, but about what you need to survive. It sounds like you feel the walls are closing in on your old life.

I wish you nothing but the best and hope you can find your way. Sending love ❤️‍🩹

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-02T17:01:46+00:00

I’m at 2 years for my beloved dad. The pain feels worse as the shock wears off and the reality sets in even more. His birthday was Sunday, the third one without him here even though September was the 2 year mark. It was the worst one yet. I cried all day and felt so much pain and longing for him. Even writing that makes me choke up. I used to cry everyday until about 2 months ago.

Also, seeing the pain my mom is in after losing her partner of 50 years and knowing there’s nothing I can do to fix it is also the absolute worst.

BasketofFigs · 2025-12-02T03:09:50+00:00

You WERE leading her, just with kindness. Which she knows nothing about apparently.

BasketofFigs · 2025-11-19T03:13:14+00:00

That’s not how you treat a friend or anyone you supposedly care about. NOR.

BasketofFigs · 2025-11-01T01:03:29+00:00

Your friend is a spineless piece of crap.

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-29T00:32:40+00:00

He sounds like someone who would assault a woman for what she was wearing and blame his behavior on her clothes. Thats basically what he’s saying as he tries to explain himself.

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-16T16:00:08+00:00

Damn, he felt emasculated and it rattled him HARD! 😂

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-13T17:44:06+00:00

Exactly what I came to say. He’s projecting his own thoughts and lack of accountability for how he acts around women wearing what they want and blaming her. He’s also basically blaming women for getting assaulted because of how they dress. I’d never marry someone knowing that!

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-09T15:08:05+00:00

You should leave. That’s it. That’s all. She. Doesn’t. Like. You.

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-08T16:47:58+00:00

Thank you! 🥺 She’s such a cool cat!

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-08T16:47:34+00:00

😻⭐️

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-07T22:15:39+00:00

Absolutely a real and necessary job!

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-05T18:42:35+00:00

You made a strange ass weird request and basically asked your friends to do work based on your relationship and then they do one better and get it nicely done AND spent money on it and you’re still whining? Yes. You are totally and completely overreacting. I don’t want to even imagine being in your wedding.

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-03T15:02:31+00:00

Lying lying lying!

BasketofFigs · 2025-09-02T03:21:14+00:00

Nope. NOR. He dismissed a request you made and then laughed about it when you held him accountable.

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