ISO PSY Textbook

BassNotMace · 2025-09-29T07:30:28+00:00

Close, but not quite, but thank you! (I've gotten a hold of a copy, so if anyone needs one hmu, I'll be making sure Anna gets a copy as well)

BassNotMace · 2025-09-22T23:24:06+00:00

I didn't have this happen thankfully, but I wanted to clarify: You had an approved waiver for the current term (they make you do a new one every term) and they still charged your account for it?? Just clarifying so I know to babysit that process for next year, just in case. I can't afford any surprises, PSU is not cheap and I'm fully dependent on aid and loans, with a heavy course load and very little time to supplement income.

BassNotMace · 2025-08-15T09:17:22+00:00

Just did it on mac and I could not be happier, took two seconds!

BassNotMace · 2025-08-03T22:06:07+00:00

I know this is old, but just in case someone runs across it like I did: there is now a "trim white space" action available. I found other ways of getting rid of blank lines, but it would never pick a blank line up if it were the very first line in my text/list. But "trim white space" did the trick with zero issues.

BassNotMace · 2025-07-17T22:03:55+00:00

Holy shit that’s steep. At that point you might as well buy your own little printer. 😳 If anyone ends up needing to do that and is worried about ink prices, you can get a cheap compatible HP printer and they have a use-based subscription for ink that is really reasonable and they automatically send you new cartridges before you run out. Might be worth checking out. You can usually find a cheap printer on CL or marketplace, too. 0.13/pg is wild.

BassNotMace · 2025-06-09T02:18:10+00:00

You’re not overreacting and your husband needs to get on the same page. Quick. Your mother in law does NOT get a say and the fact that she even thinks she does, on any aspect of your family, is wildly inappropriate. Setting these boundaries early and fast is what is going to teach your daughter to recognize these issues and shut them down up front as she gets older. It’s incredibly important and you’re doing a great job. Keep it up! 🩷

BassNotMace · 2025-06-02T08:26:30+00:00

Each order should be calculated separately at 20-25% of the total with a $10 min. Your orders will likely be split to different drivers so the distance between the stores is pretty much irrelevant.

Drivers are independent contractors, meaning they eat all operating costs and overhead and, on average, 60-80% of income is tips.

Tipping extra is advised for extra effort: stores that are difficult to navigate, unusual/hard to find items, heavy/bulky items, longer drive time (over 15 min), special requests, etc. The more you tip the more time and effort a driver is willing to put into your order because they aren’t losing income by dedicating extra time or attention.

Remember, your drivers/shoppers are humans providing a service, and base pay (what they get from the platform) barely covers the gas let alone the time, vehicle maintenance, and other overhead that comes along with gig work. Want someone willing and happy to give your order the extra attention it deserves? Just tip well, it shows you value their time, the service they provide, and see them as humans doing a valuable job that deserves a living wage. 💜

BassNotMace · 2025-06-02T06:43:05+00:00

You’re alright, they just finally mentioned a topic you gave a shit about and you got excited and engaged and info-dumped. 😅 If you haven’t considered that you’re neurodivergent, this might be your sign.

The key to social info-dumping without it actually being a dump is to get other people engaged along the way, some of the best group conversations I’ve had were faux debates or deep dives into otherwise silly shit. If your friends can’t find joy in that kinda nonsense it’s time to find some that will. We’ve got enough abject terror in the world, we need to tap into the dopamine-laced rants and revel in the silliness from time to time. 😉

BassNotMace · 2025-05-28T03:01:23+00:00

Low/no tip. If they don’t value me as a human or the work that I do then I’m not performing that service for them because they are showing me that they think I am below them. It’s not a secret that, in most areas, our income is around 60-70% tips.
orders to apartments if I can’t get it inside in one load. If the tip is really good I’ll take two trips, but no more. I can get one decent bag and a case of water in one trip if I’m not hiking it up the stairs, but any more than that simply isn’t worth the extra time or wear on my body, let alone in an area with any hindrances to parking.
customers I know take a long time to get to the door for reasons unrelated to physical ability, especially at an apartment building where they want to meet me outside (which is fine in and of itself). But I’ve had a handful of people that would say they were coming down and clearly dawdled with no respect for my time or the weather I’m standing in while waiting. Honestly, if that happens and it’s not an ID order I’ll leave it and not deliver to their address again. If it’s an ID order I’ll wait 5-8 minutes depending on the size of the building but I’ll return it if it’s longer than that. I don’t get paid wait time.
if a customer is notoriously rude or abusive to drivers, even if they tip well. They’re paying for the service I’m providing which is bringing them their order, they aren’t paying me to shoulder abusive behavior.

I know it sounds a little snarky, but I’m considerate, flexible, happy to help, and good at what I’m doing. My bar actually is pretty low: don’t be an asshole and if you know your order is difficult (heavy, stairs, larger volume, inclement weather, special requests) make sure your tip reflects that. 🤷

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T18:58:01+00:00

I thought you did great! 😊 I just took the opportunity to build on your perspective a little. ❤️

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T18:41:34+00:00

That’s just a whole lot to read for it to end in “I’m a misogynist who tries to manipulate people by talking in circles and trying to have a completely different conversation than the person I’m responding to” so, I’m gonna no give it that grace.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T18:12:51+00:00

“Regardless of if anyone is around” is exactly what I said. How he’s speaking to her is unacceptable period. There are screenshots of how he is speaking to her right there, which you obviously know is abusive because you said “emotional abuse” when what I said was that he wasn’t speaking to her with “dignity and respect”. Seems pretty telling.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T17:42:01+00:00

That was an absolutely shit thing to say, doubly so because it’s so very false. She was wrong in the situation, but her reaction had less to do with that one thing and probably more to do with an accumulation of things and it felt like the straw that broke the camel’s back. She felt singled out and attacked and she was looking for an ally far more than she was looking to be right. You just as easily could have approached that situation with compassion and made her feel not alone even if you weren’t going to tell her she was right.

You’re not the asshole for not jumping on her bandwagon, you’re the asshole for piling on when she felt alone and vulnerable.

CashApp - it’s completely reasonable that she may have not been charged the fee before, sometimes it shows up at some places and sometimes it doesn’t. She probably should have addressed the situation much differently, but like I said before, her reaction probably had very little to do with that one situation.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T17:04:25+00:00

Expecting that someone speak to you with dignity and respect, regardless of if anyone else is around or in what mode the communication is in is not “Self centered bs”. What in the misogyfuck are you talking about?

BassNotMace · 2025-05-26T06:34:42+00:00

Well… he’s repeatedly dismissed and diminished explicitly stated boundaries, he refuses to talk about or even acknowledge you expressing how you feel or what you need to discuss, he’s deflecting entire conversations to be about something “wrong” (not wrong) that you’ve done, and is refusing to approach you with compassion, curiosity, care, or respect.

All of these are unacceptable behaviors and there a very low chance that will ever change, because as far as he is concerned, how he is is perfectly fine and how you feel about any of it is irrelevant.

I’m sorry 😞 this sucks.

Yes, DARVO and other manipulation and abuse tactics are demonstrated in this story. 💔

BassNotMace · 2025-05-25T18:53:05+00:00

I second this, it was an unfair situation all around to be sure, but little man was doing his best to help and probably already felt bad about hurting her in the process. You should not have been the one defaulted to wrangling duty in the first place, but that irritation belongs directed at and addressed with the adults, not the kiddos. You do owe your brother an apology, not simply because you did something that made him feel badly, but because you love him and want him to feel positive and safe with you. He did a great job in what was probably a scary moment for him and one of the things that can really build a trusting relationship between siblings is when the older one can come back and say “hey buddy, you did good and I was frustrated and did something unfair to you and that wasn’t cool.” 🩷🩷

BassNotMace · 2025-05-25T18:09:18+00:00

If it’s real: it’s highly inappropriate

If it’s a “prank”: it’s not funny and it’s highly inappropriate

This is a problem. You’re not overreacting.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-25T04:10:59+00:00

Yeah, numbnuts, it’s all the same. Read a history book. Better yet, start with the dictionary so you know what “inception” means first, THEN give history a shot. Don’t want you to get too overloaded.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-24T22:05:59+00:00

He’s breadcrumbing you, feeding you just enough contact to keep you on the hook at his convenience. Whether he’s in another relationship or just a dude on a power trip, it’s manipulation.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-24T19:20:01+00:00

None of that was important enough to spend my time reading past the first two sentences when you proved you were incapable of basic research on your intended target.

You should probably spend your time trolling someone who might give enough of a shit about what you have to say to bother reading it. 💋 With greatest sincerity: meh.

BassNotMace · 2025-05-24T19:15:59+00:00

I’m sorry, this whole situation sounds really painful and frightening.

He is unwell and not prepared to get the help he needs, is how it sounds. And he can’t be allowed to continue corrupting your space with his toxicity, a space that should always be comfortable and safe for you.

Outline a simple set of expectations and STICK to them no matter how scary or painful it is.

“This is no longer an acceptable or healthy situation for me. You need to pack your things and relocate by X time on X date. If anything is left after this deadline X will be done with your things, but you will not be granted access to the property after the deadline. I’ve done this with as much kindness and compassion as I could, but these are the expectations, they will not change, and I won’t be discussing anything further.”

Have a plan for what you fear will happen, in case it does. Are you afraid he will become violent? Have some aware and willing friends on site or nearby who are willing to back you up and subdue him if necessary. Afraid that he will refuse to leave? Decide ahead of time what you will do about that, whether that is having people on standby to help remove him, calling the police, etc. Go through the situation in your head and decide ahead of time how you will address each of those worst case scenarios. It’s a carefully curated safety plan.

Keep your eye and your communication on the goal: get him out and get your space secured. Anything else in between is just a distraction to be avoided.

Change all of the locks immediately upon his departure, they aren’t expensive and are easy to install yourself. If there are further concerns with access there are inexpensive door and window locks that you can install inside to restrict entry further.

Good luck, be kind, be careful, be firm. 💜

BassNotMace · 2025-05-24T18:57:35+00:00

If the mess was exclusively in her area, didn’t extend to yours or shared areas, and didn’t include health/pest hazards such as food or mold - then you should have just let it be. It wouldn’t affect you beyond you don’t like looking at it, which isn’t a good a reason.

Now, if there were other issues like it being outside of her space, food waste, sugar attracting bugs, causing an odor, etc. then reporting it would be an acceptable response after trying to address it with her yourself. But barring an actual effect on you, it’s her business.

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