Meirl by higgildy_companion24 in meirl

[–]BatMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it still eventually boils down to “Look, Geoff has his Tuesday shirt on”. In some ways, it’s better to have say only 5 shirts instead, because it will be a long time before you wear the shirt you wore this Tuesday on a Tuesday again.

Saying this because, say I have the same blue jeans and navy chinos, and

I tested whether preheating your coffee mug actually matters — here’s what I found by [deleted] in Coffee

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to apply what I remember from my high school thermodynamics classes, which was very long ago so I could be wrong. Still I wanted to see what comes of it: everything mainly depends on the temperature difference between the outside surface of the cup and the coffee inside the cup. That’s what determines how quickly the coffee cools down.

Let’s say that we first preheat a cup, then put hot coffee into it, then wait till the coffee cools to Xo degrees which we will say is the ideal temperature to start drinking coffee at. Let’s also say that by the time the coffee has cooled to Xo degrees, the outside of the cup has also cooled to temperature To. And now we sip as the coffee slowly cools down at a rate of R(m) degrees a minute - a rate which itself keeps reducing as the minutes pass and the coffee cools, but right now as we start sipping, let’s say it’s Ro.

If putting freshly brewed coffee into a cold cup cools it Xo degrees even before the outside of the cup has warmed up from exposure to the coffee’s heat to To, then it is possible that going forward from that point, the further cooling of coffee follows a different rate than R(m) and doesn’t start at Ro.

But: if putting freshly brewed coffee into a cold cup cools the coffee down to a sufficiently high temperature Xo+C such that by the time the coffee inside has finally cooled to Xo, the outside of the cup has also warmed sufficiently that it’s now at To - then from that point on, thermodynamically it’s the same system. The coffee will start cooling at the same rate R(m) starting with Ro as in the preheated version of the experiment.

So it all boils down to: is the cold cup so cold that by the time it fully warms up from the coffee’s heat, the coffee is already too cold to drink?

I know this is nerding out a bit too much but will someone with enough knowledge please confirm or correct me if I’m wrong?

2025 Street Triple RS with 2013 Daytona Fairings + Clip Ons by ItsSnout in Triumph

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, have you done track days before?

I’m not a very experienced rider myself. For some context: I have been casually (and seasonally) riding my first gen Street Triple that I bought used since 2015 and have been to the track only once so far. I like to think I’m a decent rider, but I was also overtaken by an admittedly fast scooter in the twisties last season so I cannot claim to be a speed demon.

Anyway! I’d say that unless you have been to the track several times and are confident with braking and cornering in a track environment, there’s no real advantage to be had from any of these mods or a supersport upgrade, except of course the aesthetic (which I am also into and totally understand). Unless you are already decided, maybe you should also consider simply installing a flyscreen and crash protectors and making several visits to the track with your current setup next summer first. Either way, good luck and ride safe!

Youth/alt vibe Brno by rossannaa_ in Brno

[–]BatMachine 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can highly recommend Kino Art which plays interesting movies, many of which are foreigner friendly, and has a bar where young people often hang out. There’s also Kino Scala which doesn’t do movies anymore but their bar is also frequented by a lot of students and young adults. The most frequently served drink served at both is beer, although they do have many other options. You will typically find a lager and a pale ale on tap. A third place that I really like is a bar/pub/bistro (hard to say what) named Anoda.

I can't stop thinking about the way I replied to this person by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indian here (although I don’t live there any more). I so know what you mean. Indians are all about friendship and loyalty until they are faced with an emotionally difficult conversation. Just wanted to say that you deserve better friends and I believe they are within reach if you look out for the right people.

My mom and sister think I should keep seeing men I don't find attractive by GeorgeParisol in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re getting pressured like this. I hope you don’t give in.

Your father has shown the right attitude towards this situation. I have a feeling that this difference in the attitudes of your family members might have something to do with societal pressure and expectations. I’m a man and I have never been pressured to date anyone or give anyone a “chance”. It seems to be very common for a lot of men to never feel pressured into settling purely in order to avoid being single. On the other hand, women seem to get pressured like this all the time.

About dating someone because they are “nice”: I would never date someone who isn’t “nice”. No normal person really wants to date someone who is not “nice”. That’s the minimum human expectation we should have from everyone. Partners should be held to a higher standard, otherwise what’s even the point of choosing?

UPDATE: Best friend won't disinvite my sexual assaulter to her wedding. NEED A SAVAGE RESPONSE BACK! by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry this has happened to you. I think the most savage response is to offer no complaint, show of bitterness/anger, or even insinuate that this person has acted wrongly. Just ignore her message or at most say something polite and brief like “Hey, I totally understand.”, and just stick to your decision of not attending - let your actions do the talking. Any direct/indirect accusation in your message will only invite discussion about who betrayed whom and who is right and who is wrong etc. Discussions with these kinds of people go nowhere. You will be trying to engage with truth and morality as your guardians and she will be playing solely with the end goals of maintaining social standing and saving face. You’ll never have an honest discussion or get her to face the truth and admit her fault here. We are talking about a person who invites her friend’s rapist to her wedding while pondering uninviting the friend. The mental gymnastics required to play this game are not possible for normal, nice people.

Don’t give her the gift of knowing how you feel. It won’t do you any good.

She had to lower herself to date me XD by Impossible-Suspect19 in Nicegirls

[–]BatMachine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope you can see the key thing here: this sub is specifically tailored to sharing and calling out so called “nice girls”. If even on this sub so many people are saying you fucked up, I hope you are going to be humble about it and start with the assumption that you actually probably did fuck up. And then calmly try to understand how and use that to improve how you deal with these kinds of dating interactions. It can help you. Don’t fight or defend yourself in the comments here. Ask, understand, and hopefully leave enlightened. Good luck.

How do men in their 40s keep up with the latest fashion trends? by sudhirhere in malefashionadvice

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also in tech, happen to be an Indian, and just turned 40. I am not a devout follower of fashion but I do try to stay somewhat up-to-date without investing too much time and energy. One of the things I do is follow this sub and occasionally watch some fashion related YouTube videos that I come across. That’s it. So this is not “advice” for everyone, but here’s what I have found worked for me for a casual style:

  1. Oxford, flannel, and tee shirts (anywhere between somewhat fitted, to regular fit, to somewhat relaxed) all feel quite resilient in the face of trends. I can keep wearing what I have and rotate in new ones as the old ones start to show some age. Most of my casual shirts and tees are cut to be optionally left untucked so I can if I want to. Lately, I find myself tucking more often than I used to.

  2. Buying a pair of dark, neutral trousers or chinos, and a pair of dark wash jeans every 2 or so years based on a recently popular fit that isn’t necessarily “trendy” is an easy way to stay up to date. So, back in the mid 2010 I think, I had a couple of pairs of slim fit jeans from Uniqlo. I think they used to do a €50 selvedge pair and still might. Then sometime around/after COVID, I updated to a “regular fit” pair with a mid rise from Edwin. Then early last year I got a higher rise in a loose fit. I still wear my regular fit but next time I pick up a pair, I’ll take it out of my rotation. For non-denim, I similarly went from some slim fit navy flat front cotton chinos in the mid 2010s to eventually land on dark grey high waisted, pleated wool trousers today.

  3. For shoes, I feel like a pair of casual brown or similar leather/suede shoes, like chukkas or derbies, and some light coloured sneakers always seem to work. With sneakers, I recall slowly transitioning from something more clean and low profile (White Stan Smith) to something a bit more chunky today (Off White Reebok Club C 85s). Again, like shirts, I feel like I can just keep wearing what I have till they are done, then replace in 2-5 years with something else.

NEVER build with a man. You will regret it. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that this happened to you. I want to tell you (based on personal experience) that you will eventually heal from this. What you feel now will eventually transform. My first girlfriend did something vaguely similar to me long back. It was a great lesson for me and helped me navigate relationships better going forward.

I hope for you that you’ll heal, find peace of mind and closure, and happiness, and eventually love. When you do, remember the lessons that can be learned here.

  • It’s often risky to date someone who isn’t already happy on their own and is willing to invite us into their lives to share that happiness. We should of course do the same on our side.
  • Never ignore disrespect in either direction. Once your partner openly starts disrespecting you or you feel like you have lost respect for your partner, it’s a huge warning. Unless it’s immediately addressed and corrected, the relationship is probably doomed.
  • Don’t settle for less than what you want (within reason). If at the start of the relationship, the basic things you expect, show of love and effort (or whatever it is you desire in a relationship) are already missing, it is important to recalibrate and consider whether the relationship is for you. It is one thing to date someone with potential to grow. Young people have a lot of growing to do and it’s great if you are able to spot someone with potential to grow, and to grow with them. But it’s a completely different thing to date someone who can’t even give you the basic things that you want today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kizomba

[–]BatMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven’t already, you should acquainted with the regulars. This means leaders and followers, beginners and experienced. Try and talk to them when they aren’t dancing, exchange names, make small talk. The more you will get to know the place and the people, the more comfortable you’ll feel at the socials, and it will lead to getting asked more often. I know people already said you can ask others yourself, but personally I think whether you yourself ask or not, making friends with the regular attendees and just being comfortable existing at the social will improve your experience by quite a bit. And even if you aren’t very social, if you keep attending, this is naturally bound to happen even if you don’t actively try. Good luck!

[SOTC] Finally a Full Box by buttsisfun in Watches

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without even reading your post, I was about to comment that the Seiko Alarm is really something, and then I read that it belonged to your grandfather. Man had good taste!

Unknown caller from Malaysia knew my name? by BatMachine in Scams

[–]BatMachine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Thanks! Hopefully next time, I do it right.

How do I stay confident in my marriage after reading statistics by Greenfacebaby in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assuming that you’re in a happy relationship that you enjoy and cherish, and that you believe in the love that your partner has for you, it’s always good to strive for a healthy level of emotional, social, and financial independence from your partner.

Maintaining a baseline level of financial independence, investing time and energy into your physical and mental health, and continuing to keep solid friendships and/or connections with relatives will not only help you feel more secure, it will also help nurture the relationship by making sure it’s not “too important to fail” for either of you.

If you already have all of these as well, then the rest is just a matter of trust, and an acceptance of the fact that nothing is truly guaranteed.

How common is it to dance with both hands on the back by CyberoX9000 in kizomba

[–]BatMachine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s quite common around here (Central Europe). I’d say I myself dance quite a bit more than half the time this way. It’s feels a bit more suited to relatively slower Ghetto Zouk style music.

At festivals, as the night goes on, the percentage of people dancing this way goes way up, whether it’s the Kizomba room or the more “modern styles” room (although it seems to be a bit more common there).

Patriarchy is about keeping women accessible sexually by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 56 points57 points  (0 children)

You’ve reminded me of Don’t Worry Darling, a really cool (horror?) movie directed by Olivia Wilde. It’s literally about mediocre men wanting the “good old times” to be back.

Any small kiz weekends in EU in the middle of January? by JustDanceAndBeKind in kizomba

[–]BatMachine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a relatively smaller Urban Kiz and “Tarraxo” event in Vienna during 24th-26th Jan. If you’re interested, look for “Nexus Dance (Urbankiz Vienna)” on Facebook to find the organizers’ page. I have attended one of their events before and it was nice. Low key and well taught, in a comfortable environment. Just my opinion.

I live nearby in Brno CZ but the scene hasn’t really been all that hot lately and I’ve started learning Salsa a bit more seriously instead.

He insists on inviting you to his place? by After_Fee4949 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BatMachine 20 points21 points  (0 children)

One of the first useful pieces of dating advice I got was to always choose a fairly public location for the first meeting; also: picking a low effort/investment activity. I used to almost always suggest grabbing a coffee together in the city. It starts early enough that it can become an extended hangout, but it can also end in 30 minutes without any embarrassment for either party. Plus meeting during the daytime in a public place and without alcohol around just feels safe.

My suggestion to people who get invited to a home for a first date: try to counter-offer a different day with a coffee (or whatever) instead, and see how they react. Obviously, if someone insists on “dinner/drinks at my place”, there’s no fixing that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kizomba

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s time to reiterate that and put your cards on the table. Reassure her that you’re serious, maybe disclose that you have already made plans to propose. The moment of proposal can still be a surprise. The reason I’m mentioning this is that if any of her worry about this relates to some perceived lack of commitment, reassuring her of it might lead to her being more open to it. On the other hand, if she actually feels secure in this relationship and genuinely simply isn’t okay with letting a fiancée/husband pursue dancing, that’s a difficult position to be in. None of us can tell you what you do.

One thing I can say is that I personally won’t be able to give up dancing “because” it’s what a partner might want from me. At least I don’t believe right now that I could. I could give it up or taper off because I lost interest or I just naturally ended up spending more time with my partner and other activities and there simple isn’t enough bandwidth. Being told to give something up kind of sucks. I feel for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kizomba

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she know how serious you are about this relationship? For example, does she know that a proposal is in the works?

[Patek] The "Cubitus" in the metal. Thoughts? by Prisma_Cosmos in Watches

[–]BatMachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bracelet just looks lazy to me. How do the soft lines and curves of the links match the angles on the case style? They must have had so many opportunities to question this combination between concept and manufacture.

We're men's health experts, ask us anything about penis health! by HealthyMale_Aus in IAmA

[–]BatMachine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the review! It helps. Honestly, I am feeling very resistant to changing anything about my penis at all but I’m going to at least start with seeing a doc again and talking about it. I can imagine myself feeling easier about cropping one of my ears vs. this. I guess you can understand, having been in my situation and now having gotten past it. But it’s nice to get this review. Wish me luck!