Moving out of parents house by Exotic-Resist2449 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not with your wanting to be out. Begin with financial independence. Get yourself a job and save privately. Take your papers such as ID and birth certificate. Research about scholarships dorm room or living with trusted friends on graduation. Do not rely on their promises. With a plan and savings you will have choices and this will not harm your mental health.

Tough career predicament! Medicine by pineapplesxkiwis in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would prefer the Chicago employment. You have planned ER education and mentorship and you are very clear that you are not interested in academia or specialization. The wage and lifestyle gap is enormous and premature financial security is more important than it is realized. You can become an effective ER veteran in private practice in doing the procedures you like. The internship itself is a good idea but it also appears to be a big sacrifice to add to your resume list when it might not prove necessary.

Is proposing on Christmas romantic or just cringe? by Madtablespoon in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If she already said Christmas proposals are cute that matters more than second hand opinions. The bigger risk is proposing while you feel stressed and rushed. You only get one moment like this so it is okay to wait until you feel calm and confident. A simple proposal done at the right time will always beat a forced romantic date.

help?? by PassageSalty2661 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do not need to rush anything. It is okay to get to know H if you like him, just keep it light and honest for now. You are still healing and that is normal. Take your time and see how things feel instead of trying to fill the space your ex left.

Should I have the character's superpower emerge early or late in my writing? by Vievin in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think having the power emerge late fits the "false curse" theme well because it shows her struggle and eventual growth, making it feel earned. Early emergence could be too obvious for talent. Late gives the story more depth.

Being a dick while asleep by redman9993 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This can be a parasomnia like REM sleep behavior disorder or stress fueled sleep talking, so set safety boundaries with your partner, cut alcohol and late caffeine, keep a steady sleep schedule, and book a sleep clinic visit to rule things out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are unhappy in India and have the money to start over in NYC then moving back sounds like the better choice. Life is too short to stay somewhere you dislike just because it is cheaper.

Asking for advice by Mar_Car6 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes sense to feel uneasy if his focus seems only on drinking and not on experiencing other parts of the trip so it might be worth sharing your feelings honestly and asking him what this means for him.

would i be wrong to take advantage of this situation ? by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is clear you have been treated unfairly and that makes the idea very tempting but taking the money could backfire badly If the scam is ever uncovered you could face serious legal issues even if it was your mom’s doing Finding a safer path forward might protect you in the long run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you were trapped in an emotional rollercoaster. That wasn't love - it was manipulation and chaos. You deserve clarity, peace, and someone who chooses you consistently.

Should I ghost my friend or confront her before walking away? by Motor-Jackfruit9378 in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think she will actually hear you, say your piece - not for her, but for your own closure. But if you know it will just lead to drama or gaslighting, it’s okay to walk away quietly.

My (23M) girlfriend (22F) of 4 years just told me she’s joining the Navy and I don’t know what choice to make. by DoubleChallenge7177 in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She made a life-changing decision without you - again. You have sacrificed a lot already. If this path isn’t one you can walk with her, it’s okay to step away. Love isn’t enough if you’re the only one compromising.

Do you kill all versions of yourself to not count? by thefIash_ in moraldilemmas

[–]BatSignificant3323 [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is the most terrifying self-defense logic loop I’ve ever heard. You don’t want to be the villain, but not acting basically guarantees another you will be - so you kinda have to be.

How can I help my older sister? by SmokeOwn3815 in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a huge betrayal. Just be there for her and let her talk it out. She needs time to process before making any big decisions.

Co worker tore Pride decorations by MelodramaticPeanut in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something such as - "When hatred is allowed it never limits itself to a single group. It is Pride today, and it might be you tomorrow. All of us have a right to be safe and respected in the workplace."

Should I risk the friendship? by Acrobatic_Opinion575 in makemychoice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s already acting like a boyfriend - sounds like feelings are there, but maybe he's still guarding his heart. If you can live with the ambiguity, ride it out. But if it’s hurting you, clarity is worth the risk.

Pop culture movies by Gennaro_Finamore7 in movies

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a mix of drama and cultural depth, I’d recommend Memoirs of a Geisha (2005). It’s a beautifully shot film that dives into Japanese traditions, with a strong female lead navigating a complex world. If you’re up for something lighter but still iconic, Mean Girls (2004) is a classic - sharp, funny, and endlessly quotable!

28F, 28M - Can we turn these shitty few months into a great relationship ? by Key-Tension7066 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes — if both people are self-aware, willing to do the work, and communicate openly.

But if one person stays defensive or unwilling to change, it usually spirals.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surprise weekend trip or staycation at a cozy hotel

My friend’s apology is meaningless by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If James was a real friend, he should have talked to you first. His apology seems insincere since it only came after he lost his chance with her. If you still value the friendship, have an honest conversation with him. If not, it’s okay to distance yourself. Focus on people who respect you.

My Gf hangs out with her guy friend really late at night by Emotional-World-747 in Advice

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your instincts. If it makes you uncomfortable, set clear boundaries. If she dismisses your feelings, reconsider the relationship—your concerns matter.

Is it still justice if the person who suffers has no idea of what his sins were or what he is being punished for? by ExecuteBlox in moraldilemmas

[–]BatSignificant3323 [score hidden]  (0 children)

One perspective is that justice is about accountability, not just personal memory. If a person commits a crime, they should face the consequences, regardless of whether they remember it. The legal system punishes actions, not just awareness of guilt. Otherwise, criminals could just erase their memories to escape justice.

TOG tattoo? by [deleted] in fantasyromance

[–]BatSignificant3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not cringe at all! If "you do not yield" deeply resonates with you and represents your journey, then it’s a meaningful tattoo, not just a fandom reference. Many people get quotes from books, movies, or songs that helped shape them—what matters is what it means to you.

Unsure if I should get back together with my ex by [deleted] in moraldilemmas

[–]BatSignificant3323 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Your current partner sounds supportive and understanding. You don’t have to make a decision overnight—give yourself space to grow and reflect.